Hmm. What is it like dating a sighted girl as a blind person?
Probably a lot different than it would be if I were on the other side of the equation. But that's because I'm in a little different situation than most of the blind people I know. I was raised in a sighted society for the most part. All of my friends are sighted with the rare exception of about ten people I know throughout the United States who are blind. However, I have no physical contact with these blind friends. I attended public school from fifth grade onward and ... to say that dating was a challenge at first would be to make a huge understatement. I failed over and over again. I had some serious self-esteem issues that impacted my life for many years. The saddest part of all of this is that, for over 20 years I was a professional musician with a rock group called Gypsy Haven. I was the drummer. So you would think probably ... that I had girls galore. You would be wrong in that thinking. I was miserably lonely because I did not understand the fundamental differences between men and women until I realized that if I didn't do something to change things, things would never change.
So I started listening to dating and relationship podcasts and not only listening but ... taking the advice to heart.
Today ... my dating life is much more rewarding although I do still tend to spend more time than I should on people I'm truly interested in when things become a struggle.
But that's who I am.
I don't give up on people because I don't want people giving up on me.
So to answer your question: what is it like dating a sighted girl.
More precisely, what do I see as problems needing quick resolution early in the dating relationship? 1. Do not assume. If I need something I will ask for it. I am not too prideful to ask for help. I don't need the girl to fix my drinks, fix my meals, clean my house, lead me around like a little lamb or be my caretaker or babysitter. I do prefer to travel with my girlfriends by linking arms or holding hands so that makes things easier.
2. I cannot see your eyes so when you use them to communicate with me, it's ineffective. So what I try to do is come up with alternative concepts to eye contact; specific and special touches to simulate a particular type of contact.
Usually I will ask the girl to come up with her own ideas and the interested ones ... the truly interested ones, have never ceased to surprise me with their ingenuity.
3. I need you to pay attention to what I am saying when I am saying it. If you are texting a friend when I'm talking to you and I do not know this, I am saying things you may not at all be receiving. I will not get pissed if you tell me to hold up a second so you can reply to someone. I will, however get extremely put out if I find that you've been absorbed in your phone or some other activity while I've been talking. 4. I don't need everything described to me. It takes a special kind of skill to be really good at describing tv or film to a blind person, leaving out the extraneous and including the important things and it takes practice. I've only had a handful of girlfriends who were really good at this.
. . 5. I like to cook and do a lot of it so I like to make special meals. If you would like to help that would be great and appreciated but it is not necessary.
6. I will take an interest in the things that interest you so take an interest in the things that interest me. Am I saying go out and learn Braille? Absolutely not. But learn what things catch my attention, what things are important to me. Because this is what I will be doing. I believe in studying over my girlfriends, getting to know their likes, dislikes, interests, hobbies and cares. I will remember special dates so don't be surprised at that. I don't expect that back in return but it is nice when it happens.
6. If I text you and continually have to wait a day or two or 3 for you to reply sometimes, I'm going to take steps to break that relationship because it's unhealthy.
Communication is very important to most blind people. I'd say it is the single most important issue to most of us.
Have respect for that and be compassionate and cooperative because it helps a lot and the alternative is ... well ... a relationship killer.

Finally, as for me, I like intimacy, romance, sexual expression and learning new techniques. If you're not up for that then ... you and I probably won't work.

I have written this as if I'm talking to you girls specifically but that's not the case. I'm writing in this fashion for the benefit of any girls who may come across this comment while searching for information about dating a blind guy.

I've tried to be as thorough as I can and there's still a lot I'm leaving out.

Btw, I came across this community while searching for porn that included sighted women and blind men.
Go figure.
lol.
I am not much of a reedit user and have much to learn about this app.

*grown*

Peace and blessings all.

You guys are awesome thank you so much:)

restaurants can be nice, as long as you're willing to read the menu for her, walks in the park are peaceful + healthy if the trails are flat enough for cane use, a movie works if you ask the theater for descriptive audio for her, concerts are real cool even if you can't see the performers (from my experience), or hanging out at your place might make her happy (bonus points if you're a good cook and make something for her). really, i think the best strategy is to ask her where she wants to go.

Awesome reply , thank you

Music events are nice, but interactive exhibits are great too. Many children's museums have plenty of stuff to handle, or listen to. It's not for everyone, but my local zoo has a few rides and a petting area, I enjoy feeding and touching the animals. Discuss your common interests with her and see if you can find a way to make it accessible, if not, be prepared to describe things in detail so she doesn't feel excluded from the activity. Sometimes the impression of an outing is more important than the activity, anything you can do to reduce her stress during an outing will go a long way towards her enjoying herself more, and developing trust. If she has fun, and feels safe while she's out with you, she's more likely to go out more often.

There's also "Netflix and chill", hang out on the couch with snacks, watch shows or movies with audio description, a bonus is the ability to pause for conversation and other distractions.

idk. use your imagination