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How am I going to attend parties/events in the evenings at university? (self.Blind)
submitted by theawesomeaquarist
I'm going to university in a couple of years how do I cope in crowded environments eg parties and how do I manage at such events?

Also in the evenings I get really fatigued due to my eye conditions and my physical disability so I don't know if I would be able to attend such events
Hellsacomin94 12 points 3y ago
Several things:
1. Pick your university or college carefully for accessible transportation. In the US there are schools in urban centers with mass transit systems or that require freshmen to live in campus without cars. Sometimes both. Consider one of those, it would put you on a more even footing if many people don’t have cars.
2. If you don’t have one already, consider geting a guide dog. They make you appear more approachable and you’ll always have a conversation starter. It will be easier for you to make friends and meet people with a guide dog.
3. Realize partying is secondary. 80% of blind people in the US are not employed. Going to Uni is a once in a lifetime chance to build skills and knowledge that will set you up for a lifetime. Don’t puss that away for some stupid frat or house party.

Good luck, be positive, ask for help, have fun, but not too much fun.
torelma 8 points 3y ago
Oof I'm having this exact problem. Short answer is, have good friends who you can rely on to protect you without feeling like you're forcing them to be your nurse.

I'm not saying it's a walk in the park but it is doable and I don't want you to feel like you have to miss out due to being sight impaired. To be clear, I have night blindness but one year I was sharing a dorm with a guy who was completely blind from birth and he had a easier time getting around town for drinks than I did, so like don't get run over by a car but don't let that stop you.

Go to college, get wasted, sleep with people you'll regret sleeping with, just with less peripheral accuracy.
ashleyd99 4 points 3y ago
I’m curious about this as well I’m going off in the fall and honestly never thought about this because with driving out of the question I’ve never been out with friends in any form
I hope someone else can shed some light on this
AmAsabat 3 points 3y ago
Try and get into Exeter, great on campus accommodation, good support staff for VI / blind students. Good bus system. Join Christian Union or Islamic Soc just cos they will feed you more often and have great social calendar that isn’t just about drinking.

Sleep in when you are tired and make sure lecturers know about you VI.

(I did a Fulbright stint at Exeter during my post doc studies am currently in UK to be interviewed by Exeter for academic post)
theawesomeaquarist [OP] 2 points 3y ago
What campus accomodations do they have

What strategies would I use for attending social events with a visual impairment
anarcap 3 points 3y ago
I'm sorry if this is not the answer you are looking for, but:
There are better ways to spend money if you are looking for fun. If your goal is partying and fool around, maybe you should wait a year or two after you finish highschool before going to college.
Especially don't go to college if your getting into lifelong debt.
theawesomeaquarist [OP] 5 points 3y ago
What I mean is there is social events and at university you can have some fun I'm just asking how would I attend social events eg with a visual impairment
vwlsmssng 3 points 3y ago
I'm not VI myself but I know people and I'm UK.

As part of your University application process you will want to visit as many places as you can. This will help you appreciate how big they are, how they are laid out and how accessible and navigable they are. Ask about accessibility, student support and accommodation. Ask if you can be allowed to live in on-campus student accommodation for all three years of your course.

Look in particular at Universities with compact self contained pedestrianised campuses and those with student accommodation on site. If you are living in a student hall of residence you might find the parties are just happening in the corridors near your room. A student hall is full of many people who are also looking to make new friends and meet people, it is hard not to make friends but you will also have to work a little to build a network of people who can provide a little support and to whom you can educate about your differences.

Finally here is confirmation I'm British:
- Colour
- Tomato
- A car has a boot and a bonnet.
torelma 2 points 3y ago
I went to Edinburgh uni on exchange and they were absolutely amazing. I had barely more than asked them if the way between the uni and halls was well lit (it wasn't really, but that's another story) and they literally moved me to a ground floor flat without me even asking, which turned out to be a lifesaver (I'm really bad with stairs). When the Paris attacks happened later in the term one of my tutors emailed me with the number of a counselor in case I needed someone to talk to, and I'm not even from Paris. They are just really really good at taking both physical disability and mental health needs of their studentd into consideration, or were as of 5 years ago.
AmAsabat 2 points 3y ago
I lives off site but great feedback.

See http://www.exeter.ac.uk/wellbeing/ for specific info and if you are thinking of applying then talk to them first.

Accessing social stuff is all about your confidence and VI level, nothing is out of reach if you can physically do it. No confident are you that you want to live away from home. How much preparation are you willing to do. When I went to a US uni I arrived three weeks early with a friend and learned my way around campus so I had a head start.
BlueRock956 2 points 3y ago
The obious solution would be to get better orientation and mobility skills and communication skills. High school students have parties all the time. this is sometimes difficult to do, but think and make a list of reasons for why you are not partying right now, as they are the same reasons, and will require the same skill sets.
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