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proud of yourself for achieving something that others find unbelievably easy (self.Blind)
submitted by justpastie
i hate how bad i end up feeling after i feel proud about myself for achieving or doing a simple task then realising others find it easy or don't even think about doing it.
it's hard to share my achievements with other people in my life without being embarrassed by how mundane and simple they are.
sometimes we don't get enough credit for managing to live and complete even the simplest of tasks.
for example, my sight is very bad but not completely gone. for the past 5 years i have practiced my eye makeup routine and i honestly am proud of how i manage it. i also have never been able to paint my nails or anything like that, i used to try but it ended up a mess. recently i have been practicing with clear polish - yes, i have to redo it 10 times before it is acceptable but at least i tried.
when things go wrong however, i always feel so ashamed and embarrassed for trying in the first place.
frustrating shit.
it's hard to share my achievements with other people in my life without being embarrassed by how mundane and simple they are.
sometimes we don't get enough credit for managing to live and complete even the simplest of tasks.
for example, my sight is very bad but not completely gone. for the past 5 years i have practiced my eye makeup routine and i honestly am proud of how i manage it. i also have never been able to paint my nails or anything like that, i used to try but it ended up a mess. recently i have been practicing with clear polish - yes, i have to redo it 10 times before it is acceptable but at least i tried.
when things go wrong however, i always feel so ashamed and embarrassed for trying in the first place.
frustrating shit.
bscross32 4 points 4y ago
If you always frame your thoughts based on what others are doing, most likely, you'll end up disappointed. Are you doing something you haven't been able to do before? Sounds like it to me, so it's a good thing. You have to set your own goals and not the goals you think you should set based on what others are doing.
jrs12 4 points 4y ago
I might not be the best person to respond, but since no one else has yet, the best I can do is offer up my own experience and hope it helps you in some small way.
I used to be a very good runner. It wasn't uncommon for me to win my age group or whole races. Then life happened, I gained weight, and I'm not as fast. I'm also training for totally different races now. Instead of training for a 5k, I now train for 13+ hour endurance events. Even if I was still my fastest, a 5k pace isn't what you want for a real long race. Still.... when I'm out training and my feet are barely moving, and I look down at my watch and see that I'm not even doing 10 minute miles when I used to be able to bust out 6 minute miles like it was my job, I feel fat, slow, and inadequate. I feel totally embarrassed for anyone witnessing the mess that is my shuffling down the street. I can get into a really negative frame of mind.
I have to remind myself though that we all have different goals. 5k champion me would never be able to do the races I'm doing now. It's not fair to compare the two because they aren't the same. Just the same that an accomplishment for you might not be an accomplishment for someone else. It's important that you know where your limits are so that you don't have to wait for anyone else to be proud of you when you go beyond them. Others are going to think what they want. Only you can know what you expect from yourself.
I used to be a very good runner. It wasn't uncommon for me to win my age group or whole races. Then life happened, I gained weight, and I'm not as fast. I'm also training for totally different races now. Instead of training for a 5k, I now train for 13+ hour endurance events. Even if I was still my fastest, a 5k pace isn't what you want for a real long race. Still.... when I'm out training and my feet are barely moving, and I look down at my watch and see that I'm not even doing 10 minute miles when I used to be able to bust out 6 minute miles like it was my job, I feel fat, slow, and inadequate. I feel totally embarrassed for anyone witnessing the mess that is my shuffling down the street. I can get into a really negative frame of mind.
I have to remind myself though that we all have different goals. 5k champion me would never be able to do the races I'm doing now. It's not fair to compare the two because they aren't the same. Just the same that an accomplishment for you might not be an accomplishment for someone else. It's important that you know where your limits are so that you don't have to wait for anyone else to be proud of you when you go beyond them. Others are going to think what they want. Only you can know what you expect from yourself.
Carnegie89 2 points 4y ago
Be proud of your achievements. There are always people who can't do what you are capable of. Have you checked out a YouTuber named Molly Burke? She has some makeup tutorials and she is blind.
I have noticed my sisters use some type of nail guard to apply various colours. Find someone local who is good with makeup and stuff. Maybe they can help you learn how to apply the stuff.
I have noticed my sisters use some type of nail guard to apply various colours. Find someone local who is good with makeup and stuff. Maybe they can help you learn how to apply the stuff.
oncenightvaler 1 points 4y ago
I have times in my life where I feel proud of myself and times where I feel I don't know nearly enough and am behind everybody.
I went by myself a few cities away for an evening of concerts, I needed a lot of help to navigate once I left the bus station, but got food independently at the park and found spots to sit independently.
At the same time I look at my sister and one of my other best friends and they were working across the ocean in Europe, and I don't have a job just a degree in English Literature.
I went by myself a few cities away for an evening of concerts, I needed a lot of help to navigate once I left the bus station, but got food independently at the park and found spots to sit independently.
At the same time I look at my sister and one of my other best friends and they were working across the ocean in Europe, and I don't have a job just a degree in English Literature.
[deleted] 1 points 4y ago
I feel you but you just carry on because the best thing is you know you've done it. Good job on the makeup BTW!
Personally, my sight isn't great and I can barely see 3 meters ahead of me. So when I learnt how to catch trains at 19(im 23 now) I was so proud of myself. And now the funny thing is I'm in a job that requires a lot of travelling so I'm nervous everytime. Although, as you mentioned, it seems to be a very simple task for someone else, it was a huge step for me, as it was with you.
Personally, my sight isn't great and I can barely see 3 meters ahead of me. So when I learnt how to catch trains at 19(im 23 now) I was so proud of myself. And now the funny thing is I'm in a job that requires a lot of travelling so I'm nervous everytime. Although, as you mentioned, it seems to be a very simple task for someone else, it was a huge step for me, as it was with you.
justpastie [OP] 1 points 4y ago
i pretty much never leave the house, too terrifying
[deleted] 1 points 4y ago
Totally understand. Been there too many times. Still can't use an ATM, cos I can't see the numbers, although have heard that they are trying to make it more accessible for visually impaired users.
Nowadays I've told myself what can go wrong, you'll get a few weird looks or someone asking a question (normally politely) cos you don't look blind/visually impaired. I've had a few 'cringes' in airports cos I walked the wrong way or didn't know how to scan my boarding pass but you just laugh about it and move on. I still remember all of those moments where my vision, or lack thereof, clashed with everyday things and I think what I could have differently but hey. Sorry for the long essay
Nowadays I've told myself what can go wrong, you'll get a few weird looks or someone asking a question (normally politely) cos you don't look blind/visually impaired. I've had a few 'cringes' in airports cos I walked the wrong way or didn't know how to scan my boarding pass but you just laugh about it and move on. I still remember all of those moments where my vision, or lack thereof, clashed with everyday things and I think what I could have differently but hey. Sorry for the long essay
justpastie [OP] 2 points 4y ago
i know in the uk, atm and cashpoints have headphone jacks. i didn't know this until i was ranting about it online and someone told me. Then i got someone to come with me to my local town and check the cashpoints. Most of them have headphone slots, they are hard to find at the beginning but i just ran my hands over the machine until i found it. it talks through how the machine works and it has button shortcuts so you don't need to find buttons that are far apart and hard to see.
justpastie [OP] 1 points 4y ago
https://youtu.be/Jzah0A6IC5o
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