Hey! I am bored and found those Reddit by chance and I am Soo excited. I(27f) am married (27m) and have a sweet little one that is three. She loves all things girly and glitterly. I am not discovering the struggles of explaining to her how little I see. Most of the time she is great! She helps me even which I adore but my sturggle comes when she asked me to paint her nails or do other things like that so It got me to thinking. Are there any other legally blind or blind parents out there and what are your tricks to getting around some of the hurtles you face with your children? I'd love to know.
sometging_beautiful [OP]7 points4y ago
I should mention where we live I have no family support. My family is in another state however my husband does it for her so that is super sweet.
benee164 points4y ago
Ugh painting nails. I used to get clear nail polish. It was more about the fun of doing it, than having it be perfect. I also found stickers for nails, and gem stickers for nails. Eventually when my daughter was older, we found nail stamps, that we painted the stampers and stamped our nails, then used a clear polish on top. Wa la, beautiful nails. You could also do a search on creating a kiddie spa day, where you make the mask and foot rub and stuff like that. She would probably like that.
KillerLag2 points4y ago
Two little tricks that help with nail polish. Put them in the refrigerator, so when you are applying the polish, you can feel where it is going (because it is cold).
The other trick is to use vaseline to put on your skin around your nails. You can paint the nails, and it doesn't matter if the nail polish gets on the vaseline, because you can wipe it off after. It doesn't quite look as good, though.
i_love_family3 points4y ago
Are you ne? Im legally blind, got a3 year old girly tomboy girl znga a6 month girl. Husband is totally blind and is a stay at home dad.
Nails, check, she did hers and mine today!
I don't know about tips and tricks, I'm iiib the same boat! But I am loving these comments. The 3yo looooves to help, but we know she can't help with everything. So patience is key.
I also am trying to teach her that I need my phone to read her books, but she's ends up never finishing a book because of how cumbersome it is. But these comments gave me an idea. I'll do my own recording!
Our biggest struggle is getting her to socialize... not because she's shy but that she wants ri pay with EVERYONE she sees. Barely anyone will. We're can't get around very easily. Bit im thankful for my new apartment, it seems there's a lot of kids, but I don't know how to do proper playdate. Im deaf and have a hard time speaking to new people.
benee163 points4y ago
Another thing is that you can direct her into activities you like, that she might be able to learn, like baking cookies, making meals with you or maybe crafting things. I did a lot of things with play do at the table using a plastic table cloth that I could gather and shake out in the backyard after everything was done. I also would work on letters and numbers by using puff paint to make them and have my kids trace them with their fingers, and crayons. I don't know if you read braille at all, but Hadley is an online school where you can learn braille. Here is their website. $1 You can learn to read basic braille, and then be able to label things to help you out. I received a labeller midway through the Braille 1 course and a stylus and slate in the braille 2 class from the free school. You can use this braille knowledge to get brailled cards, and books too. Maybe that might be helpful for you.
LBDazzled2 points4y ago
Stacy Cervenka is a columnist for U.S. News & World report who writes about parenting while blind. She hasn't had a new column in a while, but it might be worth checking out her old stuff for tips...
I don't know how much you can see, or have ever seen, but there are clear polishes with glitter and shapes in it that can be just as fun as colored polish, and much more forgiving than actual colored polish. There's also colored polish pens that I've found at the dollar store that could work well for you to be able to feel and control the polish.
You can also try tape around the shape of her nails to avoid polish on her fingers and cuticles, or even petroleum jelly. You can also have hubby check her over once you're done to make sure that there's no stray polish.
When she's older, or now if she has good fine motor skills, you can absolutely have her tape up around her nails as a preperation for spa time, as well as doing hair treatments, maybe even hair chalk or kool-aid dyeing if she's interested in colored hair.
besteve32 points4y ago
I am legally blind and have a 5 year old daughter. My mom is great and paints her nails when she wants them (makes me feel bad but I have accepted there are things I can’t do). I also struggle with reading to her at times. Right now the books she reads are really a nice size print but there are books I have to tell her are daddy read books not mommy read books and she gets that. I also struggle with playground. She likes to go after school so I make her keep her bright coat on if she wants to play. No coat no play. I have marked medicine cups with medicine to the dose she should have then pop off the puff paint and move it as needed. There are things that are hard and I am a nervous wreck when we go to the store. My daughter shows signs of adhd so she can be all over the place but we keep working on it and how she has to stay with mommy. When she started walking we put bells on doors so I would hear it (they were also locked but they can learn to undo those and she did quick). Bells give me a heads up. Just a few ideas.
benee165 points4y ago
You could also get audio kids books to read along with the regular print books so that as she gets older, you both get to enjoy the stories and time together. When kids are young, its all about the repetition. Having dad read the book while she puts her pointer on each word, then maybe you could have puff paint dots put under each word of her favorite books so she can help read along with you as you listen. As she gets older, she will be the reader of the books and you get to hear the story.
HDMILex1 points4y ago
What kind of bells?
besteve32 points4y ago
I just used the ones you find at Christmas ok strings (the medium and large round ones). The large ones made better noise as they also bangled a little on the door. We zip tied them to the handles then cut them off when she got bigger. She is going to be 6 next week and is better about it now. I still have one on the front door just in case. The backyard is fenced and we have clips on all the gates so we let her go in and out on nice days while I am right there in the kitchen.
aaronespinozaca1 points4y ago
The NFB has a parents division. They may have some resources that can help you out. https://www.nfb.org/our-community/parents-blind-children
sometging_beautiful [OP]1 points4y ago
The link you have lists info for parents of blind children but my case is the opposite. I am the paremt that is visually impaired.
aaronespinozaca1 points4y ago
I am sure they have resources for parents that are blind raising a sighted child.
sometging_beautiful [OP]1 points4y ago
I didn't see anything.
GoneVision1 points4y ago
Totally blind dad here of a 14 and an 18-year-old. While it’s challenging, everything side of parents do, you can do, too. There is a great Facebook group that has a few thousand blind parents in it. Look up blind parents in the groups section of Facebook, and join.
TheBlindBookLover1 points4y ago
Hi. If you can read Braille and are willing to purchase a refreshable Braille display (the Orbit is a great low cost option), you could connect it via Bluetooth to a smart phone or tablet. You could then read downloaded books to your daughter. If you do not know Braille, you could create a PDF of a book by using a PDF maker app and zoom in on the text on your smartphone or tablet. Your daughter could then follow along on the physical copy of the book. I hope that this helps.
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