My new roomate is blind - need advices/tips about dorm(self.Blind)
submitted by Seiize
Hi everyone,
We used to be three girls (Sam, Chloe and me) in the dorm but Chloe dropped out of school, because her grades were too bad and she didn't want to continue. A while ago, I learned that the vacant bed will be taken by a girl who is in my class.
Anna is nice, she's funny, but she is also blind and we (rommate and I) don't know how we can make our dorm a nice place for her. This is a really new situation for us, so we are looking for advices and tips about how to make our dorm a cosy place for her and not a minefield.
If you also have suggestions of cool activities we could all do together, that would be nice too.
Thanks a lot!
TeamRedwine45 points4y ago
Keep things as organized as you can. Nothing laying around on the floor. Countertops or desks clear. A place for every thing and everything in its place.
As a blind person, I hate searching for things.
Everything else will be pretty much personal. Find out what she likes and doesn't like the same way you would for anyone else.
Share some of your favorite activities with her. If you're not sure how to make them more accessible, look online or ask here or talk with her to figure it out.
I wish you all an awesome semester together and perhaps a long and rewarding friendship, too.
Laser_Lens_413 points4y ago
Looks like people have given good advice already but
Try keeping the kitchen as organized and uncluttered as possible. From personal experience this is the area which needs to stay organized more than any other. Also coffee tables and short furniture are just the worst thing ever.
Good thing is we can memorize layouts pretty quick and as long as they stay the same we'll be (mostly) okay. Fuck coffee tables though.
TwistyTurret11 points4y ago
I live with my boyfriend who is blind and we have 3 basic rules: (1) nothing left in the walking path. (2) knives go point down in the dishwasher. (3) doors are all the way open or all the way closed. That’s about it.
Seiize [OP]2 points4y ago
We discussed number 3 with her and we will take the wardrobe that "block" a bit the pathway, so we're sure that wouldn't be a trap for her. Thanks for bringing that point to my mind.
yourmommaisaunicorn11 points4y ago
Depending on what your dorm allows, some have been able to put duct tape down to provide a sensory reminder of certain areas known to be cluttered. But that’s assuming she likes walking around barefoot. This helped when we had one person who was a bit of a clutter bug. We set the rule where anything inside the duct taped area (again assuming your area is carpeted) can be as messy as the person wanted, but if there was something on the floor outside the duct taped area it was thrown away.
You also want to ensure your door is closed at all times. Nothing worse than leaving your dorm only to bump your head on the door left open.
No matter the arrangement consistency is going to be the most important.
Seiize [OP]2 points4y ago
That's a quite clever idea. We'll need to check if it's allowed, or find another solution. I like to determine some parts of the room where it could have stuff on the floor (as bags, shoes, etc.). We'll need to think a bit about it, but that's quite usefull.
dignifiedstrut7 points4y ago
Very thoughtful of you!
Let her know when you move large furniture, try to keep a sink free of dishes (sucks reaching in and feeling things cuz you dont know if the spatula or whisk you need is in there) and surfaces clutter free. Also if you make grocery runs check with her if she needs anything. Ubering everywhere for her might be a big hassle
Seiize [OP]2 points4y ago
We don't have a proper kitchen in the dorm, just a microwave. However, we're sharing a big kitchen with other dorms and it's pretty clean. This could have been an issue if we had our own kitchen as Sam is quite messy. Putting knives and forks down is also common sense for me.
We usually ask each other if we go shopping, so only one person goes and we have a "emergency grocery" group discussion with the other dorms, so she should be fine! (This was a quite good advice, because I'm not sure that most of the dorms are as helpful as mine).
vwlsmssng2 points4y ago
This applies to anyone however good their sight is, Especially where sharp knives are concerned, they should always be washed and put away immediately.
bottlesnthrottles5 points4y ago
I would suggest asking her how she would like to be assisted, like “would it be helpful for me to describe your surroundings?” And, “would you like to hold my arm for guidance to/from (like maybe at a dimly lit social gathering)?” Please do not make assumptions about what she can and can’t see/do, ask her, and please do not grab her to “show” her the way.
Seiize [OP]2 points4y ago
Thanks for this advice! I would maybe have been that person who wants to help, but is annoying.
We met earlier this week and everything went really good!
anarcap5 points4y ago
Ask her. You don't even know how blind is she. There are many kinds of blindness.
Seiize [OP]1 points4y ago
I was a bit afraid to make her uncomfortable discussing that with her, but I was the one that was the most uncomfortable at first when we talked about it. I'm learning a lot about blindness now and I feel that we are not well informed about it. Thanks for that little advice, I wouldn't have dared to discuss it without you.
ErtaySh4 points4y ago
Others already covered the basics so i will recommend board games for an activity. Let me know if you want specific game recommendations.
Seiize [OP]3 points4y ago
Yes! I would love to have some recommendations from you. She brought a braille card game, so we can easily play simples ones together, or poker. She also loves quiz games and we are planning to go buy some at some point.
ErtaySh2 points4y ago
If you want a mystery solving cooperative game, you should look into Sherlock Holmes Consulting Detective. It is a narrative driven game where you walk the streets of London to find clues to solve a crime.
Another cooperative board game is Pandemic where you travel the world to prevent deadly diseases from killing the world's population.
Dice Forge is a game where you roll dice to gather resources to upgrade your dice and win victory points.
Seiize [OP]2 points4y ago
The first one sounds really cool, I think we'll buy this.
I think one of my friend talked about Pandemic. If it's the one which is difficult to win, I may be able to borrow it.
Great idea about dice game, I'll have a look to this one.
ErtaySh2 points4y ago
Sure these games play well with three people. If you want more ideas check out my blog https://sightless.fun where I talk about board games for the blind.
Seiize [OP]2 points4y ago
Thanks everyone for your help. The three of us met earlier this week and it went really good.
We will need to purchase a few appliance, like a shoes rack to have a place where everything should be placed. She came up with few tips too, we have now little bumpy sticky to put on our belonging (more like bottles and food), so she can know who it belongs to. We still need to figure out some things, like where to put our bags (the first idea was to put them on the top of our wardrobes, but I'm too short to reach it).
I'll go to the gym with her, as she is not that comfortable to be there alone. I'm quite happy about it, because I have a partner now.
tasareinspace1 points4y ago
I'm glad its going well so far! I just had a couple things I wanted to add, and I didnt see them when I scanned the rest of the comments real quick:
open containers. Cups, bottles, the fast food cups with lids. Keep them out of the way if you don't want ALL of your stuff to be sticky.
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watch a couple of youtube videos on human guide technique. If you guys are hanging out together it would be good to know. It's not hard at all, but there's more to it than just letting them hold onto your arm- like going through a narrow passage like a doorway, going up and down stairs, how to give good and useful audio cues.
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If she tells you about her health issues (since blindness is a symptom, usually not just an isolated condition), listen and remember the names. God forbid anything happens to her, you might be the one who is around to let EMTs know that she is blind due to such and such condition, and she's on such and such medication and is predisposed to have such and such reactions.
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You seem like a genuinely nice person, so I don't think this will be an issue, but don't make her accommodations seem like a burden. You don't need to give in to everything she says all the time, but if she needs the light at a certain level (if she has some vision) to do her homework, don't make a big deal about it (unless it's interfering with your ability to do your work).
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Lastly, follow her lead, but have a sense of humor about it. Some people are very sensitive, and than you should probably be on your best behavior. But if she is relaxed, as you get to know each other, you can be too. Don't break into apologies if you say "see you later!" I've never met a blind/VI person who doesn't use terms like 'see a movie' or 'have you seen my hat?'
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