How to cope with losing everytbing I've put in so much effort for?(self.Blind)
submitted by sadruleanblue
I'm 21, more than halfway through medical school. I worked so, so, so hard to get in since young, and had been excited about my future as a surgeon. But I got diagnosed with rapidly progressing juvenile glaucoma, and realised I have lost a lot of central and peripheral vision already. The eye pressure is high and not responding to any eyedrop nor laser, and I cant do surgery because the risk is too great due to my eye anatomy snd other factors. Basically my doctor said I'll probably lose all of my vision in the near future. I'm so gutted. I worked SO hard, battled so many demons and societal barriers to get to where I am today and had been so excited for my long fulfilling life ahead. And this happens. I do not think I am even able to finish up medical school at the rate my vision is worsening. I'm just so depressed, when I look ahead into the future all i see is nothingness and depression...
CloudyBeep13 points2y ago
If you can finish medical school, could you go into psychiatry? Surely it'd be less visual than many other areas of medicine, and it wouldn't make your years of hard work worthless.
Apart from that, I suggest talking to your professors about what areas you could transition into. Blindness doesn't necessarily mean the end of a career as a health practitioner.
sadruleanblue [OP]5 points2y ago
Hmm psychiatry would be the only barely feasible field I can think of... problem is I live in a second-world country in Asia that regards disability as taboo so I dont even think my school administrstion will want to accommodate let alone let a disabled student graduate. :( Thank you for the advice though <3
CloudyBeep5 points2y ago
You may want to consider emigrating then. Many countries will regard you favorably if you have a medical degree, especially right now.
If you decide to do this, find out if universities in that country would allow you to study psychiatry. Although they may have laws against discrimination, they may tell you that you won't be able to be accredited and get work because of your visual impairment.
MD_MD5 points2y ago
You could definitely do psychiatry (there is a blind psychiatrist at University of WI who is blind named Tim Cordes), maybe some other fields within medicine or peds if you can employ someone to help with the visual part of the physical exam. A cerebral specialty like infectious diseases, nephrology, or endo could be good.
The real task now will be learning how to be an auditory learner going forward. Since you are more than halfway through, I assume you've taken Step 1? This is good because it's such a huge test (have they made it pass/fail yet?), and it demonstrates what your capacity is.
Might be a good idea to take some time off and learn how to do life with your new and worsening vision, if you can. Then, you'll re-learn how to do school, and medicine. This won't be easy, but I bet you can do it.
Source: resident with (stable) visual impairment. Not at all the same thing as you are going through, but I do have some experience with extra physical challenges.
sadruleanblue [OP]1 points2y ago
I guess psychiatry is the only barely feasible specialty... though we have been taught that inspecting the patient and performing the MSE is also super important so I dont know if I can even do psych without sight :( I'm in a medical school in Asia so we dont have Step 1! And in Asia disability is taboo so I dont even know if my school administration will allow a disabled student to become a doctor... sigh >< I also considered specialties like PM&R but that requires 3 years of Int medicine residency that I dont think I can do without sight :(
IronDominion5 points2y ago
There are plenty of other medical specialties you can do with low vision! Working in office with supportive nursing staff is totally doable, or physical rehab and therapies
ShinyHappyOne4 points2y ago
What I hear is that you are grieving many things right now and it’s important to take some time and honor yourself and your emotions. It is hard to think with clarity, especially regarding a future path, when you’re grieving. You are intelligent and sound determined to adapt. These are going to help you, but please allow time to grieve. My husband became legally blind and his story matches yours. He made accommodations and had people read to him, sit with him in class and took tests separately to allow for more time. He had the migraine headaches from strain and his vision loss progressed from eye strain. He has a high myopia and it progressed to only seeing 2% from his left eye. His right eye allows light in but nothing more. His path changed, too. Even so, he graduated with a PhD in psychology and went on to enjoy working with disadvantaged youth. He made a difference in many lives and helped improve the future of those children. He learned Braille, the cane and had a guide dog in college. He became depressed, too. More importantly, he was determined to keep going. He got angry, yet stayed determined. Then, he found his peace. I share that story with you to encourage you. We all have dreams and yours is a worthy one. Why is being a surgeon so important? Break it down to the reason that it is important and find another way to express it. Maybe it is that you like the idea of healing, especially healing someone quickly. How else can you do that? Learn about food as medicine and heal them for their entire life. Others have mentioned healing with the mind. I’m a ICU burn/trauma nurse who suffered a back injury and became unable to work at the bedside. I understand the focus on health and helping others. There are many ways for you to help others. We change course when needed and maybe, just maybe it’s for our best. Something big is in store for you and your future as well. I can feel it.
HaRabbiAtta2 points2y ago
I feel your pain. I didn't face a medical degree, though I had other plans and the strain of too much reading during the degree worsened my vision.
Don't feel alone, there are many, many others in your situation and there is ALWAYS another path, even if it's not clear at the moment. Stay strong, you've worked so hard until now - shift focus and continue onwards.
<3
sadruleanblue [OP]2 points2y ago
<3 Thank you for the encouraging words. <3 I think the strain of studying my whole life contributed to the development and rapid progression of my glaucoma as well... And yes I'm straining my eyes to read now and its so tiring- I could previously study quite a lot of pages in a day effortlessly but now even reading one page gives me intense headaches and I have to rest :( Did you continue with your degree or take a break just curious?
HaRabbiAtta1 points2y ago
I had to quit my attempts for higher education. I tried OrCam and another Camera attached to a laptop, to read and view the board. ADD and the eye deterioration just drained me too much - especially, as I was doing English and history, which required tons of reading.
At the end, I did a small course on Community Management, run a small one and tried building a business (failed, though not connected to my disability). I currently work, on social media, takes tons of time but my managers know I'm doing a good job and the business isn't in a hurry, so it's going good, for now.
siriuslylupin61 points2y ago
I think with perseverance anything is possible and fighting the system is important. Trying to keep at it.
carolineecouture1 points2y ago
I'm sorry you are dealing with this. If you aren't speaking to someone about this please do so. I want to encourage you to think of other possibilities. Do you have access to any vocational or social services? I was born with Glaucoma so my vision has always been limited. I was able to finish school, get a Master's degree and find work that is rewarding. Give yourself some space and time to process. Good luck.
PsychAce1 points2y ago
Switch to psychiatry. That's a easy decision. I'm legally blind here in the U S. I'm applying for clinical psychology PhD programs right now.
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