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Full History - 2016 - 05 - 19 - ID#4k5efz
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Newly Blind Family member needs help adjusting, tips please! (self.Blind)
submitted by messedfrombirth
My brother in law is blind from diabetes, still holding out hope that surgery helps but my gut says they are giving him false hope.

He is early 30's and has been released from work, is now on disability with a very bleak future outlook. Honestly if it were me, I don't know how I would cope. The worst part is the isolation, his work was his life socially. My sister (poor example of a human), left him and he has to take care of their 3 little ones most of the time alone.

He is in a city of 75k people so there isn't a lot of blind presence, an the assistance is weak. He wants people to talk to. I have looked into seeing if there are chat rooms or something he can get involved in, but we need to know apps etc so he can manage alone.

I have gone on some dating for the blind sites to see if I could get him set up with just someone to chat with but they are all pay for the ability to contact.

This is a guy who really worked with his hands and technology was not his thing, so please if there are any really good ideas to aid him I would be super grateful. It's to the point that I heard of a company that sells "glasses" to help the blind see, which I was trying to figure out how to get $15k so I could get them for him (after watching reviews I don't think they suit his condition). I'm desperate, he is one of the kindest guys and my sister put him through hell, and now he has gotten kicked even more.

Please, any advice and sorry for the long read.
CocoaBagelPuffs 3 points 7y ago
Has he been taken to a vision rehab center? That should be first on the list because the vision rehabilitation will reteach him a lot of skills that are very visual and teach him about a lot of assistive technology that can be useful to him. He should also see an orientation and mobility specialist if he hasn't yet.

Macs and iPhones/iPads are great for people with vision impairments. They have accessability options built in, like zoom, voice over, contrast, large text, etc. I don't know how blind your brother in law is, but he could benefit from these as well. PCs have things like JAWS, ZoomText, and other programs that you need to buy but Macs have it all built in. Ipads have a lot of apps that are useful as well, like a money scanner.

There are still a lot of hands on work that he can still do. A lot of people with vision impairments can do carpentry, pottery, woodworking, and weaving. People with vision impairments can do a lot of things. I have a friend who is majoring in computer science and is doing grad work. Another friend of mine is going be a teacher for the visually impaired, like me. Other high school students I observed want to do sports management and even play sports.

There's this one really cool sport called goalball that is made specifically for people with vision impairments that even sighted people can play. Everyone is blindfolded to make it an even playing field. Basically, you roll a ball with a bell inside and when it gets close to you, you use your body to block it. If the ball gets in the goal, then the team scores a point. It can get really intense at a high level. You can look up the paralympic goalball highlights to see if your brother in law would be interested. If you can find a league near you, I suggest joining so he can meet others who are blind and do something fun and active.
messedfrombirth [OP] 2 points 7y ago
I guess the problem is that he can't find the resources in the smaller city to do the things he can. He's in an area where there aren't a lot of jobs, let alone employers that are open minded enough to take on the "liability". As a man, he is feeling worthless for not being able to do anything. I hate it.
intrepidia 1 points 7y ago
If you can identify the city - country he's in, someone with some google-fu skills can probably find some contacts and resources to accomplish what he needs.
messedfrombirth [OP] 1 points 7y ago
Sarnia Ontario Canada
intrepidia 3 points 7y ago
Ahh. Then I can do it off the top of my head since I'm in Toronto (grin) Firstly, Contact the Canadian National Institute for the Blind.
hotline number: 1-800-563-2642
http://www.cnib.ca/en/ontario/programs-services/Pages/default.aspx

Next, Sarnia and sarnia covered resources here.

http://www.eriestclairhealthline.ca/listServicesDetailed.aspx?id=10383&region=SarniaLambton

Lastly there are groups including the Canadian council for the blind and the AEBC - Advocates for equality for Blind Canadians that you may contact to see if there's either local resources or members whom your family member can talk to, get connected in etc....

If you have any other questions, feel free to drop me a PM.

Cheers!


CocoaBagelPuffs 1 points 7y ago
Unfortunately I am not familiar with the area so I can't really help out there. Sorry about that.
claudettemonet 2 points 7y ago
I get this feeling from being on r/blind that Canada is way better at rehabbing blind people and providing services. I could be wrong, but it seems like the majority of the most vocal and independent blind people on this site are Canadians. Not going to lie. As an American, I am feeling a little jealous. Canadians also have the best guide dogs.. unfortunately they are only for kids.. but still! Okay, fine I admit it, I am feeling a lot jealous.
messedfrombirth [OP] 3 points 7y ago
I'm sorry to hear that, honestly I am glad to be Canadian for that reason. Hey if you're single and want benefits my brother in law is available for a green card marriage... Prefer female but may be flexible.
claudettemonet 2 points 7y ago
Hilarious
fastfinge 2 points 7y ago
I would strongly disagree. While we may be better at education, we have no national law similar to the ADA. That means unemployment is extremely high here, because there is almost no legal requirements that anything be accessible. I think the difference you're noticing might be tied into our free healthcare system. It makes it easier for us to get, and stay healthy. And it's easier for us to get the technology we need, as well as canes and dogs and so on. But without something like the ADA, no matter how healthy and indipendant we are, we still aren't going to get jobs.
claudettemonet 2 points 7y ago
Wow. Thank you for the insight. Yeah, I am very thankful for the ADA. I feel just a wee bit better about things.
museoftheday 2 points 7y ago
He has to accept that life has changed. Most assuredly he is and will experience grieving the loss of his eyesight and his significant other. Living blind doesn't have to be the bleak outcome that most people think it is. As mentooned, there's a rich blindness community all over the world. Perhaps tell us what city he lives in and someone can direct you better. Because the truth is, most blindness related services, groups, and resources are not well advertised. Why would they be? We'd never see the ads! Lol

Personally, I have been to e-sight headquarters and tried them. Even with the help of a head engineer, I found the experience less than stellar. Also, no way do I consider the device worth the asking price. It is not innovative tech. Others will disagree, but old fashioned blindness skills that help a person live independently can never be replaced by gadgets that hope to imitate sight.
messedfrombirth [OP] 2 points 7y ago
He is in Sarnia ON.

He ran into a guy, terrible unintended pun, that had them (esight) and was saying how they worked well for him. But problem is I watched a good review of them on YouTube and I believe him to be "too blind" for them to help. But I talked to him later that day and he didn't even think to get the guys contact so he could have someone going through life similar to talk with. He isn't just looking for romance, but talking with the opposite gender is a good thing.

I have a ex family member who I still communicate with who married a blind guy and has 2 blind kids, that knows the area but doesn't know anything above CNIB, which isn't that helpful.

Thanks for taking time to respond.
museoftheday 1 points 7y ago
Actually, that's very helpful! So you correct in a sense. CnIB is not the be-all-end-all solution, but can certain provide services to help him live indecently. He will have to active in requesting assistance from them.

Some people swear by eSight, it's great that it helps them. AFAIK, Waterloo still doesn't include them on the approval list of recommended tech aids. If I'm wrong about that, someone can correct me and I'll retract.

So, there are other organizations for the blind:
Canadian Counci For The Blind is a self-help, advocacy, social group that meet regularly and offer a variety of inclusive activity for all Canadians experiencing blindness, low vision, and vision loss ( my words not theirs).
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Canadian Federation of the Blind
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