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Full History - 2019 - 02 - 08 - ID#aoihpw
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Lets discuss dating with visual impairments or blindness (self.Blind)
submitted by CassieBear99
I'm a 19 year old college student with glaucoma, and wanted to get other people who are both sighted and blind/visually impaired stories on dating/relationships. Really am curious as I don't get much contact with others who are blind/visually impaired
Marconius 7 points 4y ago
I'm 34 and went blind almost 5 years ago. I met my partner a few months after going blind, and she introduced me to non-monogamy, a concept I was wired for but never had the vocabulary or full understanding of it to quantify those feelings until we met. Since going blind, I've had quite a lot of dating experiences so I ended up drafting a primer for dating while blind. I enjoy sending it to matches to peruse after we've arranged for a date but before we actually head out to meet each other.

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Just takes confidence, not being defined by the disability, communication, openness and honesty, and putting the work in. You only get out of dating what you put into it, so it won't go well if you aren't ready to focus on it or dwell on how you assume people will interact with you. I'm a fan of being up front about being blind, and that weeds out people who would otherwise be a waste of time if they cant get over the blindness. Ultimately, just get out there and have fun! :)
HDMILex 4 points 4y ago
Seconding what /u/Marconius said: just get out there, have fun, be open and honest about your blindness and don't give a fuck about what anybody thinks about you being blind. They don't like it? Cool, they can piss off and find somebody who's "able" enough for them and you simply move on to new prospects. They have no problem with you being blind? Fantastic, you scored a match! Proceed as you normally would.

My dear Ex knew I was blind from the start, no issues for her. She judged me based on my accomplishments and character, not my disability.

It can be incredibly discouraging sometimes, but try not letting the people who judge bring you down. There are billions of attractive humans in this world, I can guarantee you that the majority of the worthwhile ones are not stupid enough to judge you based on your disability.

Also my recommendation is to immediately move on if somebody brings up how "difficult" it would be to date somebody who's blind. Don't waste your time trying to "convince" them how able you are, they're not who you're looking for.
CassieBear99 [OP] 2 points 4y ago
Thank you :)
HDMILex 1 points 4y ago
You're welcome :)
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