It is a constant battle ... Those that love me often forget what I can and cannot do especially because in trying to avoid receiving well intentioned ableism I tend to just not remind them. It is sometimes emotionally worth it for me to experience the frustration of failure at doing menial tasks, than to once again point out that the task is beyond the ability that my lack of vision affords me.

Ultimately, I feel that it does not matter how much i express this awful feeling of being over-cared for, it is their way of expressing love for me. What creates an unhealthy situation is the codependency that arises when left unchecked.

I have no solution. I am still trying to work this out in my relationships too.

My boyfriend (I am gay) does this. I find this rather odd as I'm the one who can cook, plan things, hold my alcohol etc.

I would rather have someone not offer help when I actually do need it. I can always ask if someone can give me a hand. That's better than people offering all the time, especially just out in public.

The Man and I have discussed this a lot and he understands my point of view, but then again he knew me when I could see which changes the relationship. In the end there's no way of avoiding the fact that occasionally either I'm going to need help, or frankly it just saves massive amounts of time if I accept some help, and it is also inevitable that very often he will be the person who's around to do it. Most of the times he does that are unspoken and just normal by now, I don't like that but it's just life. The only thing that sometimes grates on my soul is when a work colleague does it. Doesn't matter if it's help I genuinely need, doesn't matter if they waited for me to ask and were totally okay about it. It's not them, it's me being a psycho and really I have no right to make them stand around while I make a point out of doing something myself that takes a hundred times longer.

So in short as far as relationships go, it's not an issue, but more generally sometimes it is. It's not an issue of vulnerability it's just a case of looking incompetent, like I can't look after my own life. It doesn't scare me, it annoys me.

Thankfully not. My personality isn't really the type that is receptive to that kind of thing anyway, some people are more passive, others are more assertive in their personality types.
If I was dealing with this though I'd just end it. Not really interested in being treated like a child after I've managed to move out of my parent's house. No thank you.

Unfortunately but if a romantic partner did this I would no longer date them or they would know that sometimes I need help but more times I don’t need care.

Family is trickier I am very assertive my methods is very super effective but have some side effects. Haha!

My sister met her husband in blind rehab center while they were both learning O&M and other skills. They both already knew how to cook, clean and iron before coming there. They bonded over their love of cooking. He knows how independent my sister is and he is too. They are so great and happy together.