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Full History - 2020 - 11 - 18 - ID#jwks95
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Look with your hands not with your eyes! (self.Blind)
submitted by viceroywaffles
My husband is sighted and I'm visually impaired. I find myself yelling this across the house when he says we're out of X when I KNOW we definitely have it, but it won't be in direct line of sight for him.

Do you live with sighted people? Is there anything you think they miss because of an overreliance on vision?
MostlyBlindGamer 22 points 2y ago
I have the opposite issue. "We're out of X." "Did you look in the drawer?" "I assure you I was all over the drawer."
guitarandbooks 18 points 2y ago
My partner and I are both totally blind. Her family are all sighted so when people come over, things get left out, moved around, put away in places we would not put them away etc. It's really annoying! They just don't think about it and it drives us nuts!
Real_Space_Captain 9 points 2y ago
I’m partial sighted but this drives me nuts!

What’s funny is my paternal grandmother is fully blind (genetic blindness) but it’s almost as if he kids are so use to her blindness they know how to put stuff away but they don’t think about explaining it to their family. Every Christmas my mom would have to put away everyone’s dirty shoes because she knew it was a disaster in the making. Or she’d require all of us to clean up our wrapping paper immediately so my grandmother wouldn’t slip on it.
Meanwhile her own son, my dad, wouldn’t even think twice. Just chuck his shoes in a closet and never think that others wouldn’t know to do it.
bondolo 12 points 2y ago
Goes both ways in our house. Despite being the sighted person I am actually better about putting things away in a consistent location but I am also lazy about not labeling the booze, cleaning supplies, spices, etc. I also just accept it that I am supposed to know, from memory, where basically every item in the house can be found. I do visually miss items that are "right there" all the time, last night it was the potato masher. I am also frequently summoned to locate items that turn out to be exactly where they are supposed to be, such as unsalted butter in the freezer which is on the rightmost side of the top shelf of the door.

Seems totally normal, but also one of those topics that dwelling on it too much would just cause needless strife.
That-One-Red-Head 10 points 2y ago
My husband loves to answer me non-verbally. I am constantly telling him that I can’t hear the brains rattle in his head. I need a verbal answer.
bradley22 5 points 2y ago
I've had this happen to me and it kind of annoys me, I need a verbal response.
That-One-Red-Head 5 points 2y ago
I only have a mild visual impairment. It is corrected by contacts or glasses, but when I don’t have my contacts in, I am legally blind. Sometimes I wish people could see what I see. Then they would understand. It is hard to explain it to them. Especially cause my vision is currently correctable. They don’t understand that I can see them from a certain distance at this time, but not this time.
bradley22 4 points 2y ago
Yeah, it can be hard to explain things to people who don't have your disability.
UnladylikeMe 6 points 2y ago
Being visually impaired, I personally have excellent, yet sensitive hearing. However, compared to me, the rest of my family is deaf. They turn the TV up really loud, along with radios, and music, and it hurts my ears. But if it's at a comfortable level for me, they can't hear it. It's not relying too much on vision, but it is one thing I have noticed. Along with them sucking at blindfold games. They rely on sight of course, so during blindfold games like pin the tail, pinatas, Marco polo, and Deadman, they look like headless chickens , running around aimlessly. Lol. I love my family.
rp-turtle 5 points 2y ago
I say that all the time. It’s also why I’ve become the master of finding lost objects such as keys, wallets, remotes etc.

Sighted people usually do a quick visual scan and if they can’t find it, they give up and say the items lost. They may also move a single item and expect whatever they’re looking for to magically be directly under that object they moved. I usually just make some joke about who’s really the blind one around here or sarcastically say something like, “ugh living with blind people is so annoying because you folks can’t ever find anything” which usually gets a laugh from them. I’m also always the most organized one in the house too so that helps.
sk1ttl3s 4 points 2y ago
Okay but serious question, because honestly i still can't figure out out. I'm 'fully sighted' I mean my eyes suck but they work in comparison to my husband.

However my partially sighted husband is still effin amazing at finding things. Like unreal, I kid you not my mom lost her keys at the college campus at night (pitch black out) in 5 inches of snow and he still found them. HOW? I chalk it up to he's amazing and forever I will rely on him for that. I'll never leave because I need him to find me stuff.
MostlyBlindGamer 4 points 2y ago
Your first instinct would probably be to look visually scathe snow, which you can't do in the dark. Mine, and maybe your husband's, would be to scan over it with my feet around the area the keys were dropped.

Sighted people often have a hard time plugging cables into computers. So twist themselves into a knot to look behind the computer or under the desk. I just feel around with my hands and get it done very quickly.
Eriona89 3 points 2y ago
I'm visually impaired and my partner has perfect eyesight. He can be really messy especially in the kitchen. 'You don't want to put things where they belong after using it?' Be prepared for a million questions about where those things are.
DrillInstructorJan 3 points 2y ago
I didn't grow up blind, and I am completely unable to learn that if I don't put things in their allotted position, I will never find them again. My speciality is losing one of a pair of shoes.
cantmakemewearabra 2 points 2y ago
I had to chuckle at this. My husband and sons have perfect vision, I have very limited vision. They will be hollering that they can’t find the camera battery/shampoo/tin foil/cat, and every single time, I can go right to what they’re looking for, or tell them within a few inches where they will find it.

They are always amazed and say “how do you do that? You know where everything is!” Well, darlings, I put things back where they belong, every time. As for the cat, he’s 19 and purrs like a dump truck going uphill, so he’s easy to find.
siriuslylupin6 1 points 2y ago
Yes sometimes but my family is very dilligent and organized so not a lot of problems like that. I do have better senses but that could be a sensory.thing. So yeah. I also have good spontaneous reaction and very spacial so that could be it.
taversham 1 points 2y ago
I'm excellent at finding stuff in my friends' handbags. They spend ages looking through it to see their USB stick or keys or whatever, but doing it by feel is so much quicker.

Though for a while I had a lighter and a lipbalm that were exactly the same size, shape and feel, I constantly got them mixed up and would always have to check with someone sighted to make sure I didn't moisturiser my cigarette or set my lip on fire.
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