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Full History - 2019 - 05 - 16 - ID#bpj0u1
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any advice on approaching the blind? (self.Blind)
submitted by KissMePapi
about myself:

im a student living in a dorm. im not exactly an introvert but i do spend a lot of time alone- fantasizing . i often hold onto seemingly meaningless interactions, thinking back what could have been done differently, was there something else i could have said ect. i prolly should stop doing that for the sake of my already deteriorated mental health but im enjoying it too much.

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backstory:

for weeks now, when im in a dining hall, i notice blind people and even tho i spend following HOURS thinking about approaching and working out the different kinks, i have never gathered enough courage to do so. I have never had the chance to interact with anyone alike before and i guess i am too worried i would come off as ignorant or rude when expressing my honest curiosity. only insight i have in their lives is little information i have stumbled upon randomly over the years and this youtuber $1 . today however ,something has changed, walking back from college i have seen this same blind girl from the dining hall waiting on this big crossroad and ran up to her and helped her cross, we ended up chatting and i followed her all the way to her destination. it was a really lovely chat and has left me with a warm feeling on the inside for the rest of the noon

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problem:

now when i have already introduced myself to her, i will have no excuse next time i see her in the hall and will approach her for sure! are there any general tips and pointers, themes to avoid . i have been "researching" for couple hours now but i still dont feel ready. maybe you can help me?
twiggybough 9 points 4y ago
I mean...I think you may be over thinking this and if you dial it back you will realize that they are just a person who happens to be blind. So approach her as a person, and if the fact that she is blind becomes relevant or she brings it up (really no need to bring it up otherwise...)ask how she'd like you to proceed. You may make a misstep, but it certainly wouldn't be the first or last time it ever happened to them and if she likes you she'll just correct you and move on. I'm sure you've covered the rest with your research. Good luck :)
KissMePapi [OP] 1 points 4y ago
thanks a lot for the reply, you are right, i wont forget your adivce
Sarinon 7 points 4y ago
Remember to let her know who she's talking to. And like others said, be genuine. She's a person, not a disability.

Also it's very kind of you to help her cross. She probably didn't need the help but y'know. It's the thought that counts. :3
Nighthawk321 5 points 4y ago
Here's a short video I made on this topic. Hope it helps a little:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OHB_0bxcAsc&t=5s
aussiecrunt 4 points 4y ago
Good video mate. I laughed when you spoke of people making a sound to let you know they are there. Recently i was waiting to cross the road in the moderately busy downtown area, listening intently, when someone said 'ok, let's cross now' from right beside me. Holy hell did I jump! Gave me a fright good and proper.
KissMePapi [OP] 2 points 4y ago
that was exactly what i was looking for, thanks for putting it all in one video, if a specific question crosses my mind ill be sure to ask
Nighthawk321 3 points 4y ago
Glad I could help :).
AquilaArgenti 2 points 4y ago
I wish you the best of luck! Just approach her like you would any other girl.
bradley22 2 points 4y ago
All that’s wrong is that her eyes don’t work the same as yours.

she’ll have interests and things she doesn’t like.
BlindOwl12 1 points 4y ago
Most of us don’t mind being asked stuff, your curiosity isn’t such a big deal imo. Just chill and you shouldn’t have any issues, I cant think of some horrible thing you’d accidentally do or say that would ruin everything for you. We’re used to a Certain amount of bs from people anyway.
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