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Full History - 2017 - 02 - 28 - ID#5wsqap
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I am half blind - from being kidnapped, assaulted, and left for dead. (self.Blind)
submitted by Bluedimensional
I also posted this in trauma subreddit. (is that ok? It's applicable to both - and more..) I just looked for this one and am grateful to you for reading what you're about to. I also want to preface by saying I don't actually use the term half blind. I just say I'm blind in one eye.

I was kidnapped, assaulted, and left for dead. Yup, this did happen to me - December 26th, 2009. It just dawned on me today that reddit could be a great place to share my story. This is not something I have shared on any public forum, nor am I an experienced redditor, so excuse me for any lack of form.


I used to babysit for a friend - yup, it was a friend that did this. She found a bruise on her kid which she concluded came from being in my care. Her way of confronting me about this was with a switchblade, and her buddy & his gun.

I got tricked to get in her car, not realizing her buddy was in there. (this was her second vehicle, dark tinted windows helped me not realize.) Once in, a gun is in my face, and we're on the road. He's pointing the gun, telling me to shut up or else, while she is driving, trying to get me to admit to mistreating / abusing her kid. (At the time, I had no idea what she thought, I was clueless. As I've implied, I did not mistreat the kid ever. Also her questions were vague and didn't indicate what she was accusing me of.)

Obviously this was a pretty f'd up situation. The most f'd up, for me. They drove to a warehouse conveniently owned by dude's dad, and I was ordered to follow him. We went inside, to the third floor - which had great city views on any other day.

He told me to get on my knees. He had his gun, but what he did was, he kneed me on the side of my head. And they left. This shattered my skull and knocked me out cold.

I woke up about 14 hours later. This is the Sunday after Christmas in an industrial area. There was no one around. I, bloodied and in shock, eventually made my way outside and walked, about half a mile, to the police station. They got me to the hospital.

Hospitalized about 12 days. Epidural hematoma, brain contusion. I had a few brain surgeries. Pieces of my skull were logged in my brain. He destroyed my optic nerve on one side, which has left my permanently and completely blind in my left eye. Luckily that eye didn't work too well in the first place!


I know I've left out some important parts but I'll just have to edit those in. There is a lot more to it and I anticipate you may have questions, which I will happily answer. Sharing my story is important and thus here it is. Thanks for reading.
KillerLag 5 points 6y ago
That's a pretty fucked up situation. Hope they ended up charging your friend. At least you are still alive, right?
Bluedimensional [OP] 1 points 6y ago
Yes for sure - the alive part!
PhenixFire 4 points 6y ago
This is really bad for you, I hope you are doing fine!

where there any consequences for that guy who attacked you?

Bluedimensional [OP] 1 points 6y ago
A mistake I made was waiting too long to go to the police. I had no idea what was going on, and the recovery was very painful. When I did finally go, charges were only pressed against her - and I was ok with that. I had already forgiven him, and knew that SHE was the instigator, she was the driving force behind it. He, albiet misguided, I felt, was trying to "help a friend." she'd convinced him of it all.

There is more, more details about her and her scheme, that support this, and more about him and some signs / acts of compassion during and after.

But I did forgive him and I haven't regretted that. I've actually met with him twice since, and he expressed apologies, regret, and made himself available to any questions I had.

Don't get me wrong - I don't like him and never will. But I'm not here to speak bad of anyone, only trying to share my story as it happened.

I actually fb messaged him today asking if we can talk again. Waiting for that reply...
PhenixFire 2 points 6y ago
thanks for your reply.
good luck with the next conversation with that guy, and keep up well!
snow671 3 points 6y ago
Thank you for sharing. What a nightmare for you to go through. What happened to those awful people? How are things for you now and do you have trouble trusting new friends?
Bluedimensional [OP] 2 points 6y ago
You're welcome. See previous reply above for first question. I'll try to elaborate some more, too: she eventually was charged with especially aggravated kidnapping and aggravated assault. Months later they decided not to indict her. That part, was tough. I still nor doubt I'll ever really understand that.

He was never charged (see other reply).

She, has been in addiction recovery ever since, married, and works at a treatment center. I've never met or spoken with her at all. I don't know the future of that - acceptance, letting go, closure, it all gets blurry and complicated in this part.

I don't have any trouble trusting new friends. I feel like the amount of PTSD for lack of better terms, should be more. I feel like I've worked through this in pretty big ways.
snow671 3 points 6y ago
You are an incredibly strong and inspiring person.
Bluedimensional [OP] 2 points 6y ago
Thank you I appreciate that.
Namrakk 2 points 6y ago
I'm sorry you had to go through that. How have you emotionally adjusted to your loss of vision? What have you found most difficult?
Bluedimensional [OP] 2 points 6y ago
That's a great question, I'm giving it some thought for the best answer. Never heard it phrased exactly like that!
Bluedimensional [OP] 1 points 6y ago
the most difficult part is being self conscious about how i look. it may sound trite but it is true. that and the general sensation of it. it's strange and uncomfortable. the difficult part is the discomfort never really goes away. some moments it is quite bothersome, some i forget. I have learned a lot about acceptance of things i can't change - but at the same time, seems like i learn this part over and over again.

oh, and i can't see 3D :p
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