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What frustrates you the most about being blind or visually impaired? What are your biggest worries or concerns as you grow older? (self.Blind)
submitted by baseballdude12
Sarinon 12 points 4y ago
This is going to sound like a stupid answer, but not being able to pick up a video game and just play it and have fun. Most games I can use accessibility settings and I get a lot of enjoyment out of it, but there are just some games that I straight up can't play and I feel like I miss out on some great experiences.
_bassJunkie 3 points 4y ago
It sucks man. Lately I’ve been struggling with games. I don’t play Call of Duty because that’s most too intense. I can see most games but contrast will ruin it. I was playing Batman Arkham Asylum recently and that game, although really fun, Todd me to pieces because I was playing on hard mode and I couldn’t read the enemies movements in time when in combat. It sucked. A lot was just predicting their movements. And I have RP, so the issue of contrast and detail will just get worse sadly.
Sarinon 5 points 4y ago
I feel ya. BF tried to get me into Halo 3 and I couldn't distinguish between walkable and non walkable terrain, much less make out any enemies. :(
Zamyatin_Y 4 points 4y ago
From a fellow gamer RPer, habe you tried Warframe? It's free and much more forgiving than Call of Duty. If you do try and enjoy it, let me know and we can play together
_bassJunkie 1 points 4y ago
Does it require a beast as rig to play? Coz I use a MacBook Pro and I play my games through PS4 coz I’m a console scrub haha
Zamyatin_Y 2 points 4y ago
Not at all, it's from 2013 and just keeps getting updates for new content. It's also available for PS4 for free, check it out
Sarinon 1 points 4y ago
It's nice to know I'm not the only one!

I must admit I did enjoy the day my WoW guild found out I was legally blind after months of raiding high end content with them. :D
baseballdude12 [OP] 1 points 4y ago
Yeah I’ve found music drifting more and more away from shooters because of my vision, especially since I enjoy multiplayer more. Some are doable but most are such a chore. It’s exhausting in more ways than one.
Gabybleeker 1 points 4y ago
Assassin's Creed 2, Brotherhood and Revelations have a great contrast. Now days I have a ps4 and I have to do some research before I buy a game. I'm looking for contrast, not to much visual information (icons, lot of tekst) and not to much quick pushing of buttons. Also I love auto aim. Currently I play Hitman 2, Until Dawn, Life is Strange and Tomb Raider. Until Dawn makes sound effects when need to push a butten in a certain time. Tomb Raider I find really hard. I'm struggle with the first part because of the contrast. Hope it's gets better.
fbracing02 1 points 4y ago
Same, I stick to mostly retro games now. The low visuals help with contrast
_bassJunkie 10 points 4y ago
Not being fully independent and always requiring a level of assistance. E.g filling out forms, unable to read to read menus, can’t even see street signs. Maybe when Im older, it will get better because I’m expected to be need assistance.
HDMILex 1 points 4y ago
Use Aira if it's financially viable for you. It's pretty damn amazing.
_bassJunkie 1 points 4y ago
What is that?
FantasticGlove 9 points 4y ago
The only thing that frustrates me the most is the perceptions that sighted people have about me. People really need to stop making assumptions about what I can and cannot do. The only things I can't do are drive and fly any vehicle. Everything else, I can do.
HDMILex 2 points 4y ago
Give it 30 years and we'll be self-driving our own $50k vehicles!
fbracing02 4 points 4y ago
The obvious things I find easy to handle like getting transportation. Its the little stuff people take for granted that kills me. Such as not being able to read the size of the socket im looking for or is that a mens restroom or a womens?

On the flip side the best feeling ever is when Ive known people for sometime and Im met with "I had no idea" when I tell them of my vision loss. Or when long time friends are working with me and I have to remind them "yo man I cant read your phone" because they forget. To me it means Im doing something right.
baseballdude12 [OP] 1 points 4y ago
Yes, its incredible how much we can do sometimes even with our struggles. I think some people are genuinely surprised.
cookieinaloop 3 points 4y ago
Every time I think about the amazing things I've read and learnt until now that I know wouldn't be even a possibility for me to read/learn if at the time my vision was as bad as it is now. It makes me think of all the great experiences I'll be missing out from now on simply because they're not meant for low vision/blind people.

There's the "but there'll always be something you can do", but it only makes it worse. I hate feeling like I'll get the scraps of everything I could fully appreciate until not long ago.
ImamBaksh 3 points 4y ago
I see three answers posted here already and all three strike home.

I'm frustrated about having to depend on people for rides. Especially since I used to drive myself around before my condition got worse. Also feel bad about having to ask people for info I know is posted on a wall or menu board to be easily read.

I'm frustrated about being unable to be competitive in some sports and games, like ping pong which my family plays or pool or video games. And same with things like reading the fine print on medication or a receipt etc.

And then there's people judging your abilities when they hear you're blind, so I often hide it. I know that sounds contradictory of the second point since I just admitted to being below capacity in pool and reading, but this is actually something that cuts both ways. I don't want people patronizing me about how brave I am because I decided to go canoeing as a visually impaired person and I don't want people thinking I should be excluded from some activity because I can't handle it.
baseballdude12 [OP] 1 points 4y ago
Yep, having to rely on people is brutal. Then you also feel guilty when you want to organize something but then someone obviously needs to help you get to wherever it is you're going and back. Whether its a night out, gym, etc. It sucks.

Unable to be competitive when you are naturally competitive is so maddening.
HoleMax 2 points 4y ago
What frustrates me the most is looking for something for 20 minutes only to find it was in front of me the whole time on my "blind" side.
BlindBear902 2 points 4y ago
When I have kids some day what happens when there sick from school and need to be picked up and my wife can’t. Or when I’m with them and can’t take them places because I can’t drive. Needing something simple at the store and having to rely on others to take you. I don’t have a wife right now or kids but those are some common problems that will happen I bet. Not being able to see family when you want to.
baseballdude12 [OP] 1 points 4y ago
Yep. Transportation is the biggest one. Wanting to be there for people / offer help, but can’t, is so infuriating.
bscross32 2 points 4y ago
Transportation, always being on someone's schedule, whether that's Uber, Lyft, the bus, a cab, paratransit, etc. Not driving, not flying. I've wanted to be a pilot all my life and have studied it in great detail.
baseballdude12 [OP] 1 points 4y ago
Yep. Everything becomes a 1.5 hour commute or more.
TheBlindBookLover 2 points 4y ago
I am most frustrated at the fact that my blindness impacts where I will live and work post college simply because I cannot drive. I enjoy live living in the suburbs and would be willing to drive to larger cities for work if I were sighted. However, I will either need to deal with the higher costs of living in a larger city or attempt to find work here in the suburbs. One of the VI teachers that I worked with who is also blind told me that the day that driverless cars are made legal for the blind, he will call in sick to work and will be the first person at the car dealership before it opens.
baseballdude12 [OP] 1 points 4y ago
Have you thought about working remotely?
OutWestTexas 2 points 4y ago
My main frustration is from not being able to drive anymore.
baseballdude12 [OP] 1 points 4y ago
Yep this is a big one.
ukifrit 1 points 4y ago
Not being able to watch judo stuff. I could get a lot more insights from watching world championships. Yeah, that's stupid but I love judo.
baseballdude12 [OP] 2 points 4y ago
Totally understand this This goes for many sporting events
ukifrit 1 points 4y ago
I feel this even worse because I'm a judoka myself. I of course can ask friends for descriptions, but I'd like not to need them every time I want to check how hasimoto does is favorite technique or whatever.
Mokohi 1 points 4y ago
For me, travel bothers me the most. I hate the feeling of helplessness that comes with being forced to follow others' schedules instead of making my own. I live in a small little town and mass transit doesn't come through here. I have to rely on family, and if they're running late? I'm out of luck.
baseballdude12 [OP] 2 points 4y ago
Yeah that is definitely a pet peeve Even worse when you’re dependent on them.
ColonelKepler 1 points 4y ago
All the things that have already been said here, mainly relying on others for transportation/assistance. I want so badly to help in return, to feel useful and like I have something to contribute, but too often I've got nothing. The biggest thing for me though (I know this will sound dumb to a lot of people) is that I can't "just do things". There's always so much planning and adaptation involved. I just wish that literally everything wasn't a chore, you know? Much of my frustration comes from a lack of skill, particularly with O&M, but all the skill in the world wouldn't make my problems go away. I want to go for a walk without the cane and constantly thinking about terrain/landmarks? Well, Guess I'll have to go with someone else. Same for running, hiking...you get the idea. So I'm always in the presence of another person who has their own schedule, might want to talk to people I don't know, etc. I'm grateful, don't get me wrong, and I have awesome people in my life, but god damn it I want to do all that shit on my own, without stressing about some blindness issue. I'd just like to be carefree for a while, which I guess is something everyone wants. I could go on, but I was planning on keeping this relatively short. Apologies for the wall of text.
baseballdude12 [OP] 3 points 4y ago
No need to apologize. Your wall of text could help someone not feel so alone in this crappy situation.

Feeling so helpless and useless when all you want to do is help/be there for people is one of the worst feelings in all of this. Makes holidays / birthdays crappy too when you basically have to tell someone to drive you to where you're taking them out to eat :/.

Yep, I don't think the people around us realize how tiring and mind numbing it becomes. Day after day you basically have to work 3x as hard to do even minor things.

I'm there with you, wanting to break free feels impossible some days. It's really really tiring.
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