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Take her dancing.

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No, I'm not being an arrogant asshole. If she's actually suicidal, then really, take her dancing, or even just get her to break into a dance jih with you privately in your house / apartment. I can only speak for myself, but I'm the least likely person you would see dancing. I'm attractive enough, but I'm some middle aged white dude who writes software code for a living, and is genuinely really shy and introverted.

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However, upon going blind, I danced like a motherfucker for a good 18 months. Didn't matter to me when or where. I'd break out into a small dance jig in the middle of my kitchen while cooking dinner, in the aisle of the grocery store while waiting for my better half, or where ever.

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I don't dance anymore, because well, I'm a middle aged white dude who really sucks at dancing, but also because I don't need to anymore. I'm find with being blind now, but I wasn't then.

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Going blind is really, really, really difficult. Can only speak for myself, but I know breaking out into dance jigs all the time really helped me along upon initially going blind. Even if you're like me and a horrible dancer, it's honestly feels really good, and it helps while you're struggling to get used to the constant darkness. Going to sleep, then waking up every morning and opening your eyes with hopes it was all just a dream and you can see again now, only to find out it's real and you're actually blind is quite difficult. Again, for myself, I found dancing really helped.

Sounds lame but the youtube channel Life After Sight loss TV (and the podcast Life After Sight Loss Radio) is really great. I also live in a country with inaccessible mental health support but that community and the videos themselves helped me a lot in my journey. The guy has a lot of very comforting and reassuring videos and is just nice and encouraging in general. Teaches you that life really does go on. He is also super nice and accessibke by email of you have a speccific request or question, he once made an entire video and a podcast to give advice about a problem I emailed him about!

I can understand it would be scary. Look into facebook support groups, maybe that way she won’t feel so alone. Maybe also look into YouTubers like Joy Ross, Molly Burke etc and blind bloggers. They show that blindness isn’t a death sentence and that you can still have a life. Perhaps there’s online counselling services too? As well as services for those with vision loss - I don’t know where you’re from, obviously, but for example we have Vision Australia here in Australia. And of course, reinforce consistent opthmalogist appointments and doing drops/medications.

I second all the advice suggesting helping her find a professional. In addition, help her find one of her hobbies that can be adapted! I started losing my eye sight after putting myself through art school for 8 years and then when I finally got a dream-cone-true position of a year long residency and access to a papermaking lab for free my eyesight was so deteriorated that I had to forfeit the position AND quit my career as a sign artist. I was in that dark place for a LONG time. But now I'm using all the scraps from my "messed up" pieces of handmade paper and making collages. I'm not totally sure what they look like or if they are any good but being able to transition my method of making literally saved my life. What are sone of her hobbies, I'm happy to help you brainstorm!

P.s. you friend is SO lucky to have someone like you in their life, tbh I'm a little jellie lol but in a light hearted kind of way

and here i am still sighted but its decreasing more an more, my suizid toughts are increasing from week to week..i cant just live on, norhing is enjoyable anymore..nothing

It's really difficult to respond to stuff like this as nobody here is trained in counseling, so take this for what it is worth. We are also assuming the sight loss is going to be severe which it may not be. I'm not a doctor but I know there are at least some treatments for glaucoma.

With all that in mind I will say what I have said before and this is not necessarily to be passed on to your friend straight away.

If she has been told that she will lose a lot of sight, and if that actually happens, then it is not going to be a lot of fun. As other people have said, there is no way to sugar coat it, it is horrible, it was horrible for me, it is horrible for everyone.

A lot of the help you'll get will be aimed at encouraging people to somehow become happy with the situation, which I always think is the wrong approach. There can be a certain satisfaction in dealing with it, dealing with it on what I like to think of as a professional level. If I'm going to have to be in this situation I am going to do it at a professional level, and as much as I can I do. You will not find a way to like it and here's the point. You don't have to like it. You do have to find a way to be okay with not liking it. Most people do. It took me literally years, they were not nice years and I cannot sugar coat that.

But in the end it is amazing how okay it can be. If I sound like I'm desperately trying to describe something that's really hard to describe, I am. I wish I could mind meld with your buddy like a vulcan and show her that. But there it is.

Teletherapy could be a good option, I've met a few psychologists who provide services this way. I'd highly recommend for you and your friend to study counselling skills; I've learned to be a true listener to help myself and others because of that.