Firstly, I think you need to talk to someone, professional, peer support groups etc. Secondly is there any job you would want to do, can do, or have transport to, a hobby or activity you enjoy. As debilitating as blindness is, life can still be fulfilling

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You are not your blindness.

It's a challenge and it sucks, but I'd doesn't define you. Your actions can define you, though.

Talk to a mental health professional. Yellow to an occupational therapist. Find something to do with your time.

You don't have to be a loser. Remember the tortoise and the hare? The tortoise had a huge disadvantage, but it stuck it out and won in the end and so can you.

Hey. I just want you to know that its ok to be sad and depressed and lonely, especially when something so fundamental to your life is taken away from you. It doesn't make you a loser to react in the way you did. Its tough. But I want you to know that even if you don't get to become the medical professional you always wanted to be, and even though you can't see any more, that doesn't make you any less of a human being. Everyone here knows what being without sight is like in one way or another and we've got your back. I hope you will find a way to make your life fulfilling for you again, but whatever it is and however long it takes you to find it, please know you are not a loser.

A friend of mine has gone through what you're describing. He had a full scholarship for med school but had to drop out because of rapidly deteriorating multiple sclerosis. It took him about 5 - 6 years to get back to the point where he was healthy enough to pursue another interest.

We both met at College while studying for a Business Diploma. He has 2 Business Diplomas, a Bachelor's Degree and getting a post-graduate certification to specialize in supply chain and logistics.

First, learn to love yourself. Parents will come around when you believe in yourself and can find success. My parents were assholes too when I lost my vision. I had the mindset "fuck them. I'm gonna do what I want". Now I have 3 business diplomas and a bachelor's degree and getting ready for an MBA. Now they can't stop singing my praise.

Mine hated me from day 1. My dad “fought for me” even though he didn’t even want me. I heard I’m talking to my stepmom about giving me up for adoption. I would file for SSI and GTFO of there. Go no contact.

Maybe consider massage therapy? It still requires a lot of the patient-based skills you need as a doctor, earns a good wage, and all the work is done by hand. Just a thought. Hang in there, buddy. You’ll find your place.

It honestly sounds like your parents don't deserve to be in your life. You don't need this level of toxicity. You're currently coping with the loss of your vision and you don't need their stupidity on top of it all.
You can visit r/raisedbynarcissists and r/dysfunctionalfamily
For even more support because it sounds like your parents fill the description very well.

Your parents are shitty and the worst influence right now. You sound depressed and like you feel purposeless, and then telling you you’re a failure is both wrong and helps nothing. Get therapy please. Connect with your state’s department of vocational rehab if you haven’t already. They will be able to help you find a job, go back to school, whatever you want to do. 70% of blind people are unemployed not because they’re helpless, but many people don’t properly utilize the resources and training. available to them. Once you’re set up with voc rehab, they can help you get that training. The national federation for the blind has several 6 month residential training programs that are extremely helpful in learning the skills you need and changing how you view your blindness. 70% of blind people may be unemployed, but 80-90% of those who are have gone through programs like these. You’re not useless, don’t listen to your parents

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Yep, I can relate, and no longer have a family because of this. Sorry, but don't want to post anything more publicly, as it's all still pretty raw.

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Thankfully, and although they don't know this, after 3 years of hard work I'm finally doing decently financially hence am in a position to disown them right back. They don't know that, but that's beside the point.

I lost my vision almost 6 years ago. I had always felt like a burden to my family because I couldn’t drive and couldn’t go anywhere without asking for a ride.

I finally had a talk with my parent s and sister last night. They reassured me that I am not a burden to them.

I started dating someone who is blind and it changed my life. He has shown me it’s okay to be blind and how to adapt to this lifestyle.

My advice is to find your state’s council for the blind or any support groups to help deal with this.

Hi we are in the same position!! Please PM me. I'm third year med school but likely have to leave soon due to deteriorating vision due to uncontrolled juvenile glaucoma. In addition I am also losing my hearing to a currently undiagnosed inflammatory disorder. Yay me right. My (typical Asian) parents also resent me because they invested a lot in me and had high hopes - I was a high achiever since young and had big dreams (that were actually attainable! Until now) of specializing in surgery. Now they compare me to my siblings and cousins and their friends' children all the time and it makes me so sad because I could have been so successful if my body and eyes had let me.

Bro that professor has their head up their arse. There are four completely blind doctors out there. Listen to be my eyes podcast. Get in touch with your local nfb chapter. Don’t let this define or cripple your potential!

I don't have much advice about your parents, but I am blind and in the medical field (just a nurse aide rn, going for either EMT then paramedic or phlebotomist depending on if my joints deteriorate from genetic disorder) if you ever want to talk about that. I also know of a few blind doctors, mostly psych, and a deafblind med student in the UK you could look at.

As others have said, try to find help.

I don’t live where you do so can’t give you ideas but I hope you find something.

It might be a good idea to find a blindness place in your state, i’m assuming you live in America but if not, let me know, and they should be able to help you.

I previously had a totally blind psychiatrist, and that's something at least some of your credits could transfer to. But, regardless, when we say that you need help it's because we care, not to put you down. Blindness is not the end of your story, and you don't have to treat it like it is.

Your family is being incredibly unfair to you, and while one could be charitable and say that it's their way of dealing with a sudden change, it's more like them being assholes because they had a belief in how your life would go and you're deviating from that, even if it's not by your choice.

I hope you can get some help to become more comfortable with your blindness and maybe show your family that they're wrong about what you can do.