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Full History - 2019 - 09 - 22 - ID#d7rsab
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Question for Visually Impaired parents (self.Blind)
submitted by anoutsidethinker1
Hi,

I have limited, degenerating peripheral vision. I have a two year old. I am curious how people on this channel manage toddlers in public? I’m constantly anxious about losing my child and not being able to find them. I’m teaching my child to hold my hand when we’re together but don’t want to limit curiosity. We’ve done things like baseball games and other public activities and we try to get out together. I’m curious if anyone has suggestions for managing a toddler while having visual impairment? Leash backpacks? Teaching the child to be responsible for holding my hand/staying close?

Thank you!
AndAdapt 8 points 3y ago
I am a blind parent. Was a case of teaching them to hold hands and check in. They know you can't see so they learn to do these things with no hassle.

They do play a ninja game where they try and sneak up on me. They are however, a lot louder than they think they are!
anoutsidethinker1 [OP] 1 points 3y ago
Thank you for sharing! I really appreciate it!
AndAdapt 1 points 3y ago
No problem. If you have any other questions feel free to send me a message
djflex90 2 points 3y ago
Not a parent but have watched a lot of blind parent and hope to be one soon. Now this may be silly but put bells on the shoes. Can in most situations hear them walking or running
chrystalalex 2 points 3y ago
I am a totally blind mum. when my son was pre-language, I used to attach a cat collar with a couple of bells on it around his upper arm like a bracelet. That way, I could hear where he was around the house. As for being out and about, he just seemed to know that he had to hold my hand. As he grew older, I impressed upon him, the importance of answering whenever I called him. I tried the leash thing, but didn't much like it. I would suggest you start implementing things now that you are going to have to do then, so as it doesn't come as a total culture shock to your child.
Fange_Strellow 2 points 3y ago
I am a soon to be blind parents and have had discussions about this. One of the techniques I will be using will be a leash when they are younger. I’m not sure how many people view this positively, but I just see it as a good way to go. When they grow older, I will retire the leash, but I remember a few too many times of myself as a little one wandering off and then getting scared when I could not find my way back to where I was supposed to be. I am fortunate that I also have a great guide dog who has already begun to shows signs he is anticipating my family’s new arrival, and so I think he will also help out in keeping track of my future little one
8i8oio 2 points 3y ago
I’m not a parent yet, but soon!!!! I will also start kiddos into ninja classes (okay, martial arts) at a very young age. This will give me peace of mind as they grow up.

I see someone else already mentioned bells *smile* so that’s all I got so far!
retrolental_morose 2 points 3y ago
I'm , a blind parent, in fact we both are.
Daughter's now 8.

Lots of handholding at the early stages, but as others have said it becomes second nature to them. Regular check-ins, keeping us in her site and sometimes cheap 2-way radios all serve their purpose as she gets older, and of course this will progress to her own phone or GPS-based watch as she ages.

I have had panic at the thought of losing her, even when she's been a few feet away. thus far, no major losses...
codeplaysleep 2 points 3y ago
Teach them to hold your hand and stay close, then as they get older, you can start letting them go off more independently. For the most part, it's not much of an issue, because when they're super young, you wouldn't really want them wandering off too far and/or you'd be playing with them anyway.

So if we were walking down the street or walking through a store, the kiddo was holding my hand/sitting in the cart.

If it was some place like a playground or a kid's museum, etc. I just followed closely and let them do their own thing as much as you would any toddler.

Sure, I was maybe staying closer to my kid than other parents were, but I don't feel like it was a big deal. I was near them, but not hovering in terms of dictating their every move or not letting them explore or make mistakes or suffer the little bumps, or experiment with the environment around them in the way that toddlers do and learn from.

By 4 it was basically a non-issue, because the kiddo knew to stick with me in a crowd and needed less direct supervision when playing, just due to generally growing up and getting a bit more mature and capable. Preschool probably also helped with that.
anoutsidethinker1 [OP] 1 points 3y ago
Thank you-I appreciate your thoughtful response and the insight as they get older.
JackEsq 2 points 3y ago
$1.

Common answers were little bells on shoes and to teach the child to check in regularly when at the playground.
anoutsidethinker1 [OP] 1 points 3y ago
I will definitely check out the podcast!
MyNutsSmellAmazing 1 points 3y ago
Totally blind dad here, and I used to take my kids to the park all the time. Bells on their shoes/clothing works great at this stage. Most parents don’t let their kids get too far out of sight when they’re that young anyway. If they are a real handful, not being judge mental mind some kids just are, you might want to consider a leash for your toddler. Oh my God, I said it, and yes, it’s better than having a dead kid. When they get older, you can use walkie-talkies. Make sure that they are aware that them responding to you, when you call, is of Key importance. Play the Find Me game with them, so they know that when they make a loud noise, you can find them.
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