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Would you rather as a blind person date another blind person or a sighted one? (self.Blind)

submitted by djflex90

I’ve dated both and I’ve found that for me dating other blind people is a lot less stressful. You rarely have to explain things they just get it most times. And they don’t move your stuff randomly lol yes I have dated both

KillerLag 4 points 3y ago

I think part of it is a matter of shared experiences. When you date someone who also have vision loss, they understand a lot more about why you like things a certain way, or why you do something that not everyone else does.

djflex90 [OP] 1 points 3y ago

Yes this is my experience. I find it easy to date a blind person for a few reasons.

oncenightvaler 3 points 3y ago

I don't have much experience dating, but it would be a treat to write love letters in Braille, instead of just communicating in texts.

BlindTech69 3 points 3y ago

Having been with both, I can honestly say that I would rather be with a sighted person and I am. I have been with a sighted person for over 10 years now, and in my opinion is the best thing that ever happened. If anything, she has help me become more independent not less. I moved out of my parents basement for myself. They were overjoyed. My family definitely did not want me to turn out like a lot of people that went to a blind school. They discourage me from going to friends places two that were sheltered.

djflex90 [OP] 3 points 3y ago

This is actually interesting. I’m not going to lie, there were definitely a lot of advantages with being with a sighted person in the fact that they could show you a lot more. But me personally, I enjoy the fact that because people have to learn to do things different ways, we can bounce ideas and techniques off of one another with little explanation nor understanding needed. I will also say that your partner does not determine your independence. If you got out of your parents house early, that was because of you not because you’re dating a sighted person. I’ve dated mainly blind people my entire life with the exception of one, and my independence did not come from them, it came from myself. Not saying that your viewpoint is wrong though just wanted to make that clear.

BlindTech69 1 points 3y ago

I understand that, I could’ve worded that differently my apologies. I totally get what you’re saying though as well.

HDMILex 3 points 3y ago

Doesn't really bother me. Sighted for convenience, blind for true understanding.

But it's all about the connection honestly. I've dated both. Sighted ex didn't give a fuck that I was blind and even claimed she hardly even noticed.

djflex90 [OP] 1 points 3y ago

Exactly my experience.

soymilknhoney 2 points 3y ago

Sighted person here, what do you mean by moving stuff randomly? It’s something I never thought about.

djflex90 [OP] 2 points 3y ago

OK so example. You walk into the door from work and toss your keys on the counter. Well say the next day you walk in the door from work and you toss your keys on a different counter, or the kitchen table, or the mantle that you walk past when you walk in the front door. Blind people depend on having their things in the same place every time, because we can’t just glance into a room and spot it. I’m not saying that this is a bad thing sighted people do because you guys have the ability to cover large areas at one time with your wide field of view. Our hands have a very narrow field of view, so we would have to spend more time searching a room to find that same item. Hope this makes sense

soymilknhoney 2 points 3y ago

Ah I understand. That makes so much sense now that I think about it! I’ll be aware of that now

hopesthoughts 1 points 3y ago

What? I never put anything in the same place lol.

Marconius 2 points 3y ago

Why not just date both and get the best of both worlds?

djflex90 [OP] 1 points 3y ago

Depends on what each person wants. I’ve dated both

dankswed 2 points 3y ago

Did you ever find that your blind partner tried to explain things to you in a way that was "not quite right"? As in, your experience was not exactly theirs.

djflex90 [OP] 2 points 3y ago

Yes plenty of times. I enjoy that we both have different experiences and skill levels so we can feed off of and learn from one another

dankswed 2 points 3y ago

Oh good! I worried that that could get frustrating.

djflex90 [OP] 1 points 3y ago

It definitely can be frustrating but a lot of times it really depends on your perspective.

soundwarrior20 1 points 3y ago

As long as the person is cool blind or sighted doesn’t matter to me

HermioneGainser 1 points 3y ago

I’ve never dated someone who isn’t fully sighted. I’m just not really around others who are visually impaired/blind.

djflex90 [OP] 1 points 3y ago

Suppose it all depends on perspective and personal experience. I have met the people your speaking of but I’ve also met some extremely cool ones too.

AllHarlowsEve 1 points 3y ago

Sighted. I've met way too many blind people who are either dependant on mommy and daddy or the other end of the spectrum, total snobs about blindness and about the correct way to be blind.

Plus, it's rare as fuck to meet a non-christian, non-bigotted blind person. Heard so many woke people randomly spout some homophobic/transphobic shit.

bscross32 0 points 3y ago

Blind people can be fuuuuuuuucked... up, so no, I'd much rather date a sighted person.

djflex90 [OP] 1 points 3y ago

Yes we can be but sighted people are also not immune from this

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