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We've reached the end of the line. It's all over. I'm blind. (self.Blind)
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[deleted] [OP] 3 points 6y ago
Definitely get a screen reader for your computer, and maybe talk to the school about accommodations. I'm sorry that you've had to go through all that.
DarthCyrina 3 points 6y ago
Mom won't let me get a screen reader because she denies this is even happening. Same with talking to the school
potatosword 3 points 6y ago
It sounds an awful lot like denial. Or maybe the stress of healthcare costs is getting to her if you live in the U.S. Talk some of your other family into talking to your mum so she actually sees sense. Like your Grandma. No one likes their parent talking sense into them, no matter what age you are.
Also think about what you want. How you're feeling is the most important thing right now. Do some research into blind people life stories and what kind of lives they've lived. Anyone can live a fulfilled life no matter what.
Also think about what you want. How you're feeling is the most important thing right now. Do some research into blind people life stories and what kind of lives they've lived. Anyone can live a fulfilled life no matter what.
DarthCyrina 1 points 6y ago
I don't fear for my future, I fear for my current life as it's falling to pieces and mom is not helping.
I tried to talk to family members but they basically told me "you are a kid and you don't have valid opinions. Shut up"
I tried to talk to family members but they basically told me "you are a kid and you don't have valid opinions. Shut up"
potatosword 1 points 6y ago
Tbh I wouldn't mind an excuse to not try as hard in life like being blind RIP me. I basically have no motivation to do anything. But this is about you. Well you still have one working eye right?
Look everything will be ok. Listen this sounds really stressful for you. One day you're living your life like normal and the next you're thrown off the deep end. No one likes change. And if you're struggling, find someone supportive to talk to about it. The school councillor could give you some advice and get you pointed in the right direction. If you explain your problems to her and say it's really getting to you or you're depressed, your school will be forced to talk to your mum and she can't blame you for that at least.
Look everything will be ok. Listen this sounds really stressful for you. One day you're living your life like normal and the next you're thrown off the deep end. No one likes change. And if you're struggling, find someone supportive to talk to about it. The school councillor could give you some advice and get you pointed in the right direction. If you explain your problems to her and say it's really getting to you or you're depressed, your school will be forced to talk to your mum and she can't blame you for that at least.
dmazzoni 1 points 6y ago
What kind of computer do you have? NVDA is free for Windows and works great. You don't even need to install it as admin if you can't.
Also Windows Narrator is built-in. Not as powerful as NVDA or JAWS, but totally usable on Win 8 and up.
Also Windows Narrator is built-in. Not as powerful as NVDA or JAWS, but totally usable on Win 8 and up.
DarthCyrina 1 points 6y ago
I've got a desktop running Windows 8.1. How do you use NVDA without installing it. I have admin privileges but I cant risk my mom seeing the icon and taking my computer away.
Yes she's that deep in denial
Yes she's that deep in denial
dmazzoni 1 points 6y ago
Download and install NVDA. Don't install the desktop icon or the start menu shortcut, but use the default shortcut of Ctrl+Alt+N to launch it, then exit when done.
Or, try Narrator. Not as good as NVDA for the web but should be okay for email and some other apps
Or, try Narrator. Not as good as NVDA for the web but should be okay for email and some other apps
Axtem 1 points 6y ago
Try to get the school to talk to her, they might be able to convince her. She might also be going through a state of denial. Who wouldn't want to deny that their child is going blind? If you can, try to have a calm talk with her and tell her that you are indeed going blind, and it will get worse if you don't get help soon.
DarthCyrina 1 points 6y ago
I can try but doing this risks me losing my phone as mom doesn't like to be told she may be wrong in the slightest. My phone is my only way of communication and navigation at this point and if I lose it I'm cut off from everything
It has VoiceOver built in so I can use it.
It has VoiceOver built in so I can use it.
CrashGordon94 1 points 6y ago
Sounds like flat-out abuse. You need to call CPS as well.
JackEsq 1 points 6y ago
>how can I get my mom to see this is serious?
This seems to be your most important hurdle. Getting your mom to see the issue will allow her to be on your side and advocate for what you need.
Looking at your other posts, it seems as if you already have an IEP, so what has her involvement been so far? Has she always acted in a similar fashion or is this new behavior for her?
Is there any other adult that you can get on your side (teacher, counselor, pastor, family member) who will be able to get through to your mother?
Edit: OP deleted account while I was posting the following reply, just in case OP comes back to read the thread:
Then I'm more inclined to agree with /u/CrashGordon94. I wouldn't necessarily advise going straight to CPS for child abuse, but it is clear that your mother is a detriment to you. No it is not normal that you are treated this way and I'm sorry that every adult in your life appears to be a terrible person.
Speaking from personal experience, it is a terrible thing to be told that your child will be blind. However, it is absolutely no excuse for your mother's behavior.
You need to get a responsible adult to help you. I recommend a counselor or teacher that you trust and tell them everything that is going on including your mother's behavior.
If not you are forced to deal with her on your own. The best strategy is might be to agree with her that it might go away (even if you don't think this is true). "I hope that is does go away, but I am struggling now and I need your help."
This seems to be your most important hurdle. Getting your mom to see the issue will allow her to be on your side and advocate for what you need.
Looking at your other posts, it seems as if you already have an IEP, so what has her involvement been so far? Has she always acted in a similar fashion or is this new behavior for her?
Is there any other adult that you can get on your side (teacher, counselor, pastor, family member) who will be able to get through to your mother?
Edit: OP deleted account while I was posting the following reply, just in case OP comes back to read the thread:
Then I'm more inclined to agree with /u/CrashGordon94. I wouldn't necessarily advise going straight to CPS for child abuse, but it is clear that your mother is a detriment to you. No it is not normal that you are treated this way and I'm sorry that every adult in your life appears to be a terrible person.
Speaking from personal experience, it is a terrible thing to be told that your child will be blind. However, it is absolutely no excuse for your mother's behavior.
You need to get a responsible adult to help you. I recommend a counselor or teacher that you trust and tell them everything that is going on including your mother's behavior.
If not you are forced to deal with her on your own. The best strategy is might be to agree with her that it might go away (even if you don't think this is true). "I hope that is does go away, but I am struggling now and I need your help."
CrashGordon94 1 points 6y ago
It seems to be just the thread deleted, not their account thank goodness. So hopefully they can see your reply.
JackEsq 2 points 6y ago
Yeah, I just feel for that kid...he's trying to do everything he can think of with zero support from anyone.
I wish him the best but I've seen enough of this world to know better.
I wish him the best but I've seen enough of this world to know better.
DarthCyrina 1 points 6y ago
Thank you for the great response. I had to delete this thread because my mom wanted to read my Reddit history. And I didn't want her to see I reached out for help.
Again, thanks. And I will take your advice to heart
Again, thanks. And I will take your advice to heart
JackEsq 1 points 6y ago
Good luck to you and remember YOU are doing everything right even the rest of the people in your life are not.
Also, there are random strangers on the internet rooting for you.
Also, there are random strangers on the internet rooting for you.
CrashGordon94 1 points 6y ago
Maybe I'm overly optimistic but it seems like there's far too long a history of far too heavy child abuse for the relevant people to not act unless they were ENTIRELY incompetent. Even if it's not in the most severe capacity, someone should at least help out in some manner. At least, I would really hope.
JackEsq 1 points 6y ago
Like I said I've seen too much of this world.
I'm not even sure if her behavior rises to the level of actionable child abuse of the kind CPS is used to seeing...just a "normal" obstructionist, head-in-the-sand parent. I certainly agree with you that it is awful, but I fear that the school and/or CPS won't see it that way.
I'm not even sure if her behavior rises to the level of actionable child abuse of the kind CPS is used to seeing...just a "normal" obstructionist, head-in-the-sand parent. I certainly agree with you that it is awful, but I fear that the school and/or CPS won't see it that way.
[deleted] [OP] 1 points 6y ago
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