It sounds to me like your biggest problem is not your blindness, but your feelings towards it. Describing dating as an “almost impossible situation”, calling yourself a responsibility and abnormal would push people away even if you could see perfectly. The only difference between us and someone who can see perfectly is our eyes. You’ve still got a mind, still got a personality, still got a heart, and if you’re talking about finding love, those are the things people are going to be looking for, not how well you can see.

I completely lost my vision when I was 16. Before then, I hadn’t dated anyone, because I thought nobody would want some skinny kid with thick glasses. After I lost my sight, those insecurities only got worse. I was embarrassed, thought I was a burden, etc. But I got some really good independence training, adapted to my situation, and honestly am more confident in myself now than I ever was when I could see.

I don’t want to seem like I’m bragging, but I honestly attract more people than a lot of my sighted friends do. Not because I have some magic seduction trick, but because I don’t treat myself as different. I carry myself and interact with other people like anyone else. My disability is part of me, but I am not my disability. I’m just myself, and once people see your personality, the cane in your hands won’t matter. If you act like you’re a burden and a responsibility, then other people are more likely to see you that way as well. This is true for so much more than just dating, and is true for people who don’t have a disability. Remember, I had more trouble dating before I lost my sight than I did after.

There’s really not much of a difference in dating someone who is blind versus someone who is not. You can’t drive, you might need to hold their arm in unfamiliar spaces, and you might need them to read or look at things for you sometimes. That’s nothing. You can still get around by yourself, you can still cook your own food, wash your own clothes. You don’t need them to feed you or wipe your ass or do everything for you. You can still love someone, can still be helpful, you can still have sex. You’re a normal dude, cooler even, because you do everything with your eyes closed. If you’re not confident in your ability to live independently, then seek out a good training program to hone your skills. Once you start really doing things and see how well you can adapt, you’ll automatically feel more confident.

I don’t want to lie to you. Some people will still look at your cane and see you as different. Some people might write you off as a potential partner because of it. Fuck those people, they’re wrong and they don’t matter. They’re the kind of people who only look on the surface, and dating them sucks and isn’t worth losing any sleep over. But if you’re just yourself, your personality will stick out way more than your cane does. You don’t have to be perfect either, I still have gaps in my training and my own insecurities about employment, relationships, and parenting. But I’m determined to learn and adapt, and am going back for more training this spring, so that I can be and feel as independent as I want to be.

I wish you the best of luck, the situation isn’t impossible, and you don’t have to feel so different from the people around you. If you want to talk more, my inbox is always open.

Firstly… Do you not try seduction sites. If you say things like that, no girl will ever want to be with you. The way to attract girls is to look for ones with common interests. Try to find a friend first. Join groups, clubs, or online chats with people who share the same values, interest, and hobbies as you. Don’t go on some bogus dating site that teaches you how to pick up chicks. I’m telling you, being yourself, expressioning interest and hobbies, is more likely to be of help. Treat them like any other person.

Hi. How are your interaction skills in general? As a girl dating other girls, I can tell you the rules aren't much too different for the opposite gender. Your ability to hold a conversation and interact with people successfully in general is the most important. Don't uh... don't ask for sex on the first date. Also, seduction isn't really a thing that works, except maybe for one night stands. If I were dating and looking for a long-term partner, "seduction" isn't the word I would use. I know us ladies seem scary and all, but we're not that bad. If you haven't dated before, know that you can't force things. Yes, you're dating someone, but for a while, they're still a stranger. Coming out immediately with your long-term goals is a good way to scare people off. Commitment is the biggest challenge in any relationship, romantic or platonic. Unfortunately, it's likely going to be a lot harder to find a partner willing to deal with your disability long-term, or even short-term. Dating disabled involves good interpersonal skills, situational awareness, and just a little luck. Also, some people really really really suck hard at dating. If it's starting to sound like dating is hard and a little bit crazy, congratulations on guessing correctly! Life partners on the first try are possible, but they're rare. Chances are you'll date at least a few people, possibly a lot of people, before you find the right one. Being Human, and being around other Humans is messy and a pain in the ass, but it can also be really amazing.

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Take my advice with a grain of salt. I had success, but I dated online and ended up with one of my friends. Honestly, dating a best friend that you want to be more than just friends with is a perfectly valid, and pretty good, strategy.

I find myself wanting to figure out what these seduction sites are all about. Do they work? Are there women out there daft enough to be taken in? Sad answer probably. But I would suspect that's not the right place to start.

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Ok, enough fooling around :) I'd say people have mostly already said everything there is to be said.

It sounds to me like you have an incredibly negative view on your blindness. How you gained that view I don't know, sadly it's quite common for people in one's environment to encourage this kind of mindset and it can be incredibly difficult to break out of. Difficult, but not impossible.

Here's a question that might put things into perspective a bit, how do you typically make friends?

Friends stick around you because they tend to like the person you are. The blindness eventually becomes just as indistinct as the fact you have two arms; it's just a thing about you that gets lumped in with all the other things that uniquely describe the person you are.

The same really is true for dating, I would say. Yes, girls can find people who aren't blind. But girls can also find people who aren't taller than 6 feet. Or who have a particular hair color. To each their own, really, and it's absolutely possible to find a person who will be able to look past the blindness for lack of a better word. I know it can seem like an insurmountable in-your-face always-there kind of thing, but to people who actually take the time to get to know you, it really doesn't have to be.

Disclaimer: I have had several partners both blind and sighted throughout my time in high school, college and beyond. It can be done, I promise :)

Have more self-confidence social skills will also help.

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I'm sure there are plenty of sites and books to teach you how to flirt and seduce but at the end of the day you cant change or hide your personality. Maybe you can't do much until covid has "passed" but I always enjoyed speed dating events, dating agency, mass dating events to be more fun and less pressure than trying to meet someone at a bar etc (I'm sighted btw). I never had much luck dating etc either but I seems like maybe you need to work on your own self esteem instead of trying to change yourself, and beliving a girl wouldnt like to date a blind person is more on you then on them. There is a UK dating agency that has disabled people as their clients. Channel 4 Undateables is a nice programme to check out