A few days ago, I saw someone that posted on here that had a professor that was uptight about using the word "blind" because it was ableist or whatever.
Our household takes blindness in stride. Hey, if you can't change it, roll with it and make jokes about it. My wife has cone dystrophy. 4 or 5 years ago she has perfect vision. Now, she has extremely limited vision. She fakes still being able to see pretty well, but has to use a blind stick, has learned braille, etc.
So we have a friend that has been totally blind since birth. He also happens to be black. When we see him out it's always irreverent jokes. When we part ways, I always call them out because they usually say "see you later." I tell them that they don't see anything much less each other.
So we were having a drink a few weeks ago and someone else joined the conversation. My wife always tells new people that she's not "black" blind and has limited vision. Our friend has been completely blind since birth and he joined in that he was definitely black blind. I immediately pointed out that he's black, black blind. We all laughed.
If you have live with it, at least learn to laugh about it.
Amonwilde6 points5y ago
People have different ways of dealing with stuff like blindness. Some people feel like they have some handle on the situation if they're using the right words. Some people use humor. I don't think there's a right way. I do get a little bored if people are always pointing out words related to vision, even if it's in a humorous way. Like, "see you later" isn't really funny because there's a blind person in the room. But that's just a matter of things being funny or not, and obviously that's pretty subjective. Remember also that you're making jokes in good fun, but that a lot of blind people have been bullied or pushed around and made to feel ashamed. If that's the case, they might not find the same jokes as funny as you do.
For me, I like to see the humor in situations, not in the person. Like, I walked into a glass door the other day, and made a few jokes about birds and that they really need to keep their doors more dirty around here. Or I was telling people the other day that Voiceover always reads the word Friends before every Facebook post (I think it's to tell you who the post's audience is, because once in a while it's "Everyone.") That makes Facebook sound like a communist saying "comrade" before everything.
> Friends, we need to work together to solve this... > Friends, I went to Black Panther this weekend and... > Friends, my birthday was this weekend and...
So, comrades, let's try to be kind of sensitive, but also kind of reasonable and kind of funny. And also, you know, kind.
derrekjthompson2 points5y ago
I have no issues with the word blind, that's what I am and it doesn't carry a negative connotation to me. I say things like see you later or talk about watching a movie or something as a figure of speech. However I will say that those little cracks about not seeing anything mildly irritate me. Not enough to raise a fuss about but if they're coming from somebody I'm not already close with it would kind of incline me towards staying away from them. But from a close friend I would just let it slide. Also, it's called a cane not a "blind stick." I know people who are blind and black but I've never had the balls to ask them something I always wondered. I would like to know which one they think causes them more problems. Just out of curiosity. And blind people usualy use the term "total" not "black blind," although I have no issue with that term either.
BeardedJerry1 points5y ago
I can see how it's humorous to some people but I've had people deny me assistance because they thought I was lying about being blind d. Probably my fault having not ever become accustomed to traveling with a cane. I had a teacher tell me I was a liar only pretending to be blind to get out of doing school work. (Taking notes off the board). Very hurtful. I had kids sit behind me, pulling on my hood and calling me blindy. Maybe harmless in retrospect. That teacher did that in front of the entire class.
I'm not disagreeing and I think it's great that you guys are laughing and nobody's hurt by it. But I personally can't appreciate the humor. In fact I'm guilty of getting angry/bitter when people I associate with make jokes about it or even if they just mention it in an unsympathetic way. But in my defense I asked them politely more than once to stop.
estj1361 points5y ago
Yeah, the blind Jokes aren’t that funny, honestly, and being uptight about blindness isn’t good. I usually tell people, hey it’s okay, I am blind and I don’t think much of it, so don’t worry about it or offending me. I am also the tough gal/guy type of person, so it’s hard to really offend me, unless you’re really trying, of course.
fastfinge1 points5y ago
Yup. The see you later jokes are tiresome. Not because they're offensive, but because they're not original. It was funny the first time I heard it, when I was two years old. This will make the nine hundred billionth. It's no longer funny.
ratadeacero [OP]1 points5y ago
You would hate our household.
fastfinge1 points5y ago
To be fair, I also hate dad jokes of all forms. If humour isn't at least slightly original, it isn't humour. It's some kind of anti-humour that, if exposed to it long enough, will remove your ability to ever laugh or smile ever again.
Edit: And don't get me started on the people who endlessly quote Monty Python! The first time I heard those jokes, they were unexpected, and side-splittingly funny. By the hundredth time though, they had evolved into some sort of ritualistic chant obviously intended to summon some alien God.
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