Should sighted people date blind people? [M22] [F23](self.Blind)
submitted by TheVillianusCrustian
I really like this woman and her personality as well as her looks. She's really the whole package that I want in a woman. I met her a few days ago and we really bonded over her guide dog and similiar hobbies that we enjoy doing. I got her number and we have been talking daily on the phone. However, I am not sure if I should try and initiate a hangout with her. I've searched blind dating topics on the internet and the first 3 articles are discouraging people to date blind people. I am not sure what to think about this topic and I am confused.
-shacklebolt-6 points6y ago
Why would you think that you "shouldn't"?
EVEYISMS5 points6y ago
Those articles sound daft. What has her blindness got to do with owt? If you like her then go for it. If someone was in a wheelchair would you be asking if you should date them? Good luck x
bondolo4 points6y ago
I am biased because i am a sighted man married to a blind woman for more than 25 years but my advice is go for it! It may work out or it may not and blindness may or may not be a factor in the success or failure of the relationship. Finding out is only possible by trying.
GoneVision3 points6y ago
Blind guy here married for 17 years to a sighted lady. I didn't ask whether I should date a sighted girl, you shouldn't need to ask about dating a blind girl. Date whom ever you want to date.
angelcake3 points6y ago
Life is too short to miss out on a chance at happiness. If you like to go out with her. If it's the real deal you both will find ways to make things work for you.
10001000011 points6y ago
Well put.
angelcake3 points6y ago
My partner of 4.5 years is low vision and is going to eventually end up either legally blind or completely blind, I would not trade the time we have had together for anything and I'm going to be there when things go bad because he's "the one" for me. If I had worried about his vision when we first met I would have missed out on something very special.
10001000012 points6y ago
It sounds like these articles were written by ableists. ASK HER OUT!
notriddle1 points6y ago
It sounds like these articles were written by idiots, you mean.
Dyshonest2 points6y ago
Absolutely they should. Go for it!
Being blind is an aspect of a person, it is not what defines a person. Think of it along the lines of eye color, skin color, the size of your nose, or even your personality. These things describe you and to an extent influence your life, but they are not who you are. The same holds true for people with visual impairments.
Faldorn2 points6y ago
Just do it!
Byron-Black1 points6y ago
Remember that it's her choice to date you just as much as it's your choice to date her, so don't go into it thinking that it's OK to make decisions for her because it's not all up to you.
That said, why not try it and see how things go? Just like any relationship, make sure to communicate with her about what her needs are; don't just assume things about what she can or can't do. My advice is that you approach her blindness the same way you would any other dating consideration. For example, whether someone has kids, their own house, whether they drive are all things that can have an impact on a relationship, maybe a big one, or maybe a very small one; sometimes they need to be worked around, but they don't have to be deal breakers. It depends on your situation and how flexible you can be. You may have to be open to doing things differently sometimes, and be aware of her needs, just like you would in any other relationship. I have been with my legally blind partner for more than 20 years.
Silverottawa1 points6y ago
She's not an alien or monster. GO FOR iT!
0xdeadf0011 points6y ago
You should absolutely date her, if you're interested in her, and you should ignore bullshit articles that tell you not to. I've been dating a blind woman for about six months, and it's wonderful. I could go on about how great she is (and she is!), but the main thing for you to know is that blind people have just as much inner life as anyone else in this world. My girl is creative, funny, sexy, smart, thoughtful, introspective, sassy, affectionate, and quite capable of getting what she wants out of this world.
I've found that her blindness is often *relevant*, but rarely much of a limitation. Of course there are things she doesn't want to do, but there's so much else in the world that we can do, that it doesn't feel limiting.
Every blind person is different, of course. Pay attention to the specific person in front of you, and what her needs and desires and preferences are. But don't write her off just because she's blind. You could be missing out on so much.
awesomesaucesaywhat1 points6y ago
If you liker her, ask her out, her blindness doesn't make her undateable.
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