The people writing you off are doing you a favor. They are not worth the esteem you held them in and they are showing their true, selfish selves.


It's better to have five true friends than fifty fair-weather acquaintances.


As far as living life? It makes things more difficult, depending on what your interests are. I'm just now getting mobile assistance set up, and I plan to go to some concerts. I was an audiophile before and that's even stronger now.


One last tip. The sooner you get to a point where your happiness is not based on others, the happier you will be overall. I broke myself for years trying to make everyone around me happy, and then when the time came when I flagged or needed help, those people vanished like smoke in the breeze.

Hi, it’s not easy, and you may be having difficulties traveling for many reasons. If you are putting all your efforts into it, and you are not going far, it may mean that you need better services. Go to a rehab training center, which has high expectations, and which will challenge you to develop your core skills. I went to the Louisiana Center for the Blind, and it helped me very much. The training is not easy going, but it’s effective for many of us.

J know what you mean, I feel like it can get in the way at times. I've been fortunate enough to have people around me who support me with things like this. Things like going out and traveling is extremely hard but I try and throw myself out there and try my best. If you'd like to talk feel free to message me by the way.

I don’t feel that being blind gets in my way but the way people treat me because of it definitely does. I try to find my own ways to be happier and don’t bother with even looking at stuff sighted people do that I know I can’t do.
And man the people writing you off are being assholes. I bet they have a car and it’s super easy for them to get out.

You could also have clinical depression, maybe that's something worth looking into.

Friends are tricky for me because I'm very independent. I love talking to people that happen to be nearby haha and I do have ongoing friendships that come into orbit once a month at the most usually.

No one has the authority to write you off. You're unstoppable. Don't feel bad if those people don't see all the good in you or they're too busy with their own challenges.

I once got an image, not related to vision but to my being gay...I was standing in the locker room looking in the mirror feeling uncomfortable being in the locker room but then I remembered that most people are bi. Straight guys are the minority in the locker room, and I figured that I could make guys uncomfortable by asking them out or by just being open about my life but we can't worry about that, we have to be bold and BE. I imagined a glass office building with a lot of triangular glass panels, and I was a giant--everywhere I go, the glass panels shatter, meaning, no matter where I go there may be guys that aren't comfortable around me or friends that don't want to hang out with me but that's not my problem. If I'm comfortable and enjoying life then it increases the chances that people around me will as well. I think a lot of my friends wrote me off after my brother went to the afterlife because a lot of my closest guy friends were cool with me being gay but after my bro died I had a really massive struggle for two years and most of my closest friends jumped ship, or I booted them off for their coldness.

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These people that write us off are unworthy of how much value. We can always learn to be better friends, better listeners, but maybe we did nothing wrong at all. They are not our true friends if they aren't willing to empathize with our path and be patient for us.

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Exercise, eating healthily and sleeping enough are the biggest ways for me to stay happy, that and always finding great new music and keeping my mp3 player freshly updated with new music--i use a youtube to mp-3 converter website. $1

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Traveling is difficult for me as well. Since my bro died I need to smoke marijuana all the time and between my germaphobia, needing exercise for upper level bodybuilding and needing marijuana, travel is very difficult for me. The last time I went on a trip without smoking marijuana it was an exception, Israel.

I wish I had friends calling me on the weekends to hang out but it's really never been like that for me and I'm okay with that. I'm usually the one that initiates contact and I think my friends are used to that. I think I'm always the most social so I want to interact with them first always, even if it's once a month. It's usually once a month.

I've never been on a trip with friends in my adult life or been in anyone's wedding outside of cousins epic weddings haha but I still value the people that are in my life and I know they value me as well even if I am usually the first to reach out. Once I was bitter that I reach out first but then I realized that if I am the one to reach out first, they may assume I like it and prefer it that way and wait for me to let them know when it is a good time.

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Never assume anything about friends is something I've found. Sometimes if they are silent they are really going through a challenge and all we can do is be open. You can always make new friends, I made some new friends today. Having a business card to hand out really helps.