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Question on blind sexuality... (self.Blind)
submitted 8y ago by atheistboner
Sorry if this comes across as ignorant but simply put, do those who at totally blind from birth have a sexual preference or is it literally "I love this person male or female I will still love them."
Obviously there would be the top/bottom preference but is there a gender preference?
I would assume someone who could/did see would have a visual type of bias but what if you don't see?
Obviously there would be the top/bottom preference but is there a gender preference?
I would assume someone who could/did see would have a visual type of bias but what if you don't see?
fastfinge 5 points
Vocal bias. 99% of the time you can identify gender by voice. It is also easily identified by other signs like skin texture, size and shape of hands, and so on. That's not even getting into socially constructed gender markers like hair length, smell, type of clothing, etc. The fact that I can't see, and never could, doesn't make gender any less obvious or important to me than it otherwise would be.
atheistboner [OP] 1 points
So is there still a bias towards or away from physical fitness? Like do you care if the person is fit or tubby? I am just trying to understand what sexuality would be like if you are blind. For me looks (is he young, hung and twinky) is what physically turn me on and then I fall in love with the personality. How would it be for someone who can't really see?
fastfinge 2 points
As with people who can see, that depends on the person. Once again, it's pretty easy to tell someone's physical fitness without seeing them. There are all kinds of subconscious clues that can add up to an overall impression of how fit someone is: sound of their footsteps, how they breathe, vocal depth, movement sounds, and so on, and so on, and so on. However, as in the sighted world, some people care about this, and some people...don't.
Speaking exclusively for myself, I'm first attracted to someone by how her voice sounds (I'm entirely straight, so the pronoun is intentional), followed by what her personality is like. For me, physical attributes are usually a distant last. The one exception is that I couldn't bring myself to date a smoker. I hate the smell of tobacco, and even imagining how tobacco kisses might taste just puts me right off the idea of even trying it. No matter how wonderful she was as a person, I just couldn't do it. I'd feel guilty about how judgmental I am, and be really sorry, but...no.
Again, that last paragraph is just my perspective. I do know fully blind people, born blind, who care deeply about someone's physical characteristics. I'm just not one of them.
Speaking exclusively for myself, I'm first attracted to someone by how her voice sounds (I'm entirely straight, so the pronoun is intentional), followed by what her personality is like. For me, physical attributes are usually a distant last. The one exception is that I couldn't bring myself to date a smoker. I hate the smell of tobacco, and even imagining how tobacco kisses might taste just puts me right off the idea of even trying it. No matter how wonderful she was as a person, I just couldn't do it. I'd feel guilty about how judgmental I am, and be really sorry, but...no.
Again, that last paragraph is just my perspective. I do know fully blind people, born blind, who care deeply about someone's physical characteristics. I'm just not one of them.
Unuhi 1 points
Everything depends on the person.
Just like not all sighted people have the same turnons and sexual preferences, why would the blind?
My primary attraction is not the looks. Neve been. Everything else - sound, scent, touch, how someone makes me feel etc.
Just like not all sighted people have the same turnons and sexual preferences, why would the blind?
My primary attraction is not the looks. Neve been. Everything else - sound, scent, touch, how someone makes me feel etc.
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