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Full History - 2020 - 04 - 18 - ID#g3iyur
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Coping? How to enjoy the NOW (self.Blind)
submitted by dlc2889
Hi
I am having a very hard time coping with my diagnosis since 2 years ago. I feel like I already went through denial, to just depression over not being able to accept it. So please let me know what has helped you cope with loosing your sight, any helpful books or tips?

My story:
I am a 30 year old female, married, 1 child, working.
I am a carrier of Choroideremia: this affects mainly male and causes tunnel vision to progressive blindness in adulthood, in women it is not known exactly how it affects then since it’s a X chromosome condition.
So far, some women might experience mild to moderate symptoms and rarely (but possible) complete blindness like males do or tunnel vision.

In my case, I do not know if I will be a mild, moderate or severe case but I can see my sight deteriorating little by little, and I sometimes get so depressed about this I feel I cannot even enjoy what I can still see, and specially with a newborn baby I feel I am constantly thinking of my sight that all the special moments are passing me by.
I know people with visual dissabilities are at a higher risk of depression, but if anyone has managed to still enjoy and be a bit more positive about it how have you done it?
I want to be able to enjoy now, since I cannot do anything about my diagnosis and is only a matter of time until it has a bigger impact on my daily life...

Thank you for reading me and any helpful tips...
[deleted] 3 points 3y ago
Honestly accepting my fate, and letting go of my fears and living in the moment. You are a mirror. A perfect representation of the present. The mirror when you look into it doesnt shown you the past just who you are right now. And past and future are both joined to you. It's down to the present you to reconcile both pathways so they meet and then you can continue your life journey free and wiser.
dlc2889 [OP] 1 points 3y ago
I think fear is a big part of it, worrying about the future and how things will evolve. But you are right I need ti accept my fate and learn to let go of the fear. Thanks for reading
[deleted] 3 points 3y ago
Worrying about the future feels a lot like being drifted by the sea. Nothing but distance and despair not knowing what's going to happen. No wind in your sail and little fuel is like depression. Your ranked. However. Hope is not all lost. While your their you may as well relax and seek comfort in the knowledge by biding your time and keeping busy. The wind will return to continue your journey. The question is, will you sail home. Or will you carry on sailing cruising the world unlocking the promise of experience. Something for you to mull over.

You're ever so kind. I hope you enjoy my metaphors and analogies. I'm a brilliant philosopher. I find people understand things better when a reference or story to help others feel less alone in our world.
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