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Restaurant choices (self.Blind)
submitted by DrillInstructorJan
Am I the only person who allows the fact that I can't see to guide menu choices?
Maybe this sounds stupid but it came up in another post I made and it struck a nerve.
If I were going out for dinner with people, I would not order spaghetti (or a bunch of other things) because it runs a much more significant risk of making me look like a fumbling useless loser. Yes I can do it, I'm not an idiot, but I have eaten plenty of spaghetti with sight and now trying to do it without sight is one of those things that makes me really hyper aware of the situation I'm in. I don't want to sit there the whole meal concentrating on just eating. I want to have fun and join in the conversation and in that situation I will happily order something else so I have some spare attention span. There are some things that are worth a bit of extra risk and effort but spaghetti is not one of them and yes, I am talking about a really tiny amount of extra risk and effort here.
And no, it doesn't help if several glasses of the house red are settling nicely. Being blind is when you don't want to be drunk in charge of a knife and fork in front of clients.
OK, so this is not really about spaghetti, it is about reasonable compromise in general. Yes I get that sometimes it is necessary to make a point about doing something and that's great, I go rappelling down waterfalls for fun, but I think life is better overall if I let some things go and spend the effort on other things. Am I giving up too easy?
Maybe this sounds stupid but it came up in another post I made and it struck a nerve.
If I were going out for dinner with people, I would not order spaghetti (or a bunch of other things) because it runs a much more significant risk of making me look like a fumbling useless loser. Yes I can do it, I'm not an idiot, but I have eaten plenty of spaghetti with sight and now trying to do it without sight is one of those things that makes me really hyper aware of the situation I'm in. I don't want to sit there the whole meal concentrating on just eating. I want to have fun and join in the conversation and in that situation I will happily order something else so I have some spare attention span. There are some things that are worth a bit of extra risk and effort but spaghetti is not one of them and yes, I am talking about a really tiny amount of extra risk and effort here.
And no, it doesn't help if several glasses of the house red are settling nicely. Being blind is when you don't want to be drunk in charge of a knife and fork in front of clients.
OK, so this is not really about spaghetti, it is about reasonable compromise in general. Yes I get that sometimes it is necessary to make a point about doing something and that's great, I go rappelling down waterfalls for fun, but I think life is better overall if I let some things go and spend the effort on other things. Am I giving up too easy?
jrs12 7 points 3y ago
I think we all do this to an extent, vision or no vision. I'm not going to pick the messy meal if I'm in a situation where I shouldn't be looking messy. Sacrificing what we actually want for the good of the situation happens quite often I think. Think about parents. How often do they get to eat what and when they want compared to the things the kids won't eat? Particularly when I am dealing with children, things like rest and food are done on a schedule that fits rather than when it works for me. I think it's just part of prioritizing the situation.
P.S. Have you ever tried cutting your spaghetti? I've been doing it since I was a kid. Cut spaghetti makes the world go round!
P.S. Have you ever tried cutting your spaghetti? I've been doing it since I was a kid. Cut spaghetti makes the world go round!
8i8oio 3 points 3y ago
It’s been bothering me too. Someone mentioned menus and ordering recently, and I hadn’t really noticed how I’d had to given that up. That’s absolutely a random sacrifice I hadn’t even noticed ~ among the dozens or hundreds of others that pop up more n more (my vision is degenerating).
It is hard, and I probably try not to think about it. But, yeah. Sacrifices are there. Spaghetti can be eaten at home, it’s not like you gave it up for life. I don’t question your decision. I don’t question anything - cuz it’s different for everyone. But yes, I’m feeling the “sacrifice” concept lately too.
It is hard, and I probably try not to think about it. But, yeah. Sacrifices are there. Spaghetti can be eaten at home, it’s not like you gave it up for life. I don’t question your decision. I don’t question anything - cuz it’s different for everyone. But yes, I’m feeling the “sacrifice” concept lately too.
soundwarrior20 3 points 3y ago
I can understand why you would make this choice in a professional situation. But what I discovered quite early on in my life about being out in public is that most people don’t actually care what you doing they are really too focused on themselves to notice anything at all , i’ve found that what this means is that you can actually crack on and enjoy whatever it is that you’re doing without needing to be self-conscious. Society tries to convince us that people actually care what we’re doing when we are out and about but I found this to be a mith. It’s just what I’ve found and I hope it helps
Eisah 2 points 3y ago
I think you should do whatever makes you comfortable. I'm sighted, but if I was with someone I wanted to impress I'd probably try to avoid something that might make a mess, too. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. You don't always have to be trying to make a point.
PolariChat 2 points 3y ago
RNIB Scotland have been working with a chain of restaurants doing talking menus. They email the menu to you when you arrive or you can use an ipad they supply with menu on. I was part of the testing group. The best bit is they email you the bill. I can now take folk out to eat without them knowing how much I'm spending.
I don't have the link if you Google The Huxley Edinburgh or RNIB Scotland talking menus. It got a bunch of press coverage.
I don't have the link if you Google The Huxley Edinburgh or RNIB Scotland talking menus. It got a bunch of press coverage.
bscross32 1 points 3y ago
I just twirl the fork around and the spaghetti gets wrapped up in it and I eat it that way.
razzretina 1 points 3y ago
I just straight up don't like people watching me eat so, if I have a spare hand, I hold it in front of my mouth so people can't see me chewing. It's very useful when eating spaghetti because you can kinda just get that one long noodle in your mouth and people won't see it really. Just dab your mouth with a napkin after to get rid of any sauce and try not to audibly slurp that hanging noodle.
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