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Question from a sighted person: when taking accessibility things aside, what kinds of *behavior* of people causes problems in your day-to-day life when they fail to think things through from your perspective? (self.Blind)
submitted by mmsh
cookieinaloop 20 points 4y ago
Things would be so much easier for me if people said their names (and possibly from where we know each other) upon greeting me. Like "Hi! Mark here from X class". I don't recognize casual faces anymore and my voice recognition system is not so good when we have only talked for a few minutes once or twice.
benee16 11 points 4y ago
I totally agree with you. There have been so many instances where people just come up to talk to me as if they are my best friend and I have no idea who they are and how they know me, and I feel foolish for not remembering them while they are chatting away.
Lynecia 5 points 4y ago
Yupp and then you slowly try to piece together who they are based on what they're saying. And then when you finally think you know who they are, you make a comment related to that person. They then are super confused and you know you guessed wrong 😂
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cookieinaloop 6 points 4y ago
I have some more, but I think most of them are very specific and every blind person will have their own set of preferences, so if you have a blind person in your social circle it would be nice to ask them if they have something to add to the list.

I'm in college right now and I face a big issue while walking from class to class on corridors or up or downstairs. People tend to just sit or lay on the floor or on the steps and spread their legs or be completely silent on their phones. Even though I use a cane, it's a metal cane that can really hurt someone if I hit them on the face or belly with the normal walking speed momentum. It would be a lot easier if people would stay out of the middle of the corridors and off the steps on a staircase, or if they at least made some noise so I could know they were there.

I also have a bad time when people who do not know my condition yet try to handle me things or shake my hand. I simply don't see. I greet people with hand waving instead.
CloudyBeep 5 points 4y ago
Normally, I feel partially responsible if I hit someone with my cane, but not for those people sitting on the ground in a busy area. If people want to sit in a walkway and not be hit, it only requires a couple of words to let me know that I should try and avoid them.
benee16 4 points 4y ago
As for the electric scooters parked outside a marketplace, I can see how that would be an issue. I have partial vision, and what is problematic for me is when markets put full displays outside in the spring and summer for plants and sometimes fruit, or goods. It is so hard to navigate my way to the entrance with the displays and people and their carts blocking the sidewalk and entryway.
benee16 5 points 4y ago
So another pet peeve of mine is when people stop to read their phone right in the middle of the walkway or door entry. I've plowed into a few people that way. Not very smart.
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BlindWarriorGurl 4 points 4y ago
The best way to go when it comes to this is set an example. Like whenever I greet someone **I** say something like "Hi! It's Zoe from science class." Eventually they follow my example and do it too.
cookieinaloop 2 points 4y ago
I've been trying to start doing this but it is so hard when the place/people are not new to you. Best thing to do, though.
bscross32 3 points 4y ago
Furthering this, if you wave at me, I won't see you, then you'll think I am rude, and won't want to talk to me, but I will have no clue why you're all the sudden brushing me off. So, if you see me, shout out, because I cannot see you waving.
cookieinaloop 1 points 4y ago
I forgot to mention this. You have to shout out while waving, or the waving will be just like the head nods.
_Night_Wing 3 points 4y ago
YES! Then even if I ask them who they are because I can't see them they get mad. "You mean you don't remember me?"
Myntrith 3 points 4y ago
When I was taking care of mom, it was usually just the two of us in the house. Sometimes people would visit, though, including my brother. And she couldn't always tell my voice from my brother's.

On some of those occasions, I would be walking through the house, and she'd ask, "who's there?"

I'd say, "it's me." Then I'd do a mental facepalm and say "it's <my name>".
noaimpara 3 points 4y ago
This how my god i think that’s why everyone thinks I’m so rude at university haha
cookieinaloop 6 points 4y ago
I had a reputation of "arrogant bitch" I only knew about years after my first semester. I was always confused as why people would ignore me or go away when I tried talking to them. It turns out they've been greeting me from a distance in some open areas and I didn't respond (because I had no idea they were there), so they thought I was rude and isolated me completely. That's one reason why using the cane is important even when you are not fully blind.
bscross32 4 points 4y ago
Yep, peeps can wave at you and all that and you not even know, then it spreads and no one talks to you.
noaimpara 2 points 4y ago
I just finished my first year and I think that’s the reason I didn’t make more than a friend! Like, I’d have a nice chat with someone in class then never see them again oof
benee16 1 points 4y ago
I have had the same problem with people where I live. When my kids were small, people would see me walking around town and wave or call hello as they drove by or ask us if we want a ride, and I had no idea who they were. So little by little I could feel people not responding to me like I was an alien bitch. I wished I had used my cane more just as a indication for them. People I know better, say their name when they see me. I wish everyone would.
oncenightvaler 2 points 4y ago
this one for me as well, I am totally blind and like 7/10 of the time I am great with voices, but that other 30% is just sad.
annibear 14 points 4y ago
Peoples' perceptions that I \*want\* a guide dog. I have people come up and say "wow, you're so lucky you get to bring your dog everywhere!" and I'm like...gee...it's because I'm blind...

I also had a roommate word for word tell me the only reason I had a guide dog was because I "wanted" to be blind and have one. Yeah, uh, sure.
benee16 9 points 4y ago
As far as guide dogs, boy have I seen some rude people thinking they are being nice. While I may have low vision, which does not at this time necessitate a guide dog, my friend has one. We have gone so many places where I've seen people trying to give her dog treats sneakily, without asking. Boy do I give them the what for. How do they know if the treat is safe for the dog, or if he may be allergic, not to mention that he is working and they are being a distraction. Then they have the gall to be mad thinking they are doing something nice. DO NOT INTERACT WITH A WORKING DOG WITHOUT PERMISSION!!!
intrepidia 3 points 4y ago
and guide dogs are a magnet for sketchy people. My buddy who has a guide dog has a default name of George when inevitably that sketch person asks the dog's name
CloudyBeep 3 points 4y ago
A cane serves my needs just fine. I would find a dog an inconvenience. But people don't seem to be able to fathom why I wouldn't want one.
annibear 2 points 4y ago
I can get around just fine with a cane and do when I travel internationally, but for my set of specific circumstances, a guide dog is much easier for me. For me it's just the implication that I'm lucky I get to bring a dog everywhere, hence that I'm lucky to be blind, when in fact me going blind seems like the opposite of luck.
ukifrit 11 points 4y ago
When people try to helping me by not asking what I need. Like, I'm walking on a street and a stranger grabs me by the shoulder/arm to, hmm, help me cross to the other side without even knowing if I want to do it.
Lynecia 6 points 4y ago
100%. Please, no one wants to be dragged around by a complete stranger with no introduction.
CloudyBeep 5 points 4y ago
It's amazing how "good" people's mind-reading skills must be.
BlindWarriorGurl 3 points 4y ago
That would scare the crap out of me.
bscross32 2 points 4y ago
I can't say I've ever had this happen, but heard from others, a lot of others that it has happened to them, so yeah... ugh.
ravenshadow2013 10 points 4y ago
I walk a lot, and one of my BIGGEST pet peeves is when people work so diligently on their landscaping but forget to trim their trees allowing them to hang out onto the sidewalks, yeah great your yard looks beautiful but for godsakes trim the damn trees
bradley22 1 points 4y ago
Yeah, that’s so annoying.
brimstone_tea 9 points 4y ago
When in tight places like shops or on public transport people want to pass but me or my dog are in the way, they either just stand there and make some annoyed noise or they just step over my dog.
Jesus f.cking Christ just talk to me.
Masacrenecro 3 points 4y ago
Had the same issues with small/ tight public doorways. I have no idea that you’re in the other side of it, I just need to leave the store what do you want from me?!
noaimpara 2 points 4y ago
Sitting next to the damn stair ramp, angers me every time
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