I'm the blind one, hope it's OK to respond.

We kid around with this constantly. If someone asks how we got together, I just go deadpan and tell them that he was having trouble with day to day tasks and needed someone to help with personal hygiene. This is also a suitable way to respond to people who assume he's my carer. I just respond as if they're talking to me. He knows the game and we bounce it off one another. He'll say how he's nothing without me, and I'll take his arm and pat it comfortingly and tell him how proud of him we all are and how he' s making such good progress these last few months. Last time we did this I couldn't get the grin off my face for a week.

The answer to the question is that we'd been friends since we were tiny kids, he knew me when I could see, but we didn't get together until afterwards when we happened to get into similar work situation. Our relationship has precisely nothing to do with me being blind, at least I hope like hell it doesn't.

Engaged to a blind man who I met at uni. Tbh he’s just really funny. Our first conversation, I couldn’t stop laughing. Then we walked home together and realised we had a lot of interests in common. Arranged to meet up. In talking to him more, I leaned a lot about him. He’s independent, determined. Everything he did, it just seemed like his blindness didn’t affect him, so I guess I didn’t really take that much notice of it, despite the fact that his guide dog was with us on every date. Even when his blindness did affect something, he was just so down to earth about it. I could tell that he was annoyed sometimes, and he went through some horrible bullying when he was young that really affected his self-esteem. But as an adult, he’s just confident and sure in himself. If he had to ask for help, he asked. And it was never a big deal. I ask him for help all the time too.

So I guess the answer is - he attracted me. His personality, the kind of person he is. The way he treats his dog. The way he treats me. Like yeah, I noticed that he was blind, but it wasn’t really a big deal. I think that was mainly because of how independent he was. He even taught me how to cook.

For anyone curious, he has 10% sight in the corner of his right eye, and light perception in the left (though it seems that all that does is make him really sensitive to light). He’ll never know what I look like, but I don’t really care. He shows that he thinks I’m beautiful in a lot of other ways. The sex is great, ngl.

And side note, the comments from ignorant people really piss me off. One lady even told me I was going to heaven for being with him, as if I’m only doing it for some kind of fucked up charity. We have a great relationship. I love him so much. And it’s not ‘hard work’ to ‘put up with him’. He’s a normal person! You have to make adjustments for someone no mater who you date. Every single person is like this. You may as well put everyone who has ever been in a relationship on a pedestal.

I knew my wife before her vision loss. I had always crushed on her. When we started dating, she had just starting losing her vision. It was never an issue for me. It was just part of her. But now that she's good and blind I tell her how much more handsome I get every day. Heh. She believes me. Sucker.

Well, my girlfriend is visually impaired, she has congenital nystagmus. We met over tinder, where she had mentioned her condition (but not that it caused her problems with her vision). I get a lot from people's eyes. I am a firm believer that they tell you everything you want to know and thus they're the most attractive physical feature in my opinion. Her eyes were just... beautiful. So I swiped right and so did she. We met up and I found out that she's visually impaired. It didn't bother me at all. She can still see, just not as well as I can, I thought, and her eyes tremble which wasn't all that noticeable to begin with. But she was so self conscious about it. She hated when I'd try to look into her eyes. I find this hilariously ironic in hindsight and so does she, but never once has her condition caused me any kind of apprehension. As time went on (we've been together almost 4 years now) I became heavily involved in the difficulties of advocating for yourself to accomplish simple things like taking notes in class or making sure VR puts enough money on your bus pass to get you where you need to go. She showed me an entire world I had been oblivious to, and what I saw made me want to make a difference. I've tried to be a big motivator for her and to push her to not bend to her professors or her irresponsible VR counselor. My family and friends haven't really shown any kind of concerns or been insensitive about her impairment, but if they had been I would've happily cut them out. She's dealt with a lot in her life and when I really committed to her I decided that I'd try my hardest to be someone she could really depend on. I don't think I could be happier than I am with her. She's my bestfriend and my partner, and her poor depth perception and shaky eyes have never stopped that from being the case.

We matched on tinder. She’s visually impaired due to nystagmus and ocular albinism alongside a different stigmatism in each eye. I lost an eye to childhood cancer. I was attracted to her because I thought she was cute, smart, and funny, unlike a lot of people at our school I just saw her as a person with a disability, not a disabled person. Apparently I was the first guy to ask about campus accessibility instead of making a crude joke about blindness, and we constantly joke about having the shared experience of running into things because we can’t see them.

Edit: There, you can respond too u/Flute578

So initially I didn't know there was a severe visual impairment. About a month into dating I realized something wasn't quite right. My attraction had nothing to do with abilities. Well not visual impairment anyway. I was just smitten with him.

So I start asking questions. It turns out the love of my life was completely blind in one eye and rapidly losing the sight in his other. Appointments were scheduled, doctors sought out. Anything I could do to get him the treatment he needed.

Over the past 2.5 years we have learned together how to deal with this and adapt. It's honestly not a big issue. There are times with employment that he had struggled and of course that can cause friction.

He's now in a program that teaches you how to read Braille, O&M, and AT; really everything to be fully prepared for a life with blindness.

I would still be with him off he had any disability. I'm stronger than some from what I hear, which just breaks my heart. My mom was a special education teacher for 35 years so anyone who abandons another human they say they love over any kind of disability really disgusts me.

What it has done however, is make me think outside the box in what I do for a living. We are developing a system that VI folks can use on a daily basis for mobility and a lot of things sighted humans take for granted.

Overall, there will be challenges in every relationship. Be it financial, disability, infidelity, and a ton of others. How you handle it as individuals as well as partners it what keeps you together. I'm not a hero, I'm not attracted to disabilities, I just love this man with all my heart and giving him the chance to love the fullest life possible is just a thing now. It's what we do, together.

My best friend through all of high school was severely visually impaired and most of her siblings had just as bad sight if not worse. I never minded their impairments, they were always nice to me and went out of their way to include me in their family affairs. We met with out the love of books in the library of our school the first year she moved here. She loved audio books because reading constantly tired her eyes. So whenever she came over to stay the night we would always talk about what books we were reading and eventually during the night I would read a few chapters of my book to her so she could tell if she wanted to get the audio book. Secretly I think she just liked to listen to the sound of my voice sometimes. One year we both decided to get into fanfiction writing. It started off as a friendly competition that soon grew into the two of us growing closer and closer together as we each wrote stories for each other using each other’s favorite characters and reading them to each other. She moved away the year after we graduated, got married, and had a son of her own. I’m so proud of her and wish her the best of luck.

This guy and I matched online because we went to the same undergrad. I had no idea about his RP. We went on a few dates but nothing ever happened until we ran into each other at a party. It’s funny in retrospect, as I thought we were noticing each other in the dark room and so I went over to say hi so it wouldn’t be awkward. (Later found out— nope, couldn’t see me). He wound up following up and we went on a second first date. On this date, we went to a slightly dark bowling alley, and he went to put his drink on a ledge, and was kind of bobbing around with his drink/hand for the ledge, and I made a joke about him being drunk. He told me about having RP and I felt like an asshole for making fun of him, but he made me feel better about that. So we went out again.


I was attracted to him because he’s handsome, smart and funny. I married him because he’s kind, loving and a wonderful partner. I had a child with him because he is an amazing, giving person and an excellent father. I’m spending my life with him because I want to and I’m lucky enough that he wants to too.

His vision issues do wind up affecting a lot of our decisions in life, such as where to live (both in terms of geography and actual house selection), daily schedules (considering he doesn’t drive), childcare, social events, etc. Some of the other commenters seem younger and maybe it makes less of an impact then, but when you’re a family running a household, it it isn’t nothing. Our weekends are spent doing things together that other people do separately and in half the time. But that’s the cost of doing business, as I’m sure every VI/blind person here knows. And I love my life with him. Everyone has their junk, and this is his. I have my own junk that he has to manage. I get off pretty easy in that department by driving — pretty good deal on my end.

As a person who’s visually impaired, this thread definitely gave me hope 😭

Same thing's that attract you to anyone. Humour, good looks, canny. Plus I can take the piss with blind jokes

From my partner

This man is funny, nice, romantic and so much more. He is more than just his vision (he is legally blind in his left eye and has Amblyopia in his right eye) he is my partner and my best friend. Although his vision is something that we do have to deal with (more like he has to deal with) such as dishwashing, folding laundry, etc.

My father was blind, as is my uncle and their grandfather was as well. Now I know that my son is losing his vision as well. I’m a carrier and am also affected on my right side

I have a want to make tech accessible. The blind have been woefully underrepresented in this and I have the means to fix a few things here or there, so why not give it a go?

I have a fetish for disabled people. The more dependent they are on me, the more fulliled I get.