I understand where you’re coming from.

I live in the biggest city in my state- yes, we have public transportation, we have ADA accessible transit for those who need it.

However...the ADA buses do not run in certain parts of my city on the weekends. They do not go as far out west in my city as I’d like. Yes, I still can get to work during the week, but I’d like to enjoy going to other parts of the city during the weekend. It’s frustrating.

Sidewalks and the crosswalks are a joke here. I have been in contact with a mayoral candidate to discuss with him about improving this situation for us; because I can’t afford Lyft/Uber on a daily basis like some people. It sucks.

This one any paralysis, any severe multiple disability.

Dementia and similar are the worst saw many cases in my family and neighborhood too. No cure.
Spastic muscular and similar diseases saw cases with my own eyes hard to deal with pain scream at night when you can't help and docs too either. Person bounded to wheelchair permanently in painfully positions due to muscular spasms they can only scream.
Muscular dystrophies, SMA etc
Yes blindness is very disabling more than hearing loss (was in primary school many years with girl in same class with total hear loss apart with some social situations it was much easier manageable than other disabilities) she had no problems in school and then in choosing dream career comparing to others it was integration mixed class: healthy kids with disabled ones: autism like spectrum, on wheelchair, blind & visually impaired, diabetes etc

I had once symptoms for 3 years had problems walking that progressed to using wheelchair quite quickly, none really had time helping i was crashing downhill at parked cars with white cane in one hand on wheelchair it was school for disabled and blinf. Then problems with left side overall. Was lying in bed only 1 month of intensive physiotherapy from not moving at all to i was able to walk few meters again in hospital.
I had rare Plica syndrome, swollen inflamed knew and injured meniscus and other structures, side effects from some meds i regularly had to took at that time for 3 years found out with arthroscopy.

Oh yes! Deafness didn’t scare me until I got the blind diagnosis.

Yes! I feel for my daughter her VI wont be her biggest issue as she grows up and is an independent adult, her autism will be her biggest "problem"/dufficulty

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Do you have issues with verbal communication? You sound quite eloquent to me

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(In the event that you’re **not** a bored troll who created an account to post this)

I don’t know what you’re looking for here. You come into a subreddit community supportive of a disability and outright say that it’s better to be dead than be blind? You imply the community here are losers and incapable of any level of success. And then in a world where disabilities that have people in constant, agonizing pain, or trapped in their own unmoving body, or any number of others, you proclaim that blindness is the worst? Don’t come here projecting your own fear and insecurity.

Here’s the thing: yes, blindness sucks. Yes there’s trauma in loss of vision whether it’s slow or fast. People blind from birth have a whole different set of things I can’t speak to. But Disability only sucks if you let it suck. You get to interpret how you feel about it.

You were wanting to be a physician: $1. There are blind lawyers, blind teachers, blind athletes.

You were looking for “the good life?” You said it like being a doctor is a ticket to easy street. I don’t know what branch of medicine you want to be in, but blind or not you’re going to have to bust your ass and then when you’re retired you get a boat.

Honestly dude, blindness sucks but things can be a lot worse. Please reach out to a counsellor or a support group through your local blind advocacy organization. There is a ton of support out there to help you and there is no reason to not be successful. Your life is going to be different than what you planned, but plans change and we all have to adapt. It’s up to you how you do that.

I think it’s healthy acceptance.
At first I remember being upset, like this isn’t something I’m going to “get through” because even if I mentally get better I’m still going to be physically bad.

But then I remember there are people who are diagnosed with cancer at my age who may not get through it at all. And there are others with diseases that will render them bedridden or others who got in accidents that have left them severely paralyzed. None of this is a competition at all, but made me realize at a certain point everyone gets some terrible shit delivered to them, this is just mine; and mine just hits young and is pretty obvious.

I’m not saying it doesn’t suck and ruin some dreams, it really does. I worry everyday if I’ll have a job in the future, can I live in the city where I want, how can I manage watching after kids, etc. But what am I suppose to do? Stop trying? I guess I’ll figure it out step by step.

And that’s what a lot of people where are doing. They’ve been figuring things out and adapting so their lives aren’t as bleak as they felt they’d be when they first heard that diagnosed. And a lot of that figuring out is lamenting like this, complaining and ranting to your fellow community. It can help you in the end.

I hope you find peace in your disability.

In my humble opinion intellectual and other developmental disabilities can be far worse than blindness. As a blind, or in my case as a legally blind, I can still live mostly independent life just like anyone else.

That wouldn't be the case if I had a severe intellectual or developmental disabilities which could make it impossible to me to take care of myself, live independently or even express myself so that other people can understand me without too much trouble.

This is not to say that being blind is a cakewalk and it can surely ruin lives and dreams, like your dream of becoming a doctor. But you asked if the blindness is the worst disability. In my opinion there are disabilites which are much more unforgiving than blindness.

It needs time to accept that. The doctor told me I had to live dependent from others with autism the rest of my life. It took 3 years and therapy for me to accept it. But one can live a worthy and good life and help others and change the world not only with our disability sometimes even because the disability enables us to think differently about some stuff. Did you watch the video?

It sounds like you could benefit from speaking to a professional. You have a lot going through your head, right now, you you might need some help sorting it out.

There's as much shame in getting help with your mental health as the is with your vision or a broken bone - none at all.

I hope you feel better soon.

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