It seems to me like you're definition of ableism is very narrow. It means discrimination against people with disabilities.

Not hiring someone because they're blind is very clearly discriminating against them based on a disability.

I don't think many people care too much about those normal words.

I don't care. I know my worth and I do not allow people to drag me down. I hate it when people walk on eggshells around me. That's why I'm usually the first to make a blind joke. I know people who use phrases like that normally mean no harm or disparagement and I have no interest in joining an unrealistic grand social crusade that gives no allowances for people to make mistakes or be human. I'm too busy kicking ass, taking names, and pursuing my happiness.

I personally think it is too pc but that’s just my opinion it’s hard to actually offend me. Personally I don’t get offended or see this stuff that way. It’s just phrases. Most people don’t mean them like people say they are meaning them and usually people don’t mean to degrade or denigrate at all. Usually people wasn’t meaning to offend in the first place.

I'd stay away from that sort of term unless there are some really specific circumstances.

If someone's done something dumb that causes you hassle and aggro, complain about that.

Don't make it political unless you want to be a politician. If you want to be a normal person getting on with life, deal with the problems you hit as you hit them. The only purpose of a word like "ableism" is to try to connect something someone's done to some hidden campaign against disabled people which is probably imaginary and if even if it exists there's no point in accusing random people of being part of it.

I recommend you try to read stuff about ableism from good sources, there are nice reflections on ableism beyond the surface. I'm sure folks can tell you where to start, I couldn't because I mainly read stuff in Portuguese.

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Here's how I see it, other people might have a different view.

Ableism to me has two forms: one of which is the one that you can probably understand from the get go and one which is a lot less understood. I won't go into the first one, failure to make adjustments/discrimination, because really it's kind of obvious and we could all provide a million examples of it. I will, however, talk about the other.

What I'm talking about is the belief that disabled people are less capable, intelligent or deserving of the level of respect that would generally be offered to a non-disabled person. This includes the belief that a disabled person can't make decisions (things being done for or on behalf of a disabled person without asking for their consent), disabled people being talked about rather than to (Does he take sugar?), unwanted and sometimes forceful offers of help (yes I know where I'm going, no I don't need your help, yes by grabbing my arm you have completely disorientated me, no I'm not thankful.) It also extends to things like civil society groups declaring something to be 'offensive' to x disabled community.

I am blind, which makes me officially disabled. I am not visually impaired, which makes me 'differently abled.' Yes my eyes don't work, yes occasionally I do walk into things, yes sometimes my blindness does lead to things happening that are likely pretty funny. I don't need sheltering from any of these things, and I've asked sighted friends 'are you fucking blind' in the past.