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I used the third person correction on a store employee (self.Blind)
submitted by mehgcap
At the shoe store yesterday, I was talking to the sales guy, explaining what I was looking for. He then turned to the person who was with me, who was standing far off to the side and not interacting at all, and asked, "What sort of style is he looking for?" I was, of course, rather annoyed. Before I could stop myself, I answered, "Oh, he doesn't care that much about the style."
I thought about it, and figured that I'd have done the same thing even if I'd taken the time to consider how to handle this. Having someone talk to a person with me, about me, isn't something that happens to me often, so I'm not used to dealing with it. Still, what I did worked.
Comment if you'd like, but I just wanted to put this somewhere people would understand what happened. I'm not second-guessing my reaction, or looking for support. Maybe someone will even get a chuckle out of it.
Edit: Thanks for the awards! I didn't expect that.
I thought about it, and figured that I'd have done the same thing even if I'd taken the time to consider how to handle this. Having someone talk to a person with me, about me, isn't something that happens to me often, so I'm not used to dealing with it. Still, what I did worked.
Comment if you'd like, but I just wanted to put this somewhere people would understand what happened. I'm not second-guessing my reaction, or looking for support. Maybe someone will even get a chuckle out of it.
Edit: Thanks for the awards! I didn't expect that.
SLJ7 15 points 2y ago
Honestly, this is the right thing to do, IMO. You were talking to the employee and they still tried to address the person next to you. At that point, it's extremely rude and they should know better. Nice quick thinking.
Real_Space_Captain 15 points 2y ago
Ha! I like it. How did the guy react? Did he apologize or just get flustered?
I know people do it out of ignorance but they won't stop unless they learn, and what you did was a short quick solution that also gave some entertainment.
I know people do it out of ignorance but they won't stop unless they learn, and what you did was a short quick solution that also gave some entertainment.
mehgcap [OP] 10 points 2y ago
He didn't say anything about it, but neither did he repeat the action. I guess it worked. Hopefully, it was an effective solution, and not something that just made him think I was being a jerk.
Myntrith 8 points 2y ago
This often happened with my mom when I took her for doctor's appointments. The doctors and nurses would start addressing me with questions about her, and I would remind them to ask her. I would only intervene when she did actually have trouble communicating, or when there was something she would forget to mention.
I also found it disrespectful. She's right there. Talk to her.
I also found it disrespectful. She's right there. Talk to her.
Apocalyptias 5 points 2y ago
This happens so often with me and my wife. She's fully blind, and a lot of the time people will address me with questions and things about her and what she wants. All you need to do as the non-blind partner is to ignore these questions and keep looking at your partner and wait for them to answer!
But it's still very annoying!
But it's still very annoying!
Riyeko 4 points 2y ago
Usually when im with my best friend and someone does this (hes blind as well), i make an effort to look at my phone and ignore the questions.
My friends more aggressive in that department so he will blatantly ask the person, what, you think SHE knows me better than myself?!
Always embarasses them.
My friends more aggressive in that department so he will blatantly ask the person, what, you think SHE knows me better than myself?!
Always embarasses them.
vwlsmssng 3 points 2y ago
> ignore these questions and keep looking at your partner and wait for them to answer!
My technique too!
Usually the sales assistant twigs and adapts quite quickly.
My technique too!
Usually the sales assistant twigs and adapts quite quickly.
petite4eyes 5 points 2y ago
What a degrading thing of that salesperson to say. Good for you for that comeback.
NovemberGoat 3 points 2y ago
Long long ago in the before time, I was waiting in line at a nightclub with a friend. When it came our turn, the bouncer asked my friend "Does he have an I.D?"
I replied to him "Yes he does. Would you like to see it?"
"Yes please," the bouncer said reflexively.
"Okay," I smiled back at him, "then you'll have to ask him for it."
We got on quite well for the rest of the night. New door personnel might not always know how to handle the security logistics of a blind guy entering a club, and I completely understand that. Interactions like this can serve very well as shorthand for how I'd like to be treated across the night. When we could still go to clubs, I always made it a habit to go out on my own and chat with bouncers at least once or twice when the door was less busy. The more friendly and familiar I was, the less trouble I got from staff who didn't understand.
I replied to him "Yes he does. Would you like to see it?"
"Yes please," the bouncer said reflexively.
"Okay," I smiled back at him, "then you'll have to ask him for it."
We got on quite well for the rest of the night. New door personnel might not always know how to handle the security logistics of a blind guy entering a club, and I completely understand that. Interactions like this can serve very well as shorthand for how I'd like to be treated across the night. When we could still go to clubs, I always made it a habit to go out on my own and chat with bouncers at least once or twice when the door was less busy. The more friendly and familiar I was, the less trouble I got from staff who didn't understand.
80percentaccurate 3 points 2y ago
Awesome! Quick, and witty!
magouslioni690 3 points 2y ago
It always happens to me, don't know if it's because of my age or blindness.
MaybeAnIdiot2 2 points 2y ago
I'm hard of hearing, and this is doubly maddening because a lot of times, (especially in noisy environments) I actually do have trouble communicating. It's just not for the reason they think.
siriuslylupin6 1 points 2y ago
I’d just be a bit gentler and nicer.
Winnmark 1 points 2y ago
Chortle.
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