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How to make myself available? (self.Blind)
submitted by JustHeree5
Hi everyone,
This is a little bit awkward, but I wanted to take a moment and ask a question in a community that likely has to consider this regularly.
Just to start I am not blind or disabled in any way. That being said, I am in no way against dating someone with a disability.
To cut to the point, I feel that I am limiting myself by using dating sites or subreddits like R4R and the like where I feel people with disabilities are hardly represented.
While I am not specifically looking for someone who is blind or otherwise I would like to make myself available to those people. My godmother was blind and she had a big impact on my life in demonstrating what a competent and exceptionally talented person can accomplish despite her disability.
I feel a little like a cad if I were to just say in my postings that I simply desire a handicapped individual, so I tend to leave my requests as general as possible.
Should I say specifically that I am looking for a blind girl? Or is there a better method to bring that up? Is there a site or subreddit where it is simply understood that I am not at all deterred by a disability?
Anyway, if you have any suggestions I would really appreciate it. I hope I did not offend anyone by bringing this up. That was not my intention at all.
Thank you all for your time and help.
This is a little bit awkward, but I wanted to take a moment and ask a question in a community that likely has to consider this regularly.
Just to start I am not blind or disabled in any way. That being said, I am in no way against dating someone with a disability.
To cut to the point, I feel that I am limiting myself by using dating sites or subreddits like R4R and the like where I feel people with disabilities are hardly represented.
While I am not specifically looking for someone who is blind or otherwise I would like to make myself available to those people. My godmother was blind and she had a big impact on my life in demonstrating what a competent and exceptionally talented person can accomplish despite her disability.
I feel a little like a cad if I were to just say in my postings that I simply desire a handicapped individual, so I tend to leave my requests as general as possible.
Should I say specifically that I am looking for a blind girl? Or is there a better method to bring that up? Is there a site or subreddit where it is simply understood that I am not at all deterred by a disability?
Anyway, if you have any suggestions I would really appreciate it. I hope I did not offend anyone by bringing this up. That was not my intention at all.
Thank you all for your time and help.
Amonwilde 10 points 5y ago
It's one thing to be OK with dating a disabled person and another to go specifically looking for a disabled person. I'd examine your motivations carefully and my ultimate advice would be to date without placing any particular emphasis on disability. My advice would also be NOT to put such a message on your dating profile. But I think you already know this already.
JustHeree5 [OP] 5 points 5y ago
You are absolutely right. I am not at all hoping to date someone simply because they are disabled. Talk about perverse and twisted. I was just hoping to make myself available. Ultimately I think you are right. I just need to put myself out there and accept her regardless of status. Thanks.
bradley22 2 points 5y ago
HI. I don't see why you shouldn't put it on your dating profile. I am blind and prefer chubby women. Well first it's the personality and then it's whether she has a big or chubby belly or is skinny. Having said that, I'd have no problem dating a skinny woman if she can debate with me, have fun and have deep conversations. As I said, I like women with big bellies and am not ashamed of it. So if you want to date a disabled person to see what it is like, go for it.
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