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[partner preferences] (self.Blind)
submitted by Sagar5786
Hi guys hope all is well, as the subject mentions I'm asking partner preferences, what I mean by that is if you are totally blind would you find dating a sighted person is a little difficult? I find this is quite challenging actually my parents want me to find a sighted partner I'm totally blind, thoughts would be appreciated especially for those who are married or in a relationship with sighted or blind.
If I were to talk about my own partner preferences to be specific it doesn't really concerned me because I don't look at the persons disability, as long as there is a mutual understanding and good boundaries the person cares and loves, certainly I do not mind though, I can understand challenges are gonna be there that is my parents concern also they think having a sighted partner has little more advantages rather than both being blind.
Thoughts would be appreciated especially from those who have experience with sighted individuals as well as blind.
If I were to talk about my own partner preferences to be specific it doesn't really concerned me because I don't look at the persons disability, as long as there is a mutual understanding and good boundaries the person cares and loves, certainly I do not mind though, I can understand challenges are gonna be there that is my parents concern also they think having a sighted partner has little more advantages rather than both being blind.
Thoughts would be appreciated especially from those who have experience with sighted individuals as well as blind.
Sudsy613 13 points 2y ago
Not sure how old you are, but the best advice I can give is find someone who makes you happy and vice versa.
You can take what your parents say into consideration, but at the end of the day, it’s up to you.
I’ve had both sighted and blind/vi partners, and my choosing them had nothing to do with their level of vision.
Some people will say dating a sighted person is easier; they can drive you around, see little things you may have missed while cleaning house, read things etc. etc. However, we’re talking about a partner, not a care-giver or maid.
You can take what your parents say into consideration, but at the end of the day, it’s up to you.
I’ve had both sighted and blind/vi partners, and my choosing them had nothing to do with their level of vision.
Some people will say dating a sighted person is easier; they can drive you around, see little things you may have missed while cleaning house, read things etc. etc. However, we’re talking about a partner, not a care-giver or maid.
pudursykurrr 2 points 2y ago
I always think it’s a little funny when people mention a pro for dating a sighted person is that they can drive you around because I’m sighted and my partner is almost totally blind but I’ve never had a drivers license but he has.
... I have driven him around on an electric scooter though.
... I have driven him around on an electric scooter though.
Apocalyptias 7 points 2y ago
Not blind myself, however I am engaged to a blindy!
Early into our relationship I asked her about her preferences, and mostly she mirrors u/GTbuddha , just find someone you like and feel a connection to and take it from there!
Early into our relationship I asked her about her preferences, and mostly she mirrors u/GTbuddha , just find someone you like and feel a connection to and take it from there!
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ira_finn 6 points 2y ago
I remember seeing a short video about a couple who were both deaf-blind, and they got along well in life. Had their own place, did their own shopping and cooking, talked through tactile ASL, etc. So I think if you're willing to make it work, it's problem either way. You may have certain advantages with a sighted partner, but then again, you may be able to better relate to a blind partner. As long as the love and respect is there, everything else will work itself out!
GTbuddha 4 points 2y ago
I have always dated sighted people. I did date a person that was deaf for a year.
I do find having sighted people around helpful. You may feel otherwise.
In the end it is all about connection, communication, and chemistry.
I do find having sighted people around helpful. You may feel otherwise.
In the end it is all about connection, communication, and chemistry.
Exceedingly 2 points 2y ago
I'm sorry if this is too intrusive, but what communication method did you use with the partner who was deaf? Was it tactile ASL as /u/ira_finn mentions below?
GTbuddha 1 points 2y ago
I'm a low partial. I was learning to sign in our time together. We would also write and she had learned how to speak fairly well. So the kitchen sink method of communication. We were young and in college.
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Hallowss 3 points 2y ago
I’m not totally blind yet, but all my partners have been sighted
None have been bothered by it, my current partner is very good at not making me feel like I need help - he with my makeup and things I struggle with as I loose my sight but he is letting me learn how to live by myself aswell
When we became more serious we did discuss the difference between him helping me as any partner would and being a carer
As everyone else is saying it’s more about the connection with them not about their sight
None have been bothered by it, my current partner is very good at not making me feel like I need help - he with my makeup and things I struggle with as I loose my sight but he is letting me learn how to live by myself aswell
When we became more serious we did discuss the difference between him helping me as any partner would and being a carer
As everyone else is saying it’s more about the connection with them not about their sight
grinchnight14 2 points 2y ago
I'd probably prefer a sited girl, but if I meet a blind girl with a great personality I wouldn't mind. Was born blind btw
Y_am_I_balding 2 points 2y ago
I can marry a blind girl, I have no problem.
achromatic_03 2 points 2y ago
I've always dated people who don't have anything considered to be a disability, but not by intention. I'd be open to it, but I think it would have its challenges. One thing I wish I would have known before I started dating, though, is that abusive people target those with disabilities more often, so it's good to be careful--that person seemed completely nice for the first few months.
DrillInstructorJan 2 points 2y ago
I've been with the same (sighted) person for a very long time and I would imagine it would become a huge pain in the rear end practically. I mean it's a huge pain in the rear end anyway let alone with both of us like this.
But really find someone you're good buddies with and take it from there. Don't put requirements on it.
But really find someone you're good buddies with and take it from there. Don't put requirements on it.
Remy_C 2 points 2y ago
I've done both and maried someone sighted. It's hard for me to really compare. The relationships I've had with visually impaired girls were fast and intense, owing I think to them all being long-distance. None really lasted beyond six months. I did learn a lot about myself from them however. The relationships I've had with sighted girls were longer lasting, and in the same city. I have been with my sighted wife for 13 years now. In truth while I do appreciate the common ground I shared with non sighted girls I find being with someone sighted much easier in many ways. But I've heard just the opposite from others, so it's entirely personal preference. For me it's always just been who I found attractive and if they found me so in return.
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