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How should a sighted Person Approach you to speak to you in A Public Setting? (self.Blind)
submitted by LallybrochSassenach
There is a blind man that takes the same train with me almost every day. He doesn't generally talk to anyone but, I see him and would love to strike up a conversation. How is it appropriate to alert him to my presence and ask him about his day?

I realize to not just suddenly sit by him and start yakking away, but since he can't see me coming, I also realize he has no way to avoid me, and I don't want to make him uncomfortable, or as though I am one of those terrible people who would attempt to take advantage of him.

Thanks in advance for any advice!
GoBlindOrGoHome 14 points 4y ago
I would sit next to him, or across; be polite and describe your location. "Excuse me, sir, I'm just to your left" or "I'm just across the aisle from you". Follow up with "I just thought I would say hello, I notice we often take the same train."

The blind and visually impaired are just people.
HDMILex 8 points 4y ago
I disagree with telling him your location - he probably already knows. Just talk to him like a normal guy. If he asks directional questions, go ahead and answer but introduce yourself like you would a sighted stranger. Or compliment him on something unrelated to his blindness.
GoBlindOrGoHome 5 points 4y ago
Not to inform him of your location, but to identify him as the person you're talking to. If I didn't know someone was talking to me, I would ignore them.
HDMILex 3 points 4y ago
Excellent point.
retrolental_morose 1 points 4y ago
Me, too. Perhaps ask if the seat next to / across from him is taken. Personally, I'm always happy with a tap on the shoulder, or a brush on the arm from a stranger to alert me they want to talk to me. But maybe that's unusual?
LallybrochSassenach [OP] 4 points 4y ago
I know that, that everyone is just people. Just don’t want to be an unwelcome intruder.
SlapstickVampire 2 points 4y ago
To me, understanding that they're people is why you asked. It helps smooth over cultural differences to ask.
brimstone_tea 7 points 4y ago
I have that happen a lot (strangers on the train talking to me) and sometimes it's really awkward. Make sure he knows you're talking to him (I often don't get this at first) and if you really have to tell him how awesome it is that he gets by so well, keep it short ... I personally hate to talk about my disability to strangers, but am polite anyway, which leads to people questioning me half an hour about things I don't really like to talk about... Don't tell him that you have been watching him, that always gives me the chills... Just be empathic, you will sense when he does not want to talk.
LallybrochSassenach [OP] 5 points 4y ago
No, I have no desire to tell him “how awesome he gets by.”
brimstone_tea 3 points 4y ago
I am sure you'll figure out how to talk to him pretty fast - and I and most likely all other blind folks appreciate your effort to do everything right really much!!
LanceThunder 3 points 4y ago
i have a similar question. i have a friend who has a lot of vision loss from albinism. we mostly talk over the internet and i only see the guy maybe once a year. when i see him in public i often approach him and start talking to him like i could any old friend. when i approach him should i tell him who i am? its kind of like calling someone on the telephone where you tell a person who you are if they aren't expecting a call from you and don't hear your voice often. it just feels awkward because i wouldn't treat my sighted friends like that.
retrolental_morose 4 points 4y ago
I think the thing to remember to offset that feeling is that with your sighted friends you have a face. So just dropping in your name in the hello, or kicking off the discussion with something uniquely you and your friend so he has the context seems appropriate.

I've had my job 5 years, and still only know with certainty who about 50, 60 percent of the people who speak to me are in a given day.
dankswed 3 points 4y ago
I'm not blind myself (I have partial sight). First off, I think it's awesome that you're interested in getting an opinion about this from those who are visually impaired as opposed to assuming what's best when you clearly wish to be respectful, etc. Anyway, I can only speak from my experience, but I know that sometimes it's best to speak more than show, so saying where you are might actually be helpful; especially if you're across from him. I'd comment first on your taking the same train every day, then see if it's possible to talk to him about whatever it is that "attracted" you to chatting with him in the first place. Much like everyone has said, we are all simply people, but for sure, some considerations are in place, so it's great that you're willing to get empathetic opinions. :)
HDMILex 3 points 4y ago
You literally walk up to him, introduce yourself and see if he shows an interest in talking to you.

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