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Blind and MtF (self.Blind)
submitted by Laser_Lens_4
Okay, I really hate talking about this outside the trans community for fear of hate but I am that, trans. SPecifically I am MtF pre-everything.
It's something I've come to terms with over many years and I am sure of it now. I am still living with my parents and working in the SOuthern California area.
Are there any fellow blind and trans people out there? How are things with you? If you are transitioning/have transitioned, how have you dealt with harassment from other people? How did your parents react if/when you told them?
I am looking to start my transition in the next couple of months. I do have an escape plan if things go bad with my family. It's not great but it is there. Fortunately all my friends are supportiv. My family is an unknown though but they are old school Mexicans so I don't think it'll bode well for me there. My brother is okay with it but very lukewarm and kind of uncomfortable about it.
How have poeple treated you out and about?
I'm sure there are a million other things that are important that I can't even think about since I am so new to this.
My biggest fear is, since I use a cane to walk around, I will be basically helpless if someone decides they hate me. Jobs are rather hard to come by already. Did transitioning affect your ability to find work?
THese are the questions I can come up with for now but if there is any other important stuff you may know I am happy to hear about it.
Thanks for your time.
It's something I've come to terms with over many years and I am sure of it now. I am still living with my parents and working in the SOuthern California area.
Are there any fellow blind and trans people out there? How are things with you? If you are transitioning/have transitioned, how have you dealt with harassment from other people? How did your parents react if/when you told them?
I am looking to start my transition in the next couple of months. I do have an escape plan if things go bad with my family. It's not great but it is there. Fortunately all my friends are supportiv. My family is an unknown though but they are old school Mexicans so I don't think it'll bode well for me there. My brother is okay with it but very lukewarm and kind of uncomfortable about it.
How have poeple treated you out and about?
I'm sure there are a million other things that are important that I can't even think about since I am so new to this.
My biggest fear is, since I use a cane to walk around, I will be basically helpless if someone decides they hate me. Jobs are rather hard to come by already. Did transitioning affect your ability to find work?
THese are the questions I can come up with for now but if there is any other important stuff you may know I am happy to hear about it.
Thanks for your time.
Evio 11 points 5y ago
Passing your post to a non reddit user friend of mine, also ftm legally blind.
beadaholic94 9 points 5y ago
I know this might not be very helpful since i don’t have answers for you but i absolutely understand your fears and you are not alone, i am not trans and do not know anyone who is but i can definately see and understand your fears as someone who struggles enough from just being vi i am sorry that i don’t have answers to your questions but i hope you find some comfort in a friendly face that understands
ravenshadow2013 7 points 5y ago
I would suggest that you google a trans support group i your area they would have more wider information for you and may even know of a trans person who is VI
torelma 1 points 4y ago
I can't imagine how terrifying it must have been for you to ask this to a non-trans space and being new to this sub I'm really pleasantly surprised at how great everyone has been so far.
I'm not trans but just as a gay guy, i have a rare degenerative condition called CHM that's sort of like RP but it tends to progress more slowly and only affects people with one X chromosome, so most of the support groups out there are made up of middle-aged straight guys and their moms.
They're really great and supportive, don't get me wrong, but I know there's a lot I won't be able to discuss openly the way I might with friends of my age group, and vice-versa ableism in gay dating spaces can be frankly tiring, so while I can't speak to your experience I think I get part of you're getting at.
That said, a big part of your problem seems to be coming out to your support system, family, friends, and concern with transphobia more than ableism per se, so maybe r/ainbow (or a sub with better trans awareness) might be able to help you out better than we could.
Then again this is a big sub and statistically there have to be other trans people on here, even if they had to PM you to avoid being outed, so I'd be interested to see if anyone comes up with specific resources or support networks that can address the intersectional element of your question. Again, thank you so much for trusting us enough to post here and I hope someone comes up with a more useful response than this.
I'm not trans but just as a gay guy, i have a rare degenerative condition called CHM that's sort of like RP but it tends to progress more slowly and only affects people with one X chromosome, so most of the support groups out there are made up of middle-aged straight guys and their moms.
They're really great and supportive, don't get me wrong, but I know there's a lot I won't be able to discuss openly the way I might with friends of my age group, and vice-versa ableism in gay dating spaces can be frankly tiring, so while I can't speak to your experience I think I get part of you're getting at.
That said, a big part of your problem seems to be coming out to your support system, family, friends, and concern with transphobia more than ableism per se, so maybe r/ainbow (or a sub with better trans awareness) might be able to help you out better than we could.
Then again this is a big sub and statistically there have to be other trans people on here, even if they had to PM you to avoid being outed, so I'd be interested to see if anyone comes up with specific resources or support networks that can address the intersectional element of your question. Again, thank you so much for trusting us enough to post here and I hope someone comes up with a more useful response than this.
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