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This Is What Online Dating Is Like When You're Blind (huffpost.com)
submitted by rkingett
Marconius 3 points 4y ago
I went fully blind 5 years ago, learned how to use VoiceOver, and met my primary partner through the OkCupid app. We are non-monogamous and open, and as I've grown confident in my abilities and blindness, it's worked out much better when I put the blindness front and center in my profile. Have met up with and dated people from OkCupid, Tinder, and through other sites online, plus moderate and maintain a few groups on kik. Online blind dating is fine provided you get offline as soon as possible to assess chemistry, personality, and voice. You've You have to be self-aware, confident in your abilities, not make the blindness a big deal and show how you adapt and do things in different ways than sighted people, and above all else go out and have fun meeting a variety of matches. Each app has accessibility challenges, but they can be overcome, plus it's fun to publically shame companies on twitter that don't make their experiences usable for all users.
Drunken_Idaho 3 points 4y ago
? I’m ignored a lot of the time online because of my disabilities but I also think it’s my weird, strong personality. I definitely throw it all out there, that I’m blind and stutter, that I’ve already written about myself in blogs, that I may be demisexual, but extremely romantic and a very driven activist and writer. I throw it all out there because it forces any players to go running."
What the fuck is a demisexual? I can't even keep track of all the things these days.
I'm gonna go ahead and say it. Online dating for a blind person... just, ya know, might not be the way to go.
Every time they interview one of us in the media its a freak show.
rkingett [OP] 3 points 4y ago
A demisexual is a person who usually does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It's more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships.
Drunken_Idaho 0 points 4y ago
sounds exhausting.
HDMILex 2 points 4y ago
Fuck online dating. It's extremely difficult to make genuine connections on the Internet as someone with a disability. Not impossible though.

Agreed with putting your disability out there. If you don't and they find out later, you'll most likely get ghosted (and you already know why). The people who matter will continue chatting to you.
blind_devotion08 1 points 4y ago
Man oh man am I glad I met my wife before dating online was something I had to consider. Facebook was bad enough, but when there are actual stakes to the game of getting people to be interested in you on the internet, it just sounds like a recipe for emotional disaster.
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rebel_134 1 points 4y ago
So, all that said, I wonder if there are any accessible dating apps?
HDMILex 4 points 4y ago
There used to be The Zone. Then it died because we moved onto mainstream social media.
orioltheoreo 4 points 4y ago
A few years back I wanted to make one. Then I realized that its an overwelming process. But I wish there was one, yeah.
arond3 1 points 4y ago
The problem is not the developpement of the app something basic can do the trick. The problem is that to make it less dangerous for blind people the app will need human verification for every accourt and it's quite expensive to maintain in the long run.
rebel_134 1 points 4y ago
I’m no software developer, but maybe I can learn
orioltheoreo 2 points 4y ago
I am, but coding a web app and integrating it with mobile platforms is way beyond my current skills.
rebel_134 1 points 4y ago
It is fun though, in a way. :)
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