I'm sighted so I can't speak from your side of the story, but as a fellow girl Imma go out here and say go for it! You've got this!

I really don't want to trivialise your feelings and insecurities but I truly think that anyone that's worth your time would recognise and appreciate the wonderful person you are past (and including) your blindness and be TOTALLY jazzed that you've asked them out.

If your lack of sight is a dealbreaker for him, it sounds like he all-round probably isn't the kind of person you want in your life and he'd be doing you a favour by saying no and not wasting your time. What have you got to lose?!!

just echoing what u/Leprosaur, said really. If your blindness causes problems for him, it's not gonna work. But don't hold back. You like who you like.

I have a blind wife and am totally blind too, but I don't think that's got too much to do with things. I can't pin-down what about her was so attractive to me, I just went with my gut. And we're still here 15 years on. I hope you talk to him and something happens. Good luck.

Of course you're terrified, he's your crush! Just bear in mind even if you could see, your brain would still come up with all kinds of reasons to worry about it. Everyone's brain does that to them when they're into someone else. That's why you're surprising yourself. It's not really about being blind, I don't think, it's just normal nerves with approaching the guy. Don't overthink this. I suspect that your brain will do this to you every time you meet someone, if not about being blind then about something else. If you keep listening to it you'll never get anywhere. Stupid brain. Not helping.

In a more practical sense as lots of other people have said, if he's not into you for any reason, whether it's being blind or whatever else, the only way to figure that out is to try it.

Go for it.

I didnt pity anyone!! OMG they are cute!!. A few month ago i really liked this girl. ( we were both bi) Ive personally never been with a girl in a romantic way but i was so ready for this.

Im sorry, have to get this out of my system i guess ( hope she isnt in this group actually bc i forget where we started talking from)🤔 Oh well...

Anyways she was half blind ( I think ) I didnt feel pity at all... i wanted to pamper her butt off thats what, she looked so sweet the way her one eye was off center lol. I know weird thing to think is cute i guess & she was super concious about it and i thought every little thing about her was adorable..... even in some instances damn sexy of course.

She reminded me of me when i was younger bc of her eye but i just had a lazy one and we even both had the issiue with our left one too.

The feeling might have been different tho with her bc we were both female, she was also slightly younger and i just wanted to make her feel wanted and cared for thats all. Instead i think she continues to be with a possibly abusive & jealous older male bf who im sure will hurt her eventually bc thats what they do.. they will pick the seeimingly most vulnerable person. Also apparently he doesnt pay attention to her at all, not as much as a person should in a relationship.


Also, over 10 years ago i was romantically involved with a partially blind male.


Mymotherly intinct kicks in if they have any medical issiues or other things as it should be and i dont judge anyone.

Guys should have a fatherly instict now that i think of it bc that only makes sense right?.

Steel your courage, make a plan and ask him! This kind of thing gets easier with practice.

Have you never spoke before?

I completely understand where you're coming from. That being said, you run the risk in any relationship of people not treating you how you'd like to be treated. It's easier said than done, but my vote is take the leap, communicate any questions either of you might have, and find out the fun way if it works!

Do you talk to him much? If he talks to you, he might start to think of you as a friend, if you're not friends already.

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Omg please update with results I haven't heard a romance story in so very long

Good luck!!!

Remove the blind aspect of this.

Like someone else pointed out, if you were sighted, you'd still be a bit freaked out.

And, because I don't want you to think we're just telling you to "man up", so to speak, I'll freely admit I've had these thoughts too. I mean, from my point of view, what woman will want to go out with a legally blind fellow? So, I suppose, you're not alone in your worries, and if your disability *actually* bothers him... then you're better off.

honestly, I have only dated sighted people, And it is definitely worth building up the courage to go for it... it’s nice to have someone to read the restaurant menus

Well I certainly sympathize with you because all of the crushes I as a totally blind guy have had on sighted girls they turned me down very politely with "You're a great guy but I think we work better as friends"

I realize that my blindness is not the full reason by any means that I am single, it's the fact that I am not currently employed and the fact that I live at my mom's home.

Go for it. You'll never know unless you do, and it'll eat away at you. Also, this really isn't about your blindness, that's just an easy target for your brain to work its tricks on.

I was married to a blind man for 8 years. Things didn't work out for us, but him being blind was not a factor in our breakup. We are still friends. I learned so much in my time with him. You should not hold yourself back from going after what you want. If dude is weirded out by you being blind he's a dick and you deserve better.