Do sighted people tend to "forget/become ignorant" that you're visually impaired if you're relatively independent?(self.Blind)
submitted by pxlgirl
I've noticed that type of behaviour quite often. One one hand, sighted people assume that you can't do anything on your own, once you prove them wrong, they ignore the fact that you still have limits you can't overcome. Often times, you get to hear things like:
-When you ask for help: "If you can do X, then you should be able to do Y." - When you tell someone you can't do something: "This [place or situation] is dangerous/bad for everyone, I got injured/in trouble too" - When you tell them you can do it yourself: "You can't be that blind after all"
Sometimes I wonder if sighted people are too narrow-minded, or don't we, as visually impaired make our points clear enough? What are your thoughts? All I can say that situations like this are annoying and draining. It's almost like you can never win...
GoneVision3 points7y ago
This happens to me frequently. I'm total, but I have two realistic appearing prosthetic eyes. When you combine this with the fact that I am blessed with great spacial memory, and never use a cane or my dog to navigate familiar indoor surroundings, it's no surprise people sometimes forget. , Take it as a complement that you "fit in" with your sighted peers.
Vaelian3 points7y ago
I've only been blind for 2 years, but lived my entire life visually impaired due to a congenital glaucoma; I had 15% of sight when I was a kid which degraded to 10% with normal contrast perception and field of view and stayed stable until I started to go blind 5 years ago. In addition to the impaired functionality, my left cornea has also been dystrophic since I was 8, which made my disability visible., so nobody could ignore it.
Being visually impaired didn't significantly affect my life. I attended regular school (despite the fact that I couldn't read from the blackboard), dropped out of high school to work when I was 17, and moved out of my mother's house when I was 24. The only thing that I couldn't do was drive, but I was lucky to be able to work from home, and at a later stage I did become a digital nomad.
All this to say that I've always been a fully functional member of society and that fortunately I've never been discriminated or treated differently due to my disability, and to me that was a good thing, because I hated to be reminded that I was disabled, something that I can't avoid now that I'm blind and have to come up with workarounds and strategies for everything.
LowVisionOnMission1 points7y ago
It is very much scenario based. You can't expect anyone to be mind readers.
I am sight impaired, 28 and live alone independently, having being born with Nystagmus and Septo-Optic Dysplasia. As great and as supportive as my parents and immediate friends are they can only empathise and are not visually experiencing what I am. I typically move around without the aid of a white stick, but when going abroad with friends on a "lads holiday" It is always in use, Why? Because I don't know the area, and is an indicator for others to understand that if I bump into you...this is why, or need help, or is just a really busy area to name a few reasons. My friends would question why I don't use it all the time, genuinely asking because they want to understand and are curious, hell they got no problem guiding me! Once I tell them why I use the stick in these situations, it makes sense to them as they know now not everything is cut and dry with sight loss. Even coming from a meaningful, supportive place, education and understanding always needs to be developed. Just learn to be patient and accepting to others about your situation. "I don't need help at this time, thanks", "this is why I can/can't do this/that like I could the other time". I hope this somewhat makes sense! :)
fastfinge1 points7y ago
I think this is more of a problem for people who have some sight. For me, I can't see anything, ever, so it's easy to explain, easy to understand, and easy for people to remember. I think problems start happening when you can see some things, some times. Even as a blind person, I am usually completely confused about what my parcially sighted friends can and can't see. So I assume it's similarly confusing for folks who are fully sighted.
pxlgirl [OP]2 points7y ago
That's true, low vision is quite confusing, as each person perceives the world differently.
Unuhi1 points7y ago
Indeed. Itʻd be easier to be total. Less worrying about passing or not passing, or appearing weird if you sometimes need the selfiestick and other times donʻt. If i explain what i see and when i see or donʻt etc etc it gets confusing. "I have no facial memory, please introduce yourself when you meet me" etc etc. Not comfortable wearing the cane all the time either - if i know where i am iʻm fine. When iʻm somewhere new or at night then yes... As i donʻt care of people stare then. (Iʻve told a couple of times I only need it when itʻs dark, then had to ask if itʻs dark yet. Sigh)
mrg3rry1 points7y ago
I find my family and close friends sometimes forget I am visually imapired. It is part of my life and theirs, I have learned to adapt and i even forget I can't see as well as I would like
pxlgirl [OP]1 points7y ago
I wish I could do that too, but I can't hide it that well. It will become apparent at some point whether I want it or not. BTW, I'm totally fine with it, but it seems that sighted folk sometimes seems to have more problems with it than me.
mrg3rry1 points7y ago
I think sighted people think everyone is sighted and because of that the forget
geoffisblind1 points7y ago
Eh it happens, mostly with friends or family kind of letting me wander off occasionally when we are walking together, I've gotten pretty good at figuring out when I'm starting to stray. I could remedy it with sighted guide but I really, really dislike using sighted guide so that's kind of where I'm at. My bigger issue is people underestimating my ability to figure stuff out with low vision.
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