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Full History - 2019 - 10 - 18 - ID#djk4ku
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As a visually impaired or blind person, how do you manage dating? (self.Blind)
submitted by Carnegie89
I am having a lot of difficulties overcoming many of the obstacles.
Hellsacomin94 10 points 3y ago
Get a guide dog. Those things are panty droppers.
FedUPSEx 1 points 3y ago
Dude, I have zero doubts that would work.
Carnegie89 [OP] 1 points 3y ago
It's interesting you say that. I'm in the process of getting a guide dog.
Hellsacomin94 2 points 3y ago
There is a great series of UK podcasts about blindness, I think it’s called”I See What You’re Saying”. There is a blind man who says something like “ You can have a face like a blind cobbler’s thumb, the dog will always pull you through”.

The dog will be a great opener, but you’ll have to carry the conversation and close in for a number or email. Wether it’s buy being funny, or passionate about something, or a good listener, find your thing. Also, dating is a brutal weed out process. You have to, especially as a man, go through a lot of rejection. That’s just how it is. Don’t get frustrated. Good luck, and have fun.
Albinofromutah 1 points 3y ago
I also have a guide dog and they are great conversation starters. What school are you getting your guide dog from if you don't mind me asking?
Carnegie89 [OP] 2 points 3y ago
The Guide Dog for the Blind in California, USA. It's a bit far but supposed to be a good school.
Albinofromutah 1 points 3y ago
I got my guide dog from there. They are one of the best guide dog schools in the world.
ratadeacero 6 points 3y ago
Speaking from the other side as someone who married a blind woman. Dating was just like anyone else. The vision wasn't really an issue. We had known each for years. Her vision didn't start going until age 30. I knew her when she had perfect vision but didnt' date her until years later when her vision was getting really bad. The courtship process was exactly the same. There were a few changes. I had to pick her up since she's not driving anywhere. A standard movie date sucks for the blind partner so that's out. But beyond that, smooth sailing. As a bonus I get to tell her how handsome I am getting as time goes on. She can't verify that I'm lying.
Nixon154 3 points 3y ago
I agree. The changes are fairly minor, just driving her around to make things easier and guiding her around when she doesn't have her cane.
Nixon154 5 points 3y ago
I guess I can speak from the other side of the fence. I met my partner who is legally blind on a dating app and quickly found out about her disability as she was comfortable sharing it with me. We got along so well and fell in love pretty quickly that the vision issue barely even crossed my mind. Now that we have been together for almost three years the vision is simply something that she needs my assistance with sometimes as she is already very capable. You will find someone eventually I promise you.
Carnegie89 [OP] 3 points 3y ago
Thank you for the encouragement
dankswed 1 points 3y ago
Wow, your partner sounds dope. Is she a hottie?
Nixon154 1 points 3y ago
Yah she pretty hawt
8i8oio 5 points 3y ago
I just kept an active friend life ~ and met someone that way. He was raised among permanent health problems, and has literally never cared my eyes don’t work. I never thought I’d trust again (I caught a guy cheating once, before my eyes were this bad, but wouldn’t have if I’d been fully blind) but he’s great! We got married this year!

My best friend is a male, fully blind, and seriously he gets ALL the girls. Usually in “open” relationships. But he’s pretty suave, in law school, and dresses up the nines (ties, fancy shoes, cardigans).

I still say be yourself. Keep growing. And have as much fun as you can
Flaming_Pariah 3 points 3y ago
Is your best friend the son of a deceased boxer, by any chance?
8i8oio 1 points 3y ago
Haha! Sorry no. His dad is alive, and a frumpy Uber driver and painter. They do not seem even remotely similar to me.
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OutWestTexas 2 points 3y ago
Ditto
ratadeacero 1 points 3y ago
If that's your biggest fear, make sure that's the thing you throw out first. You'll weed out anyone to whom that might be an issue.
fbracing02 1 points 3y ago
Im currentley married and this scares the shit out of me if the marriage went south....
oncenightvaler 2 points 3y ago
I've never done much dating, though I've been told I have a romantic side from people I care about in real life and online.

If I was going to take someone out we would first agree on a time and place to meet, then I as the man would , take her to a place where I'm familiar with the menu or obviously reading the menu online before we go. Then afterwards maybe we would go for a walk together in a park or by the pier. Perhaps go to a cinema and watch something with described video. Then the next time I would have my girlfriend pick the dinner and activities. I would also be very comfortable cooking for my date at my mother's house, having her over for dinner and then hanging alone in my room or going for an evening walk.
ukifrit 1 points 3y ago
i use the best management system ever, not dating. /s
modulus 1 points 3y ago
Not well. I don't think it will work out for me.

However, that may be because I'm shy and introverted rather than blind. Or a combination thereof.

I definitely know other blind people with better results.
samarositz 1 points 3y ago
diddo, mostly given up as a male.
FedUPSEx 1 points 3y ago
It ain't easy, but keep at it. Gotta weed through a lot of really ignorant folks and whatnot. I don't blame them, personally. I know I'm judgmental in my own ways. There are women out there who will be cool with it.
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