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Normal life and normal love (self.Blind)
submitted by hellangel100
Let me tell you something tonight dear reddit!
Yes, I am visually impaired and yes, I am unfortunately in this situation for my whole life. But the kicker is, that I really couldn't care any less .. I do everything and anything to make my life as normal and pleasant as possible.
I go traveling completely on my own, I attend parties and get-togethers with friends or on my own, I work and go to business school at the same time, I am a creative writer, I take part in politics and I do stock trading ..
I have had multiple relationships before, dated casually, had friends with benefits and I am now engaged to the most wonderful man
At my young age of only 19 years, I've experienced Waym ore than many people in their entire lifetime ever will get to experience and I'm incredibly thankful for every one of my unique experiences
But let me tell you folks, I am not unique. We are all able to achieve success and happiness in our lives in one way or another.
We might be having a disability, but that should not stop anyone from living their dreams !!
I know what it feels like when everything breaks and everything seems to fall apart.
But please don't lose hope after sending out so many letters for getting this one job
.. don't lose hope in other people when they don't understand you or the situation that you are in .. they didn't experience what you have experienced, not even close ..
So no matter since when you have been blind, or if you have a family member who apparently is blind or who will be blind after birth, don't ever lose hope and don't ever think that you are different in a negative way. .. keep standing your ground and keep showing the world and your own surroundings that you are wonderful, because you are and you will always be.
Yes, I am visually impaired and yes, I am unfortunately in this situation for my whole life. But the kicker is, that I really couldn't care any less .. I do everything and anything to make my life as normal and pleasant as possible.
I go traveling completely on my own, I attend parties and get-togethers with friends or on my own, I work and go to business school at the same time, I am a creative writer, I take part in politics and I do stock trading ..
I have had multiple relationships before, dated casually, had friends with benefits and I am now engaged to the most wonderful man
At my young age of only 19 years, I've experienced Waym ore than many people in their entire lifetime ever will get to experience and I'm incredibly thankful for every one of my unique experiences
But let me tell you folks, I am not unique. We are all able to achieve success and happiness in our lives in one way or another.
We might be having a disability, but that should not stop anyone from living their dreams !!
I know what it feels like when everything breaks and everything seems to fall apart.
But please don't lose hope after sending out so many letters for getting this one job
.. don't lose hope in other people when they don't understand you or the situation that you are in .. they didn't experience what you have experienced, not even close ..
So no matter since when you have been blind, or if you have a family member who apparently is blind or who will be blind after birth, don't ever lose hope and don't ever think that you are different in a negative way. .. keep standing your ground and keep showing the world and your own surroundings that you are wonderful, because you are and you will always be.
Vaelian 6 points 6y ago
Living blind is hardly normal, and I'm reminded of that every step of the way because everything I do needs an adaptation strategy that differs from the way normal people do things. It didn't use to be like that back when I was just legally blind because I had enough vision to do everything the same way other people do it except for driving.
My life now is extremely boring because I'm incapable of doing what I used to do to pass the time and earn a living: coding. It's not impossible, but it's extremely hard. I personally have a lot of trouble reading code.
My life now is extremely boring because I'm incapable of doing what I used to do to pass the time and earn a living: coding. It's not impossible, but it's extremely hard. I personally have a lot of trouble reading code.
iam_that_one_ag 6 points 6y ago
I understand you. My transition is very difficult. I am trying to pursue academia and research based jobs. I find getting adequate experience to be extremely challenging. OP honestly sounds condescending - of course we want to pursue our dreams, but it's far from normal and very difficult for some. My losing the ability to drive has been the hardest. I am limited to an area because I can't drive to a job an hour away, no matter how much I love it. The bus is not an option, I will not ride a bus for 5 hours a day. That's too much time to waste. I have hobbies and hate being on a schedule. I sm reduced to asking my significant other to take me places. He has his own job and when I find one, mine can't be so far today he has to drive too far out of his way. It isn't fair. I am trying my hardest, and I know you are too. With losing the ability to do the things you love that you've trained and educated for so long, I completely understand you in the transiting being extremely difficult.
Sorry for the long post, but I needed a little rant too. PM me if you want to talk. It's been rough feeling like no one around me really understands the weight of it on me. *Hugs if you need'em,*
Sorry for the long post, but I needed a little rant too. PM me if you want to talk. It's been rough feeling like no one around me really understands the weight of it on me. *Hugs if you need'em,*
hellangel100 [OP] -1 points 6y ago
I am only legally blind, so of course I don't know how it is to be fully blind but I have a friend who does exactly what you are doing, the same job while being fully blind and he loves it. That's because he took the challenge and was sitting down for hours trying to figure out how to do it. He never gave up and is now hired for a huge company and lives his dream
pxlgirl 5 points 6y ago
I think it makes a huge difference whether you were visually impaired all you life, and have nothing else to compare it to, or when lost your vision later in life and are well aware what you miss(ed) out on.
claudettemonet 5 points 6y ago
I agree with you. I am going blind. It will be a challenge, an adveture. It will not cheapen my life. It will only change it. I will be challenged in ways other will never be challenged, grow in ways others will never grow.
Don't listen to Valean. He is such a downer sometimes.
Don't listen to Valean. He is such a downer sometimes.
k00l_m00se 2 points 6y ago
He needs come counseling. My counselor did a fantastic job in helping me adjust, just by listening to what I had to say.
I feel completely the same way. Life is all a journey. Way I look at it, my vision impairment and potential blindness is all one step in my grand journey. A little side adventure
I feel completely the same way. Life is all a journey. Way I look at it, my vision impairment and potential blindness is all one step in my grand journey. A little side adventure
claudettemonet 1 points 6y ago
:)
hellangel100 [OP] 0 points 6y ago
You are right and I can count myself lucky, because I still have enough sigh for many things
fastfinge 3 points 6y ago
Good for you! But It makes a huge difference where you live and where you were born. If your parents were able to help you as a child, then you probably got an education that was at least adequate, you probably learned to travel on your own, and you probably grew up with at least a few sighted friends. However, if your parents had problems of there own (drug addictions, extreme poverty, etc) it's doubtful you got any of those advantages. Parents matter hundreds of times more when a child is blind, because when the child can't yet stand up for himself, nobody else but his parents will stand up for him. If they don't do it, the child will be overlooked, and left to fall through the cracks.
Also, if you can afford to live in a large city, your job search will be a hundred thousand times easier. Saying "stand up and get your dream job!" doesn't help, when you're living on government benefits that are so small you sometimes can't even afford three meals a day, never mind the cost of taking cabs to job interviews, because the place you live in has no public transit to speak of. In many places, the unemployment of those of us with no vision at all is over 90%. Yes, all blind people could live the dream. But we need to embrace the fact that not all of us will, unless those who have achieved the dream are willing to lend the rest of us a hand. And by that, I don't mean a handout, or charity. But everyone needs the opportunity for self improvement. And today, not every blind person gets that opportunity. And they need more than just inspiring speeches to change that.
Also, if you can afford to live in a large city, your job search will be a hundred thousand times easier. Saying "stand up and get your dream job!" doesn't help, when you're living on government benefits that are so small you sometimes can't even afford three meals a day, never mind the cost of taking cabs to job interviews, because the place you live in has no public transit to speak of. In many places, the unemployment of those of us with no vision at all is over 90%. Yes, all blind people could live the dream. But we need to embrace the fact that not all of us will, unless those who have achieved the dream are willing to lend the rest of us a hand. And by that, I don't mean a handout, or charity. But everyone needs the opportunity for self improvement. And today, not every blind person gets that opportunity. And they need more than just inspiring speeches to change that.
iam_that_one_ag 1 points 6y ago
One day I'll make it, and I'll grab every visually impaired hand I can on the way up.
fastfinge 3 points 6y ago
I feel the same! And a lot of blind folks who have made it do this; look at all the activism lead by blind folks, who have extra resources to devote to attending conferences, protests, etc, making the world a better place for all of us. I like to think that helping to raise awareness on Reddit, and answer people's questions, is my tiny peace of the pie, even though it's about all I can manage at the moment.
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