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A question from a writer! (self.Blind)
submitted by CaptainToodleButt
I'm a sighted writer writing a story about a boy who is born blind. I'd like this community's perspective on how I've made my character, whether it's realistic or not, or if I need to keep certain things in mind. I'm very ignorant about all this so I'll apologise for asking really stupid questions, but I'd rather look stupid than to write an inaccurate story.

He's seventeen, uses a cane and can read Braille. His parents try to make him do most things by himself and so I'd say he's pretty independent. I know there are devices to help blind people identify which colours their clothes are, text-to-speech softwares for computers (and phones?).

With technology nowadays like GPS, i think it would be possible for him to walk home by himself and he'd be able to go to places without requiring much assistance from other people. Yay or nay?

He goes to a public school and gets decent grades. I'm not sure if bullying would happen since it's 2017 and most kids his age would be fairly mature. I think a lot of people would treat him differently like they're treading on thin ice. Does that happen often? Do sighted people tend to be very careful about accidentally using offensive language?

I have parts in the story where he becomes a bit rebellious, smokes cigarettes and drinks like most teenagers do at some point. What do you think?

Once again, sorry for any stupid questions and thank you very much if you answer them!


fastfinge 5 points 6y ago
> text-to-speech softwares for computers (and phones?).

Yes, phones. These days, a blind 17-year-old would be most likely to own an iPhone and use the built-in tts software called voiceover. Also, many schools are giving blind students iPads instead of laptops, because they boot up faster, they're easier to carry, and the battery lasts longer. Blind teenagers are doing a lot more on phones and tablets, and less on computers, in the same way sighted teenagers are, and for similar reasons.

> i think it would be possible for him to walk home by himself and he'd be able to go to places without requiring much assistance from other people.

Depends on where he lives. Walk home by himself, sure. Although many modern communities (at least in Canada) aren't building sidewalks on residential streets anymore. Walking in the road isn't the safest thing! However, it would be fair to assume his parents took that into account when purchasing a house, and he lives in a neighborhood that has sidewalks, and is otherwise decent for pedestrians.

Similarly for going to other places. What's public transit like where he lives? Cabs are way too expensive for a teenager, and he'll never drive obviously.

> not sure if bullying would happen

Depends on the area, the school, etc. At that age, though, it moves out of the realms of bullying and into crime. Blind students tend to carry either laptops or tablets to do school work, and we can make attractive targets for theft. I'm aware of several times in Ontario where a blind student has had his/her technology stolen. However, in small towns, small schools, or specialty (tech/science/art/music/etc) schools, this probably wouldn't be an issue. But if theft/violence is a problem in that school, it's safe to assume a blind student might be (or at least feel) more effected by it.

> people would treat him differently like they're treading on thin ice.

All the time. Either that, or just not bother to talk to him at all. When I was in High School (admittedly 20 years ago), I'd go days without ever speaking to another student. I'd do my homework while eating lunch, and otherwise just be in class. But admittedly I'm an introvert. But I know the problem of meeting people can be a huge one for most blind teens. We can't catch someone's eye across the room, and it can be hard for us to approach new people. And teenagers, while somewhat mature, are not likely to come up and introduce themselves to a blind person.

> smokes cigarettes and drinks like most teenagers do at some point.

I never did either of these things, because I was a well behaved dork growing up (still a dork as an adult, just less rule abiding LOL). But I know lots of blind teenagers who did!

What about dating/romance/sex? Those can be hugely terrifying subjects for any teenager. But blindness can add a lot of self doubt (why would any girl want a blind guy?), along with worries about looks and all the rest of it. We generally get over these feelings by adulthood, but it can add to the teenage struggle.

CaptainToodleButt [OP] 2 points 6y ago
Thank you so much for your reply! It really cleared a lot of things up for me and it was informative.

I'd say the main genre of the story is romance. He meets someone who likes him, gets laid and does all the sappy stuff. Cliche, I know, but I write for fun.
fastfinge 4 points 6y ago
Not as cliche as I wish it was. There's still this feeling in society that blind (and all disabled for that matter) people can't, or don't, have relationships. Partners of blind people are still likely to get asked what it's like to have to "take care" of us, as though we're not a full contributor in the relationship. Similarly, blind people often don't get the same level of sex education that sighted people do, perhaps because teachers feel awkward, and/or parents assume we're not going to be having sex anyway.
KillerLag 2 points 6y ago
For one of the camps we run (the College and University Preperation Program), we added a short sex ed component to teach some of them the basics. It was pretty disheartening how many misconceptions they had (they were all late teens).
blindambition- 1 points 6y ago
Although it's unfortunate that sex education isn't happening earlier for blind teens, it's great that you guys are addressing it in college prep programs. Would you say that participants are engaged and interested in learning more about sex ed? Or is the topic generally met with discomfort and hesitation?
KillerLag 3 points 6y ago
Not only does bullying happening between sighted and blind kids, but bullying also happens even between low vision and blind kids. Ontario has a school for blind children (W. Ross), and that comes up often, with low vision kids bullying someone who is total.

Just because a kid has vision loss, doesn't mean they are always good, either. I also knew a low vision teenager who hung out with a rough crowd, and they ended up stealing a car and taking it on a joy ride. They ended up getting into a car accident and killed themselves and an innocent bystander. I do not know if the low vision kid was driving, but I imagine that was a possibility.

One issue that often comes up with dating someone with visual loss is the lack of visual cues when someone is interested. A lot of non-verbal cues are used in flirting (hair touching, smiling, blushing, being checked out) that are missed if someone can't see them.

For some people with vision loss as well (more often if they were born blind), blind mannerisms (they also used to be called blindisms http://blindchildrensfund.org/for-families/tips-for-parents/blindisms-strange-behaviors-that-have-meaning/ ) can be a huge disruptive factor. I dated a blind girl before who had a tendency to rock when she got excited, but she didn't realize that. First time I leaned in for a kiss, I got headbutted in the face. :(
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