A friend has asked me to take her lingerie shopping, however she is blind and I want to help her as much as possible but not remove from the experience any advice would be really helpful!
vwlsmssng13 points4y ago
I get to do this often. Blind people need information, like everyone else.
You get to read the labels so the shopper knows prices and fabric compositions.
You get to scan around the store and describe the general layout then maybe suggest a plan of action, The shopper may then ignore you and grab the nearest brightly coloured thing and inspect that. That is OK, be patient, you get to do this all the time without help.
You should speak up if the thing the shopper has missed something obvious e.g. "Did you notice they are crotchless?" If they did that's fine too, if they didn't then it is up to them how they react to the info. Also pointing out special offers and small print on the special offers is helpful.
When trawling through the bargain rails you can pick out the items in their size and offer them to the shopper to see if anything is of interest.
Shopping environments are constructed for sighted people, you can bridge the gap by converting the visual to spoken descriptions.
Take the shoppers lead as to how much and what kind of information they want,
Just be friend and chat about the motivation for the shopping trip. Someone to impress or just out to feel good in fine clothing.
Be patient, very patient as some things will happen much more slowly than you are used to.
Be happy and find the joy in a shared endeavour from a new perspective.
In summary facilitate without directing, make sure it is fun for both.
ilivetofly8 points4y ago
Things you may forget are stuff like pointing out offers, reading price labels accurately and even sometimes things like how the fabric is washed or what it's made from if they are new to the item they are looking for.
Sexy undies are fairly differant to your bog standard undies and feeling the fabric is probably going to be a big part of it.
Try and differentiate your "you need to know this because you can't know it without me telling you" stuff and "I would tell any friend that bra is fugly, visually impaired or otherwise". Often they blur into one because not eveyone spots everything but do try not to wander off randomly like commonly happens when shopping (each person checking their own rack for example) unless it's suggested or you get sent off to go say find a differant size or such.
tasareinspace7 points4y ago
Small thing but: if she is the one shopping, make sure sales people know that they can talk to *her*. One thing I read/hear over and over again is how annoying it is for sales people to ask someone shopping with a blind/VI person "What do they need?" when the blind person is perfectly capable of answering questions on their own.
HDMILex1 points4y ago
Ugh this happened to me a few days ago..at a restaurant with a friend, where I've previously been alone, and spoken with the same staff.
Confrontation usually = denial, however building rapport and having a polite conversation works 95% of the time (unless there's a language barrier.)
vwlsmssng1 points4y ago
>how annoying it is for sales people to ask someone shopping with a blind/VI person "What do they need?"
My approach is just to stare dumbly back at them then look towards my VI companion with a "I don't know, please ask this important person" expression and body language. This seems to work.
ENTJ3516 points4y ago
How easy going is this person? As long as it’s not my parents who has all sorts of opinions about things and likes other people to think them as well, sometimes shopping is fun, on occasion as long as it’s with a friend who describes well.I have this friend who describes everything immensely even walls and decor, and street christmas lights. NO detail sails by his attention. I like shopping with him because he actually describes things with no biase and he describes just about everything. Hey, joe, what’s this? He’ll describe it. A lot of time we’ll just walk around the shop and he’ll voluntarily describe something, so much I have good ideas of what things look like I actually want something. He does market research but I don’t doubt he’d be bad in sales. May be a little too nice though. Oh look at this over here, is a common phrase. And this is pretty neat over here. And look at this, they have these. I promise window browsing was never fun before I went shopping with him and it was an accident. It wasn’t like I asked. I decided to be agreeable and go shopping with him.
If she has more of a agenda I guess you do what she wants maybe read labels maybe you can still describe stuff.
Dragonfly3372 points4y ago
I’m not really sure what the question is
adventurerkatie [OP]5 points4y ago
How do I help her shop for clothing without controlling it and removing from the experience?
Dragonfly3374 points4y ago
Oh, that sounds pretty easy to me. Find out if she has an idea of what she wants to pick out. The key is for her to find something that she likes, it’s OK for you to input your opinion about if you like it but she ultimately has to remember that she’s going to be the one who’s wearing it. So she has the find something that’s comfortable enough for her. It’s okay for you to be state whether you like it or not but at the end of the day it’s her choices. Make sure to show her all her options and what she likes, she likes. How would you handle a situation if you went with a sighted person to go lingerie shopping?
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