Online dating as a dude is generally hard. I'm not blind yet (glaucoma), but people can get quite picky if I share anything that points to some disability, such as that or other things I have. On the other hand, once we've talked a while they are much more accepting of any possible flaws, at least if they're interested in me as a whole. So I'd say that leading with your best foot might be good. Ease them into the blindness.

Finding a mate isn’t easy, but it also is not impossible. I would not lead with being blind. The key is just being confident in who you are and being yourself.. let the person get to know you a little before disclosing you are blind. Also you must be as independent as possible. Nobody wants to be someone’s caregiver and that might be the issue you were running into. People may fear what they don’t know and sometimes you may need to come there fears by educating them. For me I was very lucky, I met my girlfriend with a little help from my seeing eye dog. LOL

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I met my partner on OkCupid. Dating is a numbers game - and online tools aren't magic. I went on dozens of awful first dates over serveral years (which meant hundreds or thousands of messages that I never got replies to) before finally meeting her. Online dating as a guy means a lot of no replies, ghosts, and even being stood up. At least it did for me. Shruggie.

I don't think she told me she was blind before our first date, tbh. And once she did, she was understanding that I wanted to ask questions to understand, learn, etc.

Just stick with it - there's a special someone out there for everyone. Good luck out there!

online dating is rough for all men right now. its not just the blind guys that are getting the shaft. when it comes to online dating the only too things that matter are how good looking you are and how good you are at photography.

Glad to hear that

I’ve dated other blindies only online so far never met any of them before things just went south. One guy I found out was a drug addict.

I wonder why I never had problems with this? I left the dating seen 11 years ago, but before that, using online dating sites or chat rooms, I never had a problem getting a date or just getting laid.

Tips for successful online dating as a blind person:

1. Get a sighted person to take and select the pictures. Sighted people will be the ones looking at them so you’ll increase your chances by having the pictures be as visually appealing as possible.
2. Maybe don’t lead with the blind thing too hard. Mention it if you want but be mindful that most people know nothing or very little about blindness so they will start assuming all sorts of things about you as soon as they see that you’re blind. Plus, if it’s all you talk about, no one wants to date someone who’s whole personality is based off of one aspect of their identity so show off other parts of you.
3 treat online dating like going fishing. Each app is a pole in the water so it’s mostly a waiting game. Swipe regularly but not too often.
4 refresh your pictures every once and a while. Again, have a sighted person do this and try to look your best. Everyone else on dating apps is only posting the best looking pictures of themselves so you might as well too.
5. If you don’t mention blindness in your profile, disclose it casually at some point. It’s weird to bring up out of the blue but I find people react better if I mentioned it casually somehow after talking to them for a bit.
6. Probably have a sighted person around to either swipe for you by describing pictures or to tell you how someone that you matched with looks if you swiped on your own.

Dating apps are really built for eyeballs so I hope some of this was helpful. Best of luck!

Online dating in general is just very unfair to men, regardless of disability.
You need to be prepared to send hundreds of personalized messages, get maybe five or six replies per hundred or so, and be prepared to be ghosted by them all.
Just across the board, online dating sucks.

This is going to seem harsh but it's real.

I was talking to a friend of mine last night about how some blind people, especially people who were born blind, have a really low standard of self presentation. Obviously I don't have any idea how this applies to you, spider, so I'm not pointing any fingers, and I don't want to make anyone paranoid, but it's worth bringing up in case other people are reading this. I have encountered people in the past whose idea of getting dressed was to pull on the same tracksuit they've been wearing for a week, and claim they don't care because they can't see it and that everyone else should just accept them for who they are. You wouldn't think anyone would take that attitude, but I have met people who take that attitude.

To put it mildly that's not going to work for the overwhelming majority of sighted women on dating sites. That and you can raise yourself above the crowd by being in good shape, which is something you can totally do with or without sight.

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Online dating seems to be pretty trashy. Either shallow women, or cam whores. Or bots. To be clear, I don't have an issue with camgirls but I don't like the self-absorbed, arrogant types. I'm used to getting blocked randomly. People just don't wanna deal with my shit. I'm blind and am losing my hearing. Who the fuck would want to realistically deal with that? On top of my horrific genes that no one with half a brain would want to actually procreate with me. And honestly, a relationship isn't even a must for me, what happens happens. Relationships are over romanticized anyway. That's how I go about things. But I'm just sick of being disappointed and shown the harsh side of humanity over and over. Besides which, this isn't the 90s or early 00s, online dating doesn't have genuinely interesting people on it anymore.
I'll just do things the old fashioned way. Meet people, go to parties, get drunk, compensate for my social anxiety and disabilities by playing into my strengths as a sarcastic, opinionated jokester, for better or worse.
That may not be you though OP and I don't mean that you have to be that way. I'm just speaking from experience.Either keep at it until you find someone, or just dedicate your energy to better things in life.I just got my music distributor and I should've gotten it when I got a debit card when I turned 18. I'm two years too late on that.