I am not blind, I would be happy to date a blind person.

I had my left eye removed December 2017. 2 months after my mother passed from cancer. 4 months later I was diagnosed with Uveitis of the right eye. Couple months after that my girlfriend of 4 years told me she couldn’t handle all of it. I was going thru hell and the one person I thought would be there for me just left. I feel your pain. Had a Doc appt yesterday.... he told me by this time next year I’ll be NLP blind. Here’s to having a good year my friends!

Falling for someone who is blind is like that story where you plan a trip to Florence, Italy but when the plane lands your in Amsterdam, Netherlands.

When you imaging a future life partner you will idealise but the reality will be different.

I may comment further later but I'm being summoned to guide someone who wants to go shopping.

I've been with my partner for a long time, so haven't experienced this firsthand. But it's a thing. You might need to focus in areas other than dating apps, which are shallowly focused on photos and a few obvious metrics. Work on yourself, develop skills and volunteer. Allow people to become attracted to you in person, blind people do better after getting over the initial reactions. Unfortunately, dating is all about initial reactions. If you really want to stick with dating apps, get a savvy person (probably but not necessarily female) to have a look at your profile and to snap a few decent photos of you. Own your blindness on your profile. In a way these messages are doing you a favor by weeding out people who can't be serious about a blind person.

Im not blind, but something ive found in dating is that if they have a prejudice against you for something you cant control, they arent worth dating.

I am sorry youve been hurt and i wish you all the best. Youll find someone thats worth it.

What age of women are you going for? The fact that you have a full time job and support yourself to live alone is honestly impressive in this day and age. It’s more than my husband has going for him. I’m going to assume you’re a nice enough person on top of it. I would be more than happy to date you. Maybe it’s a faux pas to say this, but I think I would be more interested in going on a date with you because you are blind. I would love to get to know you and learn about your life experiences. However, I’m 26. I can sadly admit that 23 year old me or younger probably would have been vain and responded the way that girl did. I’m sorry. You’ll find someone.

People are always going to have reasons, however, they're obviously shallow, ankle deep reasons. If someone doesn't want to date you because you're blind, then they obviously are not worth your time. If it wasn't you being blind it would be some other sort of lame answer.

Chin up kid. You don't want to date anyone like that. You want someone who accepts you for the whole you. You are the whole person. These other people are the weak ones.

As a visually impaired person who ranges from blind to just legally blind I just put it out there straight up that I’m albino and I’m blind. I don’t try to explain impairment so I just stick with blind. It tends to weed people out fast and really it just gets easier because you realize that they weren’t worth your time. I’m an independent living college student. I have a lot going for me but I just need help with rides if you want to go on dates or I might need to plan when the busses are running. Not super hard but I found someone who’s willing to love me for me. You’d be surprised how many dudes just couldn’t handle it tho. It was in my bio on tinder so I didn’t have to directly get the rejection in the first wave of dating.

Sighted people are... like that, unfortunately. It happens a lot, with any disability, actually—and you’re not being whiny about it either, because it’s deeply rooted in ableism and assumptions about us.
People do it about me being a wheelchair user, or being Deafblind (or just one of the two), or any number of things, and it’s something that needs to stop because, yes, it does hurt—a lot—because they’re judging us on something intrinsic to who we are.

As for dealing with it, I mostly just tell myself that they’re not worth it; if they think blindness is a deficit and that I’m lesser because of it, they can pretty much fuck off. I (and you, and everyone else) deserve better than for people to hold onto archaic ideas about who and what we are.

I still remember the moment my blind wife, 28 years ago, broke the news that she was "visually impaired" and I could run away now, while chatting on the phone. Little did she know... I am still around! Honestly, it was the best decision of my life to date and marry her.

Quite honestly, I frequent the r/howtonotgiveafuck community a lot.

My face is never going to change, my vision problems are never going to get better. If they can't handle the fact that I'm vision impaired, that's their problem and not mine.

Put it in your profile that you're blind/V.I., take a cute picture of yourself or have a sighted friend help (or even just use the app Be My Eyes for it) and have that up-front. For a lot of people, cuz they're ignorant, it's a deal breaker. Get rid of them right away, they'll only bring you down. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life.

Yes, of course. Who hasn't? It's rare when people actually tell you in so many words, but definitely it happens. I actually prefer if people say. That way at least I know it's because of that and not some other random thing.

As to how I deal with it? Not very well, let's leave it at that.

Hi. I am VI as well. I haven’t dated, but I have experienced what you are going through in a general way. I find it helpful to just be upfront about your blindness and your ability to be capable. I have also been upfront about the other medical issues that I have faced. My disability and chronic illness have greatly impacted my life, but they do not define me. If people do not want to be involved in a friendship with me do to these things, that is perfectly fine. That just leaves room for the people who are worth while. You will find a great person eventually. Maybe try asking a friend to introduce you to someone. I hope that this helps.

I shrug and move on. Plenty more out there and perfectly fine for someone to not be ready or able to handle it in their lives.

This is a fact of life when it comes to online dating. I've been ghosted countless times because I told someone I was blind. At this point all you can do is realize that person isn't worth your time or effort. I know for a fact there are sighted people who don't care about your disability. It takes patience to find them or for them to find you.

It hurts. But it's their right to say no.
There are many reasons why people can't look past blindness. I've heard all kinds of explanations.
There are people out there who will love you for what you are and accept the way you need to live. They aren't always easy to find, but they exist.
I'm sorry you're sad.