How does being blind or being visually impaired change your day to day life? I've been reading and watching videos about it, but how does it change the little things? Not seeing colors, clothing, shopping, etc? Do you get depressed or anything?
What was training like to learn echolocation, having a guide dog, being trained to walk with a cane, etc? I'm writing a story and would love to learn about it. Thanks!
Lyssa2212015 points2y ago
I'm visually impaired and for one, we do not echolocate. Getting asked that is honestly one of my biggest pet peeves. I'm sure that it helps some people, maybe? But that is not a general blind person thing. I was born with my disability so I don't know anything different and the only thing that I truly struggle with is not having the freedom to just go drive to the store to get something or to go out to eat to somewhere that doesn't deliver whenever I want. As for doing things like learning to use a cane, it's a lot of repetition at first and then you just kinda figure it out. Walking in step with the cane is hard at first but it just becomes second nature after a while. Learning street crossings takes a lot of time, especially if you have less vision than someone like me. I can still see well enough to see if an intersection is a T or a Y or a whatever but some people can only do that by ear. Another thing that I can say, especially if you are writing a story, is that all blindness is different. Even people with the exact same conditions will have different vision and different ways of cooking and dealing with the mental effects of being blind or visually impaired.
RJHand1 points2y ago
Echo locating is a novelty, lets get that out of the way first. Aside from that, I've been blind my whole life, so started with a cane when I was really little. Its kinda like learning to walk I'd say, where now when I'm using it I just do. I know what I have to do so don't think about it. Honestly I'd say for the most part being blind is like living the same as everyone else only with the lights off, lol. We all have challenges some harder than others whether your blind or not, have 3 hands, 6 toes or just suck at math. Lifes different for all of us bro. Having said that though, I won't pretend it doesn't suck all the time. Its definitely a bitch sometins when it comes to inaccessible apps or technology and no one around to help, or snow covering curbs in the winter on stretches of sidewalks that aren't easy to navigate anyway in the best of times. Cooking can be a bit unnerving too, but that comes with time, like most things.
Envrin1 points2y ago
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It's an absolute pain in the ass in almost all aspects of life. There isn't really a single thing that doesn't get harder and takes longer after going blind.
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No, I don't get depressed, because how is that going to help anything? I just keep pushing forward, because that's all you can do.
Kylefornicationn2 points2y ago
Everything takes longer so you can stop and smell the flowers, glass half full
Envrin1 points2y ago
I'll take a wild guess that you're a sighted person.
Kylefornicationn3 points2y ago
No, a blind person with a sense of humor
RJHand1 points2y ago
We need more of those types dude. Most blind people I know personally are just NFB types who do things one way and one way only and are too scared to hang out / talk to anyone outside there little net of blind people. I try to have a sense of humour too lol. Helps get through life too.
DrillInstructorJan1 points2y ago
Jesus I wish. When there is no virus I have zero leisure time because I'm always doing work stuff, then dealing with the disability, then basically falling into bed.
brumeloss1 points2y ago
All you gotta know is that it fucking sucks (blind person here)
ybs900121 points2y ago
That's true. I don't know why people don't want to talk about this.
DrillInstructorJan3 points2y ago
I learned early on that it is very political. Personally I find the total wall of positivity and fixed grin optimism is pretty unconvincing. It's not realistic. Nobody would choose to be in this situation and people who have never known any different shouldn't really be commenting.
No I don't live every day in a total pit of despair, but it does constantly feel like I'm doing two jobs at once just to keep up. And even then, if this is where I am without sight, where would I be with sight. I'm busting my ass just to be average, and I resent the hell out of that.
annibear1 points2y ago
Totally agree that it's super political. I spent my first few years blind really into the NFB philosophy and in some ways it sucked because I felt like I could never express any kind of real emotion about blindness.
I will say in that in my experience blindness interacts much more socioeconomic privilege than some other identities--when I reached a financial point where I could "throw money on my problems" (which I largely got to because I knew how to play my sob story in college applications) a lot of my blind problems went away.
The way I've always thought of it is I have to be 80% better than sighted people to be even looked at. Which sucks because it's a total time drain. I don't think I'm clinically depressed or anything and am generally a pretty cheerful person, but thinking about all of the extra struggles I've had solely because of my disability is frustrating and I definitely have moments.
nowwerecooking1 points2y ago
People don’t want to talk about it for several reasons:
-Ashamed to be “different” -in denial if just recently diagnosed with degenerative condition -trying to hide the condition -don’t want pity
CosmicBunny971 points2y ago
For context, I’m completely blind in my left eye and had retina attachment surgery in my right eye THATS left me with some vision. In the past I would’ve been low vision. I don’t know how to describe my vision right now, it’s like I can see normally around the house but I also can’t see much? I also don’t have a lens in my eye either.
It’s a blessing and a curse. I hate not being spontaneous because I love shopping by myself. I can’t see colour or detail so picking out clothes is a pain. I miss playing Sims and looking on Pinterest and house plan sites. I won’t go into a whole list about my frustrations because that’s just gonna being me down, but yeah I do feel sad and frustrated about it. However, I like using my imagination and I’m so grateful for the technology we do have.
howto4231 points2y ago
See molly burke on youtube Edit: sighted person here
RJHand1 points2y ago
Nah, watch Tommy Edison. More real a dude. Doesn't do it for the views like she does it seems.
Synaptic-pulse2 points2y ago
I have to agree.
RJHand1 points2y ago
Yeah, it seems like she's more about the fake youtuber personality where as Tommy Edison is a more down to earth guy. Sort of. I mean tells stories from his childhood at least lol.
Synaptic-pulse2 points2y ago
Exactly.
secretgardendesign [OP]1 points2y ago
Thank you so much! I was actually watching her on a different YouTube channel, I didn't realize that she had her own.
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