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Wanting to date a blind girl, how ? (self.Blind)
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0xdeadf001 4 points 5y ago
Uhhhh, I have to point out that this is a fairly patronizing and insulting perspective to start off with.
"I find blind people cute and feel they're humble and kind hearted" is really putting people in a box. You're fetishizing one aspect of them, rather than starting with the person and seeing their disability as part of that person.
I'm a sighted man, dating a blind woman. I know her pretty well, and frankly this post would piss her off. She's a complete person, with everything that that implies. She can be happy, angry, humble, proud, quiet, playful, sullen, etc. If she's humble, she's humble because she's a person being humble -- *not* because she's blind. She *hates* it when people assume that her doing something means she's doing it *because* she's blind.
So honestly, if you manage to find someone, and you approach them with this attitude, you're quite likely to get shot down, and rightly so.
"I find blind people cute and feel they're humble and kind hearted" is really putting people in a box. You're fetishizing one aspect of them, rather than starting with the person and seeing their disability as part of that person.
I'm a sighted man, dating a blind woman. I know her pretty well, and frankly this post would piss her off. She's a complete person, with everything that that implies. She can be happy, angry, humble, proud, quiet, playful, sullen, etc. If she's humble, she's humble because she's a person being humble -- *not* because she's blind. She *hates* it when people assume that her doing something means she's doing it *because* she's blind.
So honestly, if you manage to find someone, and you approach them with this attitude, you're quite likely to get shot down, and rightly so.
[deleted] [OP] -1 points 5y ago
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0xdeadf001 2 points 5y ago
"Disability" is a value-neutral statement of fact. Its meaning is not dependent on your subjective feelings, and pretending that a disability does not exist, when one patently does, is simply absurd.
> I should've said I feel as if they're generally more humble than others
My girlfriend would fucking explode at reading this. What you see as "humility" is more likely to be the resigned frustration and simmering anger, at so often being treated as less-than-whole by society in general, and at being needlessly denied opportunities to participate in society.
Again, you apparently have this very patronizing perspective, and you're looking to find someone who will fit neatly into your box, which is labeled "cute and humble and appreciative". I think if you brought this perspective to a real, living blind woman, she would kick your ass, figuratively speaking.
> I should've said I feel as if they're generally more humble than others
My girlfriend would fucking explode at reading this. What you see as "humility" is more likely to be the resigned frustration and simmering anger, at so often being treated as less-than-whole by society in general, and at being needlessly denied opportunities to participate in society.
Again, you apparently have this very patronizing perspective, and you're looking to find someone who will fit neatly into your box, which is labeled "cute and humble and appreciative". I think if you brought this perspective to a real, living blind woman, she would kick your ass, figuratively speaking.
[deleted] [OP] -2 points 5y ago
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PhotoJim99 1 points 5y ago
Personally I wouldn't seek to date a blind girl - but rather, why don't you just be open-minded about whom you meet?
I have a couple of blind friends, but I didn't seek them - I just met them and got to know them. I understand a lot better now what it's like to be blind, but being open-minded about whom I'd choose for friends is what was most important.
I have a couple of blind friends, but I didn't seek them - I just met them and got to know them. I understand a lot better now what it's like to be blind, but being open-minded about whom I'd choose for friends is what was most important.
[deleted] [OP] 1 points 5y ago
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