is it offensive/generally fucked up to wear an eye patch if you’re not blind in either eye(self.Blind)
submitted by insomniac-koala
like. for the aesthetic. i want to start wearing an eye patch for the aesthetic, but i don’t want to do it if it’s fucked up/offensive/appropriation etc
Edit: this got a lot of responses really quickly! i really appreciate everyone sharing their points of view, there’s a definitely a whole spectrum of opinions but based on what y’all are saying i’ll definitely skip it. it would make me uncomfortable knowing that other people aren’t comfortable with it, so thanks for the feedback! i appreciate you guys :)
eddie_the_shit11 points2y ago
That sort of thing makes social situations more difficult for those of us who wear them for medical reasons. iI causes people to question the necessity of a piece of medical equipment. I'm convinced it's why I hear so many pirate jokes when I don't have my guide cane with me.
Edit: Think of it this way - Would you use a wheelchair simply to look like Professor X? That's not meant in a hostile tone, just an analogy to add some perspective.
DrillInstructorJan-1 points2y ago
I guess someone might cosplay professor X at some sort of event, in which case I (as a non wheelchair user) would have no issue with it.
I think no matter what you do with this stuff someone will be pissed off and most likely not the people apparently targeted.
juswundern3 points2y ago
You’re literally responding to someone who wears an eye patch who is offended by it... and your conclusion is that the targeted ppl don’t care? Lol what
DrillInstructorJan-1 points2y ago
I think most of them don't, as we've seen in this thread. I mean I wouldn't necessarily do what's being suggested here, but I don't think refraining from it is going to save anyone from pirate jokes.
juswundern1 points2y ago
Plenty of the ppl commenting here who wear eye patches are saying it’s offensive, though. You replied to one. It seems you’re just seeing what you want to see.
WarHamster40k10 points2y ago
Medically: for a couple of hours during a costume party, fine. However, wearing it persistently for aesthetics carries the risk of amblyopia (lazy eye). It's treatable, but it's akin to getting carpal tunnel for having intentionally bad posture.
Socially: risky. It can easily lead to assumptions from people. Most people wear eyepatches for specific reasons (empty eye socket, recovering from physical injury, surgical recovery, etc.), so many people may treat you and your surroundings like you might need help so they might "try to be nice" and offer unsolicited assistance. When the help becomes unnecessary and under false pretenses (even though you didn't explicitly say it was needed), people can quickly get irritated and respond accordingly.
While most people won't try to "audit" the perceived disability, things may go very bad if they do. Even if you never claim a vision loss, the risk will still be there because of social assumptions. While not a 1-to-1 comparison, imagine someone putting a service animal harness on a dog because they thought it would look cute. Some might like it, some might not but not say anything, some might not and proceed to vigorously tell you. If you weighed the risks and still chose to do it, that's... your choice.
Edit: something that occurred to me later on... It leads in to how many times VI people get accused of falsifying their disability. Even if you never say it's for a disability, it leads back into the assumptions mentioned earlier. Even if they never ask/accuse you, they'll "remember this" a la TellTale Game, biasing their later interactions with VI people. "Is this one like that eyepatch guy, too?"
insomniac-koala [OP]2 points2y ago
these are super super good points that genuinely did not even occur to me, thank you so much for pointing them out!
Pacificem7 points2y ago
I lost most of my vision in one eye in 2017 and initially wasn’t sure if I would wear an eyepatch or not. It seemed to help when I would look at a computer screen but no one could tell by looking at me that I couldn’t see and eventually my brain started compensating so pretty quickly I gave up the patch. Before doing so I ordered a ton of eye patches online and found there we’re all kinds of different communities of people who wore patches for different reasons - some did it as part of a cosplay or as a fetish thing or even to support a relative (such as a parent wearing a patch to support their kid). I was fascinated by all the subcultures (and by extension all the designs) but certainly never insulted! If anything, normalizing patches is likely to decrease the stigma and make it more comfortable for those who have to wear them!
The only thing I can think about why it would be a problem is if you are doing it to get sympathy by pretending you have a vision issue or if you are actually mocking someone with a vision issue (I hope neither of these are the case!).
Karl_the_stingray1 points2y ago
I'm completely blind in one eye, I can see whether there is light or not but that's about it. I've been thinking about wearing an eyepatch when I have my lens in my good eye(I wear around -10 glasses most of the time), but I'm hesitant because what if it fuck my eye up even further(Unlikely, but still) and I'm kind of scared of being laughed at
I don't need it, unless signaling to others "Hey, I can't see from this eye, sorry if I bump into you" counts hahah
insomniac-koala [OP]1 points2y ago
okay yeah that totally makes sense. i’d definitely never ever pretend to actually have any sort of vision issue beyond my glasses, let alone mock anyone for having one! i just think it looks really cool
rose_moons6 points2y ago
Uhhh, i had to wear an eyepatch as a kid to fix a squint that affected my vision and i hated it and people made fun of me for it, and people wearing one now for the ‘aesthetic’ doesn’t sit right with me
Karl_the_stingray1 points2y ago
Shit they made me wear a medical eyepatch as a kid too! But they put it over my good eye so I would learn to look from my bad eye. I ended up just looking through tiny holes whenever I could because my bad eye can only distinguish if there is light or not hahah.
4humans2 points2y ago
I’d be more concerned about damaging my vision. Patching an eye weakens the muscles that control the eye and can result in amblyopia or even exotropia/esptropia
80percentaccurate2 points2y ago
As you can see from the responses you’ve gotten already, you’re going to get a spectrum of responses ranging from people thinking you are being offensive to people thinking it’s cool. Keep in mind that eyes are very good at adapting. If you wear an eye patch too often when you don’t actually need one you run the risk of weakening the vision in the eye you are covering. This could cause blurred vision and headaches that last even after you take the eye patch off. You will also lose depth perception when you have an eye patch on as well so be careful extra careful around moving things for trips and falls. In my opinion the risks outweigh the benefits unless it was for a short period of time and even then you’ll run the risk of some people finding it offensive.
Karl_the_stingray2 points2y ago
I should probably ask my doctor about it, but I'm pretty much completely blind in one eye. I can see very little(Existence of light, everything is a large blurry shape), certainly not enough to function in an unfamiliar environment, and as far as I know there is no way to cure it right now. Would it have any potential of damaging it any further if I wore an eyepatch over my bad eye? It's been this way since I remember and majority of the time I don't use this eye at all, I even squeeze it shut sometimes.
80percentaccurate2 points2y ago
Ohh! That’s totally different because your vision is already affected in that eye. In my opinion that wouldn’t be just for looks. I would check with your doctor first though just to make sure it won’t affect your vision in that eye more.
siriuslylupin61 points2y ago
Why do you want to do it anyway? What do you want to achieve haha! Be a one eyed pirate or something?
Tooya7771 points2y ago
hi im visually impairred with less than 2 degrees vision. heres my thoug. only an idiot with no self esteem and who is sensitive way beyond reason would be offended by somebody wearing an eyepatch. i hate people that tiptoe or act different around me. i also engage in lots of blind jokes because way to many visually impaired people crutch themselves with oversensitivity and choose to find more negative than positive in life. wear that eye patch for a whole week even. with that kind of over sensitive tiptoing logic what are we gonna come to, one day we wont wear shoes or w/e in fear of upsetting an amputee? its really dumb. if somebody gets offended by that eyepatch ignore their anger, they probably need a real friend, and you can try and approach then to do so if youre interested (you dont have to people should also learn to tand on their own feet and find srength and confidence)
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as one commenter said the prolem is with people assuming things. as a blind person that means theyre imprinting their own biases on other people and making a rule that everybody should follow because they are not confident in themselves. and while you may want to avoid people feeling upset, guess waht theyre gonna face it one day or another, but at the end of the day its an issue they need to work on themselves and learn to stop assuming everything is out to get them. i know its one thing said but my lf=ife has been hard since i was a child, even before losing my vision.
Envrin1 points2y ago
Well, I'm blind, so turns out I wouldn't be offended at all, because I wouldn't even know. :)
Terrablade591 points1y ago
If you are blind how did you know how to even comment this? Or read the responses at all?
philosopher_raccon1 points6m ago
Ever heard about Braille script?
lizwb1 points2y ago
As someone with some VI, who has had, at times, to wear one... what possible aesthetic could you be looking to achieve by wearing one? (Sincerely curious.)
Because I’m thinking there are probably a lot of alternate ways to achieve that aesthetic.
For instance:
• steampunk glasses with drop-down dark lenses • Kill Bill stylized clothing • pirate shirts/velvet jackets
Etc
grinchnight142 points2y ago
Slick Rick cosplay lol.
sixkumbastard1 points2y ago
on a side note, some pirates wore eyepatches on one eye so they would already br accustomed to the dark when heading below deck
AchooCashew1 points2y ago
I’m not sure, but you’ll get the majority of people assuming it’s for a valid medical need. Also you can really mess your vision up doing that to yourself, both while wearing (depth perception loss, dangerous driving) and long term.
SanathTheToad1 points2y ago
I think it depends on the eyepatch. Like don't wear a medical eyepatch if you are not blind. (I mean why would you). But if you want to wear like a pirate style eyepatch then no one should feel that offended. They'll probably find it funny :)
ratadeacero0 points2y ago
If you want to wear an eye patch, do it.
honestduane-7 points2y ago
Yes. If you do this you are breaking federal laws.
As a person with only one eye I would consider it unprofessional enough to report to HR and if this was outside of work, I would report them for illegally claiming a disability they did not have anyway since in America this is a felony.
LaurenRossy14 points2y ago
Wtf? There is such a difference between wearing an eye patch (like a pirate one) with aesthetical purposes only, and faking a disability. Some people wear glasses just for aesthetical purposes only, too.
honestduane-1 points2y ago
Hollywood has legal exceptions for the art they create; but if you go around wearing an eye patch for no reason other than because you want to look cool then you are effectively insulting everybody who only has one eye, and as somebody who only has one eye I would take offense and consider you a dick who was intentionally pretending to have a disability to abuse the rights of people who are disabled.
Pretending to have a disability is a crime. Its also something only a terrible person would do.
LaurenRossy10 points2y ago
It is not a felony, get offended if you want. Wearing it is no felony😘
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keefklaar1 points2y ago
>I do not see the problem brother.
You are not blind or VI, how would you know?
Would someone going round in a wheelchair for the 'aesthetics' be ok too?
Or maybe using a long cane to 'look cool'?
VI is a medical condition, not a fucking fashion statement.
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