Do you like to platonically hug your friends?(self.Blind)
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fastfinge9 points6y ago
No. But I don't think it has anything to do with the fact that I'm blind. I'm just...a sweaty guy. Especially during the summer, a two minute trip outside will get me sweating absolute buckets; never mind an hour or more on the bus. Then I arrive at the extended family gathering, and the hugging starts. I know I'm disgusting. You know I'm disgusting. Can we please not do this? Or if we absolutely must do this, can't it wait until I've hit the bathroom to reapply the deodorant I always carry on me for this exact reason? This is why I hate all unexpected hugging; I'm not always as fresh as I'd like to be if I get even slightly overheated, and that's just awkward for both of us.
AlexandrinaIsHere2 points6y ago
Just a suggestion- feel free to ignore.
Get some body powder. After applying deodorant (if it is a wet kind, let it dry) powder your arm pits. Also shake a little inside your shoes, inside your socks, and in your pants.
It takes a little care to ensure it doesn't smear outside your clothing- but it absorbs sweat. Sweat itself isn't stinky- but it's sticky and it grows bacteria. By drying it with powder you can keep from being sticky or letting it grow stuff.
fastfinge1 points6y ago
Something to look into; thanks! I have to be careful, though. It took me like two years to find a deodorant that would work without giving me giant rashes. At the moment I just change t-shirts mid day during the summer, and that seems to keep the smell under control. But nothing can really be done about that yucky sticky sweaty feeling, so I doubt I'm ever going to love summertime hugs. :-(
AlexandrinaIsHere2 points6y ago
Another thing you may already know- it takes time for the chemical in deodorant to soak in. So deodorant before bed helps with daytime sweat.
Even if you shower in morning- most deodorants don't wash out of your pores if they've been left alone for a few hours.
I know baby powder has a fragrance you might not like smelling- but maybe ask around "clean living" stores if they have body powders that are hypoallergenic? I like using goldbond extra menthol foot powder but it burns if I get too much or sweat a lot. I just prefer mint to floral.
fastfinge1 points6y ago
In the summer it doesn't matter what the powder smells like, really. I can always just mask it with sunscreen; I don't mind that classic slightly fruity sunscreen smell. Thanks for the tips!
Terry_Pie6 points6y ago
I've always preferred handshakes because I can offer my hand, they take it, we shake. Easy. Hugs tend to be a bit of a surprise because I only have central vision. It makes it difficult to tell how someone is going to hug me, or if they're going for a cheek peck or what.
I've conditioned up alright to hugs though, and those that I see often that do hug have learnt to warn me
I only hug my female friends though. I shake hands with my male friends.
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Terry_Pie4 points6y ago
Few reasons. Firstly, it just seems odd to me. I'm not huge on even that level of physical intmacy with my female friends (i.e. platonic friends), I mostly do so because they initiate it. There are exceptions but it flows into the second reason, which is that I don't feel close enough to most of my friends to warrant my initiating it anyway. Thirdly, I just like handshakes. They feel and look professional and I rate professionalism highly.
Suhn-Sol-Jashin1 points6y ago
The answer is obvious, no?
[deleted] [OP]3 points6y ago
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Suhn-Sol-Jashin-1 points6y ago
I would assume he's super straight and wants to have boobs press against his chest, not dicks against his legs/stomach.
Opposite if he is a she.
snow6715 points6y ago
No. I'm so short that every hug is practically a choke hold.
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snow6712 points6y ago
Thankfully no one has tried to pick me up, but I don't think I'd like it.
[deleted] [OP]4 points6y ago
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snow6718 points6y ago
I would fold my cane into nunchucks so fast.
awesomesaucesaywhat4 points6y ago
Hugs for all!
[deleted] [OP]2 points6y ago
Only one of them.
I'm not a fan of physical affection in general. I don't think it has anything to do with my eyesight, although it might in some convoluted way that affects sensory processing in general. More likely it's for the same reasons I don't like strong smells, loud noises, tight sleeves, or the texture of bananas.
tymme1 points6y ago
Our group of friends isn't really like that; we just greet each other with smartass comments and such instead. I don't know if we'd hug in certain situations or not.
I can say that while I consider myself bisexual, I generally don't care for the way a man's body usually feels (facial hair, more coarse, etc.) Then again, I'm not really a fan of thin girls, either, so maybe it's more the body type than male vs female.
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