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How or when to tell someone you’re blind? (self.Blind)
submitted by rebel_134
So I’ve met people that I like, whether on Reddit, Facebook, etc. We hit it off, have a pretty good interaction, but for some reason I never could get around to telling them I’m blind. I think it’s because I’m afraid their perception of me will change? Anyways, how do I go about this? Has anyone else dealt with this situation?
HDMILex 10 points 4y ago
You don't exactly have to let them know you're blind.
But if it's a date, you should probably let them know so you don't waste your time (and emotions) on a scumbag who doesn't wanna date you because you're blind.
But if it's a date, you should probably let them know so you don't waste your time (and emotions) on a scumbag who doesn't wanna date you because you're blind.
rebel_134 [OP] 4 points 4y ago
Thanks. Yeah, if it’s a girl that I actually like and have a crush on, then I might consider telling her.
multi-instrumental -5 points 4y ago
Eh. You can't really blame someone for not wanting to date a blind person. It's not exactly super easy.
AmAsabat 9 points 4y ago
Yeah it is. I’m super easy.
HDMILex 1 points 4y ago
what?
multi-instrumental 1 points 4y ago
Dating anyone with a disability (even minor ones) will almost always be more work when compared to someone who has zero disabilities.
You can't expect everyone to be onboard with everything. Just like some people prefer certain hair colors, etc. Some people don't want to put up with a disability which is completely understandable. I'm not really sure why that's a controversial statement.
You can't expect everyone to be onboard with everything. Just like some people prefer certain hair colors, etc. Some people don't want to put up with a disability which is completely understandable. I'm not really sure why that's a controversial statement.
sneakylittlebitch9 1 points 4y ago
I can and will
multi-instrumental 1 points 4y ago
So you would openly date **anyone** regardless of a major disability? I have a hard time believing that.
It's not exactly the easiest of things dating or marrying someone with a major disability. A lot of the time a significant other will become the primary caretaker.
It's not exactly the easiest of things dating or marrying someone with a major disability. A lot of the time a significant other will become the primary caretaker.
cookieinaloop 7 points 4y ago
If you're going to meet them irl go with "hey I'm blind so I might need some extra help with X or Y, is that okay with you?"
If you won't meet them irl wait until they send you a pic or a gif and say "I can see anything I'm blind lol"
That should do it.
If you won't meet them irl wait until they send you a pic or a gif and say "I can see anything I'm blind lol"
That should do it.
rebel_134 [OP] 1 points 4y ago
And how has that worked for you, when they send you pictures? Just out of curiosity? Were the people you dated open minded at least?
cookieinaloop 3 points 4y ago
My 2 ex boyfriends knew I was visually impaired from the start (I wasn't blind then), so there was no question about that. When my boyfriend and future husband met me I was already severely impaired and got blind even before we started dating, he's endlessly sweet about that and very protective of me. My bad eyesight/blindness was never a question for him (he explains it this way: you are blind and that's one of your characteristics, it isn't good or bad. Just you, and I love you just the way you are).
When friends and acquaintances send me funny videos or pictures and forget to describe them (it happens very often) I say "can't see anything lol describe pls" or just "lol can't see shit" and they go and describe the thing. It is very natural, as it should be, after all you are a completely regular person that just can't see.
When friends and acquaintances send me funny videos or pictures and forget to describe them (it happens very often) I say "can't see anything lol describe pls" or just "lol can't see shit" and they go and describe the thing. It is very natural, as it should be, after all you are a completely regular person that just can't see.
rebel_134 [OP] 3 points 4y ago
That is really cool! I have a pretty close friend who does the same. And thanks! That was a very good way of looking at it :)
ikilledthepromkween 4 points 4y ago
I'm sighted and two of my exes are blind guys. We met on Facebook and they told me during the very first few interactions that they're totally blind and I was fine with it. Still fine with dating blind guys to this day, nothing has changed. In fact, they changed my mind on blind people, not saying I have bad impressions whatsoever but I learned a lot from them
nakzumiMuzkan 1 points 4y ago
Nice! :)
rebel_134 [OP] 1 points 4y ago
That’s cool! :)
Also, mind if I PM you?
Also, mind if I PM you?
ikilledthepromkween 1 points 4y ago
Yeah sure!
ginsenshi 1 points 4y ago
When I was still randomly dating guys, I had a picture of my guy dog in my profile picture just so they wouldn’t be surprised. If you guys I met on grinder were OK except one who my dog didn’t like, but did like his leather seats.
Then again that was also the guy when we were going through Sears he just walked off and didn’t say anything.
The second guy I met on grinder dummy after three weeks with the usual lines.
The guy am with and engaged to, I actually met on Facebook, oddly enough he knew of me before hand through some friends of his.
He is also blind, our dogs got along the first day we met.
Then again that was also the guy when we were going through Sears he just walked off and didn’t say anything.
The second guy I met on grinder dummy after three weeks with the usual lines.
The guy am with and engaged to, I actually met on Facebook, oddly enough he knew of me before hand through some friends of his.
He is also blind, our dogs got along the first day we met.
oncenightvaler 3 points 4y ago
for me I mainly use reddit or apps for the blind, I usually tell people when I feel I can trust them enough and then brace for several questions through the pm system.
aaronespinozaca 3 points 4y ago
Let them know up front. You don't want to wast your time with people that would not want you just because your blind.
rebel_134 [OP] 2 points 4y ago
Quick update. There was a girl I was talking to on Kik, and I figured I would experiment and see how she would respond if I just told her out right. Surprisingly, she seemed very nonchalant about it. Now that she didn’t care, it’s more like it didn’t make a difference and how she has been interacting with me.
AmAsabat 3 points 4y ago
Online I'm pretty upfront about it and make a joke early on about not seeing movie or something like that so it doesn't seem out of place. I don't have people I 'know' or talk to regularly that I've only met online so that's a new prospect.
On my dating profile its up there in number one slot but I make it clear its an advantage as I'm only seeking people who are OK with my status.
On my dating profile its up there in number one slot but I make it clear its an advantage as I'm only seeking people who are OK with my status.
rebel_134 [OP] 1 points 4y ago
Funny, I’m pretty good about disclosing that upfront when I’m with somebody personally, or when I’m on Skype video chatting. By the way, what dating app do you use? Is it accessible?
AmAsabat 2 points 4y ago
Grindr so perhaps given your comments above not the best for you.
nakzumiMuzkan 2 points 4y ago
I'm not open to dating so don't have idea on that matter. But with regards to ppl I met online, I only tell them when I felt they are worth keeping. Maybe 3 months or more, depending on how often we talk. I would say, if you noticed I never reacted to any of your photos, it's because I literally couldn't see it. Start from there. :). .
picture_a_vacuum 1 points 4y ago
With dating, I will either mention it via messages on Tinder once we’ve already established a good conversation, and I like the person. If it’s just a hookup I won’t tell them, it isn’t necessary.
rebel_134 [OP] 1 points 4y ago
Two things. How do you use tender with the screen reader? And secondly, what do you mean it’s not necessary during a hook up? Wouldn’t they find out either way when you’re... ya know...
Lol!
Lol!
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