First, I really love that you're willing to practice all this now. You seem to be motivated and excited to learn how to do things independently, which is great and will serve you well. Keep it up.

A lot of what you said is just practice. For instance, vacuuming is a lot of back and forth, listening for debris being sucked up. Use overlapping lanes so you don't miss parts of the floor, and go over areas until you hear no more debris so you don't have to do the whole room again. You will miss spots, your lanes will be off, and the detail work will be hard. Maybe consider paying a cleaner a few times a year just to get the bits you miss.

I'm not big on cooking, but only because others in the house honestly enjoy it, and I don't, so I let them do it. I can cook, though, so it's quite doable. You just have to do it a lot. Get used to how a cooked burger feels when you push down on it with a spatula, or how onions smell when they're cooked enough if you're sautéing them. As others have said, start with things that are safe if not cooked right. I'd also add that you should try meats, and have someone verify they're done so you can get used to the feel. A talking thermometer is a great tool to have, too.

Smart lights are good if you forget to turn them off. You can put them on motion sensors, have them turn off at night, have them turn off n minutes after going on, and so on. I use Homekit for this, but there are other platforms out there if you don't use iOS.

I recommend using a rice cooker for cooking! My rice cooker also has large, dedicated function physical buttons that click and beep when pressed, so it's easy to know what setting you are on. And it can do a lot more than just cook rice!

When I first lived by myself I was not comfortable using the stove in my apartment, so I used a rice cooker for a lot of cooking. You can put the rice (I used a dedicated measuring cup in the bag of rice so I wouldn't have to search for it every time) and filled the correct amount of water (say, 2x the same measuring cup used for the rice. Might need to play with this ratio for the kind of rice you have), and put the rice cooker's steamer basket on top with mixed vegetables. Big bag of frozen mixed veggies from Sam's or Costco works great, or cut/prep your own if you are comfortable with that. Season to taste. One button, and it will be ready in 40 minutes.

As for meat, some rice cookers have a sear option. So, a bit of oil in the bottom, one button, let it heat up, throw in the meat, don't touch for a couple minutes, turn once with tongs to get the other side, leave another couple minutes on that side. Take it out, put the rice+water in (no need to clean the pan - the stuck on bits will help flavor the rice) and put veggies and seared meat in the steamer basket. I would try to keep them separate but it will all cook with steam as the rice cooks so it's OK either way. When it beeps it will stay on a "keep warm" setting, I leave it for like 15 minutes to cool down, then serve up and dig in. 1 pan to wash (the rice cooker pan), plus the steamer basket, and any utensils/bowl/plate. I would get leftovers for lunch the next day too.

You can also use it for breakfast, same idea: put oatmeal in the rice cooker + correct milk amount and press the button for oatmeal. I would do this before showering and it would be ready when I was done.

Also, the robot vacuums, I have used a couple different ones, one roomba and another from another company. Both worked on hard floor and carpet. The difficulty is when it gets stuck somewhere hard to reach, under the bed or couch. Sometimes it would run on a schedule while I'm out of the house, and it would die or get stuck somewhere and I wouldn't know where it is for days.

I would suggest a roomba, slow cooker/crockpot. Label where on a dial with 3d sticker or colour sticker the settings used the most. Get a Google home hub and smart bulbs for turning them on and off. Also starting off cooking, how about meal kits to get practicing where most of the prep is done for you until you get your skills up

I used to work at the Carroll Center for the Blind, and they have a whole program that teaches VI people how to do these things. I didnt work in that department, but it's a really good program, and people come from all over to go to it, so you might want to look into seeing if your state's commission for the blind would pay for you to go to that kind of program (or their summer camp for 'kids approaching college age' which is really cool)

I also have a VI teenaged child who I'm teaching to do these things and for dishes and vacuum stuff, I find it's most effective to do a pattern that you know covers everything. Which can be tricky when you can't see it, but it's just muscle memory after you get into a good habit.

For the lights, we have Phillips Hue bulbs in some rooms and Phillips Wiz (much cheaper and just as good) in other rooms, and "Alexa, turn off all lights" is the end of the day routine.

For dials and buttons we've had to use bump dots (like on the microwave) and puff paint/fabric paint to create "markers" on the stove dials, I put lines on low, medium and high so she can feel where they are. Next time I buy a microwave, I'm going to get the Amazon Basics one because it's also compatible with Alexa. I haven't done much research into it, but I feel like there has to be a toaster oven or even a regular oven that you can use with Alexa too.

I also like to have her use a pan with a flat bottom and high sides when she cooks because that tends to keep things IN the pan even if you can't see, and use a wooden spoon to scoop toward the middle and then flatten out when she's frying and sauteeing things.

no-one's yet mentioned lights.
We have smart bulbs on timers and a couple indoor motion sensors. For outside again it's timed floods, only issue with those is changing the batteries twice a year or so.

I would say training center is your best bet or you be like me and be thrown out in the wild Wild West and you figure out the stuff I had never had formal training parents didn’t let me do anything but I guess I had ideas and watching and then bam! I had to sink or swim so I swam but some people handle that extremely well and some don’t I figured it out and good at figuring that stuff out honestly. I had to had someone show me or talk me through laundry I had a basic idea just wasn’t sure how to work machine but after once or twice I got good at it.

Way to think ahead. As with everything, you just neeg practice. I cook, clean, and do loads of things independently. rice cookers, 'instant 'pots, and slow cookers can only get you so far. However, with practice, you can learn how to use a stove. Yes, you may burn yourself occasionally. However, with practice, it can happen less often. If you’re looking to control the temperature of the air condition unit in your home, you can invest in a Google nest thermostat. You can also look for any other thermostat that connects via Wi-Fi. You may need assistance in helping you getting that set up, but you’ll be able to control the temperature via your phone.

What is your level of functional vision? Kudos to you for thinking about these things now! Everything you’ve listed is totally doable. Since you’re thinking about it now, this will allow you to look at an apartment or house that suits your needs for the things you know you aren’t as good at compared to struggling as you are getting used to living on your own.

If it helps, know that it’s a big learning curve for anyone who is learning to live away from home. One of the most stressful things for me was alotting when I had to go to the dining hall to eat. I wasn’t even caring for a full home yet, but it stressed me out having to decide when to eat because I was so used to just going to the dinner table and having food there ready to eat.

If you are worried about dishes, make sure your apartment has a dishwasher which will help significantly. Make sure to rinse your dishes as soon as you are done using them. It’s much easier getting the dishes clean if the food remains don’t have time to dry on them.

For vacuuming a robot vacuum is really nice, but you have to make sure everything is picked up off the floor including cords it could get caught on.

If you don’t need lights for yourself maybe just have whatever light you would like for esthetics on a timer so you don’t have to worry about turning it off and on then have a light or two you turn on when people come over. You can always throw those lights on a smart switch to do it by voice if you want.

For cooking, I don’t think digital displays are very easy because they often have flat cook tops that can be difficult to line pots and pans up on. I like gas the best. You can easily align pots and pans. You either get heat or no heat. You can hear the amount of heat you have set and there is much more feedback than what you would have on other types of stoves. If that’s particularly scary right now though just use a George Foreman grill or crockpot instead. There are lots of options for cooking with those two pieces of equipment without ever turning on the stove.

I love your motivation. If you stay this motivated you’ll figure it all out no problem. You just have to get some practice in.

Are you working with a teacher? Cooking skills and dish washing are important, though you can make it easier with a dish washing machine. Vacuuming is hard, but I think sweeping is important and can help on uncarpeted areas. Do you have independent travel, workplace, etc skills?