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How do I deal with parents blaming my deteriorating sight for my anxiety? (self.Blind)
submitted by Puzzleheaded-Chart86
My whole life I’ve had anxiety, not officially diagnosed but I know multiple people who are, who have said I definitely have anxiety. As well as losing sight my whole life, first discovered in late 2018. Ever since it was discovered, my mum has completely dismissed my anxiety, saying it’s just because of my sight therefore it’s not real and thinking it’ll go away once I’ve learned to deal with my current sight. At this point I’m going absolutely insane and I have no idea what to do about it
505Griffon 7 points 2y ago
I didn't know I had anxiety until late in life. I suspect my deteriorating vision, which I didn't know I had, didn't help with my confidence growing up. Always the last kid to be picked in gym class wasn't due to I was bad at sports but I couldn't see well. Makes some sense now.
Not sure your age, country or medical insurance, but take it upon yourself to get help with your anxiety. It took me a while trying some different meds until I feel confident and the constant fear and stomach issues stopped. For me it has helped to be a better parent and spouse. I'm more laid back and can roll with things better. I'm less fearful in general.
Treat your vision as a separate issue. For me its not going to get better. When you have some confidence you will be better able to deal with whatever changes take place. You will be able to accept reality more this way.
Not sure your age, country or medical insurance, but take it upon yourself to get help with your anxiety. It took me a while trying some different meds until I feel confident and the constant fear and stomach issues stopped. For me it has helped to be a better parent and spouse. I'm more laid back and can roll with things better. I'm less fearful in general.
Treat your vision as a separate issue. For me its not going to get better. When you have some confidence you will be better able to deal with whatever changes take place. You will be able to accept reality more this way.
kelpangler 4 points 2y ago
I think this is good advice, especially the part about making it your responsibility. Hopefully you are old enough and have the means to make some decisions.
blackberrybunny 3 points 2y ago
It sounds like a clinician would help. Some professional help. As in a therapist.
Okay, I'm not against meds. Been on plenty in my life for depression, anxiety, etc. But what REALLY helped me, was going to a center for blind people, and participating in their 6 month adult training program. These people were incredible, and taught me, and everyone else there, how to live a normal life as a blind person. I'm legally blind, my whole life... but they changed my life. NOT KIDDING. They taught me how to use a white cane, how to read Braille, how to shop with or without assistance, how to cook, clean, do laundry, everything, on normal washing machines, normal ovens, stoves, etc. But more than that, they taught me confidence and self assurance and self esteem. It sounds like this would help you right now. If you are legally blind, or totally blind, and live in the USA, you too can go to one of these centers. You don't have to live in that state. And your state will pay for it. Totally. You even get a stipend every month. Best thing I ever did! Want more info-- just msg me.
If you are serious about this, this is a way to get help without being tied down to medication. You will make friends, do challenging and fun activities like rock climbing or white water rafting. You will be gone for 6 months and it will prove to your mom that you are serious, and that this IS a serious situation.
Okay, I'm not against meds. Been on plenty in my life for depression, anxiety, etc. But what REALLY helped me, was going to a center for blind people, and participating in their 6 month adult training program. These people were incredible, and taught me, and everyone else there, how to live a normal life as a blind person. I'm legally blind, my whole life... but they changed my life. NOT KIDDING. They taught me how to use a white cane, how to read Braille, how to shop with or without assistance, how to cook, clean, do laundry, everything, on normal washing machines, normal ovens, stoves, etc. But more than that, they taught me confidence and self assurance and self esteem. It sounds like this would help you right now. If you are legally blind, or totally blind, and live in the USA, you too can go to one of these centers. You don't have to live in that state. And your state will pay for it. Totally. You even get a stipend every month. Best thing I ever did! Want more info-- just msg me.
If you are serious about this, this is a way to get help without being tied down to medication. You will make friends, do challenging and fun activities like rock climbing or white water rafting. You will be gone for 6 months and it will prove to your mom that you are serious, and that this IS a serious situation.
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